Escape or rescue.
What's this? Evacuation? Betrayal or caring for your family? The search for your happiness and your own fulfillment or salvation from persecution? How to call a person's desire to leave for Bulgaria from Ukraine, Russia or another country?
Moving to a country with a different mentality for your own personal reasons, which can be very diverse, is always gained by a person and no one has the right to judge him for such a decision? Especially ardent patriots, rogues, old farts and all other representatives of the Motherland, including those who are essentially restricted to leave and those who cannot leave. For various reasons.
All people want to live with dignity. No frills are needed for the bulk of thinking people. The minimum is to have food, a roof over your head, reasonable laws and the attitude of authorities and officials. Everything is simple. A person needs very little to be happy. Most are brought up that way. But if there is not even that, the most minimal, then a natural question arises - “Where is it better to live?”. Hence the whole system of emigration. It has existed since prehistoric times. Sapiens always migrated in the direction where there was food and shelter. The herds followed the leader. And individuals - leaders went on their own, leaving the herds and settled alone.
So now, emigration, like hundreds of thousands of years ago, makes individuals look for more on the planet. good conditions living in the Society for themselves, for their children and for their parents. And no laws can stop you from leaving in search of happiness.
A reasonable person is always looking for a better life for himself, his children, his parents. If he feels uncomfortable in his own country, then the thought of moving to Bulgaria, for example, is realized quickly. Makes a decision. comparing desires with opportunities. If there is even a small chance, then the desired becomes an achievable reality.
Desires do not come by themselves without forces capable of fulfilling them.
Observing the mentality of emigrants, I notice:
Normal people go to normal countries, find an opportunity to get a job, the possibility of recognition of their specialties and the opportunity to receive social support in the country of their new residence. USA, Britain, countries of the normal European Union, South America.
Others choose such countries where they can dump with a minimum amount of money. Sometimes without a specialty, without money, with the aplomb of an unsatisfied ego, with a lack of understanding about later life and the question - "What to do in a new country?" remains open, they do not go to normal countries and do not enter, they begin to settle in countries with the impossibility of finding a job and a complete lack of social support and assistance to new emigrants.
The minimum life support for an emigrant family of three in a new country cannot be less than 15-20 thousand euros (food - accommodation - study - dressing - cultural studies - travel and other items of expenditure).
These 20,000 euros a year must either be owned or earned. If you just have it, then the amount of imported stocks will inevitably tend to zero.
The minimum emigration entry to normal countries is either a large amount or the presence of a quirky mind that allows you to create a reasonable - real emigration legend and get a social package, study in the country and work.
The annual expenses for a family of three in Italy are already 30,000 euros, and in Scandinavian countries from 50,000 euros per year.
What remains is Bulgaria for emigration - a country with a small initial entry for a poor or penniless emigrant. The gentlemen and ladies from different countries, beautiful and good, but without money and capital, who do not know how to earn money, eat up what they brought, sit down on the most severe economy of everything and become embittered at those who managed to get better in Bulgaria.
What is good and what is bad in Bulgaria.
The inability to get a job as an emigrant is the main disadvantage that I see in Bulgaria. Or maybe laziness smog the applicant for a job.
Pros of moving to Bulgaria
Minimum emigration entry into the country (by money)
A wide list - who can get a residence permit in Bulgaria.
Quality and cheap food-accommodation in Bulgaria
Ease of opening and managing a business
Ease of country reporting
Low taxation of business in Bulgaria
Possibility to produce in Bulgaria and sell all over Europe.
The proximity of the language and mentality of the population
The conclusion is simple - open your own business in Bulgaria and stop whining, and start working and earning worthy of yourself. That's why we conduct seminars - "Opening and managing a business in Bulgaria" where we teach how to do everything right and develop, promote your business. How to find sources of passive income in Bulgaria. Other everyday questions - how to live or survive in Bulgaria.
Everyone chooses a country for life based on their capabilities. Maybe Bulgaria is a transit for someone, for moving to normal EU countries or the States. I know such gentlemen and ladies who applied for a residence permit in Bulgaria, lived here for a couple of years and advised newcomers, and then, having prepared the documents, they moved to America, Sweden, Canada. Age 50-55 years. And they live peacefully and normally there.
Later they told me how to move to the USA with a Bulgarian Personal Card and to Canada and Sweden. So in this topic, I act slowly.
To get settled in a new country, you need quite a bit:
1. Get status of residence
2. Settle, assimilate in the country
3. Find a job and use your skills
4. Create and open your profitable business
5. Quietly work and live in a new country
Life is Beautiful. Be kind, take care of yourself and others
Good country Bulgaria
Bouts of aggression. Leave or stay?
Hello. Sorry, I don't give my real name. It is very embarrassing to write, but help is urgently needed.
The situation is such that I am prone to attacks of aggression, during which I am afraid to kill my mother. The background is as follows - my mother married a man from prison, he drank and mocked us all his life (until my 39th birthday), all this fell on me as a child, but I carried this cross as best I could and was a support for my mother. Mother, in turn (yes, I blame, but without details the situation will be inaccurate) did not protect me from this person (I don’t want to call him father, because there are reasons for this).
When I had a serious opportunity to get married five years ago (in the USA), I could not take advantage of this opportunity, my mother was very conducive to this, she called the person a scoundrel, etc., although this person loved me (I think), even sent me money. He came on a visit from America, and wanted to come again to propose to me, but I rushed about like a caged animal - there was nowhere for me to receive him, and in December I considered it indecent to put him in a hotel, in general I got confused, ran in search of rented accommodation all over the area, the agencies answered that you need to pay a minimum of 3 months, and this was unrealistic, given that the person came for no more than 10 days. I was afraid to ask for money for 3 months from a man, I thought that he would not believe in it, and would think that I was a scammer and so on. The situation was aggravated by the fact that my mother brainwashed me every day, saying what a scoundrel he was (because he did not propose on the first visit and did not even talk about it). In general, I had a mess in my head, and I wrote to the man that our meeting was impossible and so on, but he did not end the relationship, continued to write, albeit with less enthusiasm, and even then sent me an invitation for a US visa, but The US Embassy denied me a visa. I didn't know, but they refuse all unmarried women a tourist visa, because. many do not come back, this was explained to me at the travel agency after, and they said that it was a deliberately losing situation when I applied for a tourist visa using an invitation from a man.
It all ended with the man leaving a few months after this refusal of a visa, and in the end he wrote that it was a sign for him - that they did not give me a visa, besides, according to him, he met a woman on the spot. I loved this man very much, the first time after his departure, I barely survived, only the fact that I believed (and hope that I believe) in God saved me from suicide. I really felt bad. I walked through the streets without seeing the road, I was almost crushed by cars and so on.
Now, 5 years later, God gave me a meeting with another person, and it seems that things are going to get married, but with delays, but the situation repeats itself, the mother uses any excuse to speak badly about our relationship, saying that I have nothing available , hints that this is all a lie, and so on. At the same time, a person has already come to me 2 times, and also helped with money and so on. In my opinion, he is very good man. But my mother, under the pretext of "warning" constantly pours poison into my soul, trying to distort my faith in the seriousness of this person's intentions. I understand that a mother (she is 76) needs care and attention at her age, she does not go grocery shopping on her own. But I don't want to devote my whole life to my mother, I absolutely don't want to, don't blame me. She can hire social services to bring and buy food, but she does not want to do this.
Yes, my mother is full now, But I am lonely and miserable without my own family and children. I am a woman, I want to be like everyone else, to live like everyone else, understand me, I cannot look at other people's children without a shudder, I want my own. I lost my time before my 40s (and probably already lost the ability to have children) by messing around with my mother, solving her problems with her drunken husband, and yes, today my mother is full, but that's because I lost my family with a man from America, and I loved him very much, for example, after 5 years, this morning, my heart ached with pain when I remembered him.
All I want to say is that my mother does not want to solve any of her problems, I think she does it on purpose. It is scary for her to stay in the same apartment with a man with whom she did not divorce in time (she felt sorry for him). And he hated her all his life, mocked her, drank, beat, and now, in her old age, of course, she is scared with such a person. I understand it, but I don't want to ruin my life. My mother agrees to move to me when I get married, it seems (but she understands that they will not immediately give a visa to another country for family reunification, they say it takes 5 years, and the mother probably suspects that she will not live). in fact she hinders me with everything possible methods, saying nasty things, etc. while she says she wants me to arrange my life.
I don't trust her anymore. She already betrayed me once, when I lost a man from America. And I think that she betrayed my personal happiness. Having no reason, she called a person names every day, poured all this dirt into my ears - in order not to be left alone.
Help me what should I do. Today after another portion of dirt, I almost killed my mother.
I already told her to stop being negative, but she keeps doing it. Silence, elimination on my part - nothing helps. It is worth talking, again using any pretext to say negative.
I'm afraid of going to jail, I really don't control myself in outbursts of anger.
I now have the option to go to another country now to this new man, he offered me. But the situation is such that he is in the process of divorce, and divorce is not a quick process there because of the division of real estate. He says that everything will be finally decided by the end of February.
Tell me, I really need your advice, should I go now, should I trust this man (what if he doesn’t marry me after his divorce? Will he only make me a mistress? There is always a risk. And then I will have to return here in disgrace) Or I should go anyway, because it's dangerous for me to stay here. I can go to jail.
Tell me, I don't know what to do.
I will be grateful for the advice, I will read all the comments, I will not be able to answer, sorry.
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On January 19, under the heading "Test of the pen" in "Rech", a tenth-grader Milana Bileva's article "I don't want to connect my life with Cherepovets" was published. Today we publish responses to it - members of the Youth Parliament of the city conducted their survey.
Ivan Evfits, 25 years old, member of the Youth Parliament of Cherepovets:
Guys can be understood. Naturally, at this age, when you are looking for yourself, your place in life, you are looking for prospects everywhere, including in other cities. It seemed to me that in Cherepovets I would not be able to fully realize myself. My opinion began to change after I went to the army. During the service he was in several Russian cities, communicated with colleagues. Understood: dissatisfied majority. Even Muscovites are dissatisfied. Some do not like the fuss and constant traffic jams, others do not like the lack of clubs and cinemas. It seems to everyone that "the grass is greener in the neighboring garden." At the moment I am 25. I have a profession, a job. I am married and have a daughter. I can infer recent years ten. I see how our city is developing. I see how kindergartens, schools, sports grounds are being built. Enterprises are being built that will provide new jobs. On a weekend evening, I can easily find what to do and where to go. It is impossible not to recognize the fact that Cherepovets is steadily developing in all areas. I do not urge young people not to leave Cherepovets. Everyone has the right to decide where his place is. Young people always left for big cities - ten years ago, twenty and fifty. This happens in every city. But someone will definitely return to his native Cherepovets, where he feels comfortable in every district and yard. Therefore, I do not think that a tragedy should be made from the desire of young people to leave. The city has something to keep us.
Aigul Kurbanova, 26 years old, member of the Youth Parliament of Cherepovets:
I suppose that moving from one city to another is a frequent and inevitable phenomenon.
Some of the young people will leave, others will come in their place. It is possible that there will be fewer arrivals than those who left, but in any case, such a movement is, perhaps, a natural process. The only thing that confuses me is the categorical statements of young people that they do not want to associate their future life with Cherepovets. It is not surprising to hear this from very young guys: maximalism, you want to embrace the immensity. The guys in the last years of the university and after training, probably judge less categorically. But, on the other hand, such a reaction of young people is a kind of litmus test, an indicator that young people see few opportunities in the city.
Even if the guys are wrong, the fact remains: many want to leave and leave.
In order to keep young forces in the city, it is probably necessary to create additional opportunities and show off those that already exist. I am not an expert, but I can assume that this applies primarily to jobs. Our city is called industrial for a reason. There is always more demand for technical specialties, and even more so in our city. It is sometimes difficult for humanitarians in Cherepovets to find a place with a decent salary. What can I say? I think that you should not be offended by the youth for this, you need to work with them, listen to them and hear them so that our Cherepovets is not left without young forces, without a reserve. It seems to me that the future of the city directly depends on this.
Alexander Bulygin, 29 years old, member of the Youth Parliament of Cherepovets:
At such an age, when you still don’t provide for yourself and you don’t have experience in independent life, when in fact you haven’t met maximalism and life difficulties in your blood, you can’t form an independent opinion! Hence the conclusion that the opinion is imposed by the environment: parents, the media, the Internet, where everyone is unhappy and where it is shown how and what is better in other places. My conclusion is simple: in order to avoid this, young people need to be shown what we have. Show that the city has opportunities for development.
Anastasia Aleksakhina, 18 years old, member of the Cherepovets Youth Parliament:
I love my city very much. Cherepovets is a "cauldron with opportunities", where you can realize yourself and your ideas, achieve some kind of status. The rule of six handshakes works well here: walking down the street, you meet a lot of acquaintances, and thus you feel the value of the place where you grew up. Yes, indeed, not all areas of education are in our city, and this causes an outflow of young people. Why don't they want to come back? Probably, the majority are in anticipation of the freedom and energy of the big city, which they could not get from us. This is a personal opinion of everyone - he wants to stay in his hometown or not. For me, for example, Cherepovets remains a priority. I am in love with this city and the people who live here. I have many relatives here, and although I am currently educated in St. Petersburg, I think I will return to Cherepovets. You can rush to other cities for new sensations, but having received them, return to your native places.
Daniil Yakunov, 21 years old:
Many schoolchildren have such stereotypical ideas about our city, because they do not see all the opportunities that are available in Cherepovets. As a rule, the best graduates leave. And there are people who are not motivated to progress. Rescued by ambitious guys from the regions who come to study with us.
Schoolchildren choose, in their opinion, a more attractive path, a more comfortable environment, instead of changing something for the better and creating comfort for themselves here. It is a mistake to believe that big cities are waiting for us with all their conditions. You need to plow a lot to realize your potential. And some do not stand up - come back. The capitals are more developed culturally. This is part of what makes them attractive.
I really liked the idea in the article about travel, mobility and the lack of attachment to the place of birth or to a big city. Such a position exists, but not for many it suits. A lot of courage is needed for this, since all patterns are crumbling.
I can't say with certainty that Cherepovets is the city where I want to live all my life. But in the next few years, I’m definitely not going anywhere, unless I have to leave for a master’s program.
After leaving school, I also had thoughts about leaving, there were the same stereotypical ideas. I like Peter, I applied there and even passed the competition, but at that time I was very conservative, I was afraid to take risks. And life circumstances told me that there was no need to leave. With all the merits of St. Petersburg, sometimes it seems to me that a big city is not for me: you can visit, but not live there.
Now I'm glad I didn't leave. I found and saw many opportunities in Cherepovets.
And with career guidance, everything changed a hundred times, I was disappointed more than once. By the time of admission, I had no special interests and inclinations, so I entered, one might say, by intuition, which eventually failed. But I managed to fix everything.
Alexander Chuprikov, 21 years old:
People aged 19 constructively described why they do not want to stay in Cherepovets, because there really are few opportunities in the city. But Moscow and St. Petersburg have long been filled with such guys. I doubt that they are all awaited there with great joy. I think you should do what you like and what suits you. The word "motherland" is abstract. I do not think that the homeland is where you were born. Homeland is where you feel good, where you feel needed and where you can realize your ideas and dreams. Everything else is imposed by society and stupid stereotypes. And teenagers at the age of 16 are maximalists. At this age, most want to leave.
I think that Cherepovets is a working-class city, so one cannot fully realize oneself in some special creative profession. If you stay, you automatically choose stability, which, in my opinion, is good, but not for everyone. The bigger the city, the more possibilities so everyone wants to leave.
Nazar Bochin, 11th grade student:
I thought about this question for a very long time. As a result, I made the following conclusion.
I will do my best to leave this city. But not because he is bad or not loved by me, but because I see my future in St. Petersburg.
I believe that in big cities there are much more chances and opportunities than in Cherepovets. Although, on the other hand, it to some extent depends on the person himself.
I want to study, work and develop in St. Petersburg. Certainly in free time I will come to my hometown. I grew up here, and all the brightest life events took place in Cherepovets. It was this city that gave me my friends.
Arkady Smirnov, 20 years old, member of the Cherepovets Youth Parliament:
I can say with confidence that approximately 350 - 400 students I know are not going to leave the city.
For example, the profession of a doctor is very difficult, but very interesting. In a medical school, there are high requirements for examination scores during admission. You may have to resort to finding an organization that could issue a target referral. And doctors without work experience are more in demand in cities like Cherepovets. Ambition must be backed up by opportunity.
dream about political career- this is good. But before becoming a person with political weight, you need to work for the benefit of people, and this is easier to do in your hometown, where you are known and can be supported. You need to decide whether you want to help or realize your interests. Undoubtedly, big cities are more active in the political sphere, but this is far from being the main part of our country.
Not all areas are implemented in local professional educational institutions, so the education of Cherepovets in universities in other cities is very positive. For example, the absence of book publishers is a chance to start a business without competition.
I would not be so categorical that for creative people in our city, self-realization is almost unattainable. If you wish, you can find yourself in the theatrical field. Undoubtedly, there are more such opportunities in Moscow, but the competition and requirements there are much higher. I consider Cherepovets a good start for a creative career.
Of course, many young people are attracted by travel to unknown and distant countries, the exchange of experience and emotions, but sooner or later we strive to go home - and that's good.
Everyone would like to wish good luck in realizing their goals and desires.
And do not forget that our city is full of opportunities and prospects for young people. Personally, I will stay in Cherepovets. I like this city and I want to make it even better.
Fedor Tarasov, 11th grade student:
The words "Cherepovets" and "Motherland" have long become synonymous for me. I was born and raised here and plan to live a long and happy life! Yes, big cities look attractive at first glance, but such industrial centers as Cherepovets have always played an important role in the life of the country. Ivan Milyutin called our city "a field where dreams turn into deeds." It has remained so to this day. My dream is to live in a beautiful, comfortable, attractive for young people and economically developed Cherepovets. Our common task is to preserve and increase the achievements of our ancestors, to do everything in our power to develop the city and the entire Vologda Oblast.
I've left. Left Perm for Moscow. It was a year and a half ago. For those who are thinking, planning to leave, thinking about it, here are some of my thoughts...The city is like a house, an apartment. People move from one apartment to another when it becomes crowded. They have more things, their family grows, children are born and grow up. Then people save money, borrow from friends, relatives, buy a new apartment and move. It's the same with the city. When you feel that it has become crowded in your city, you have no one to talk to, you are overwhelmed with different thoughts, new ideas that are not something to implement, but even discuss in your hometown with no one, then, indeed, you need to change place of residence, i.e. city. And definitely to a bigger city.
Moscow is a very big city. And compared to Perm too. Arriving in Moscow, your attitude to people, to life, but, most importantly, to yourself changes in many ways. In Perm, it seemed to me that I know a lot, I can, I understand what I do in life. And sometimes it even seemed that I was the most important specialist on the planet in the field of transport planning and organization traffic. Arriving in Moscow, you quickly realize that this is not so. You understand that there are also worthy people who are no worse than you, and sometimes better versed in issues that you considered exclusively yours. And this means there is someone to talk to, something to discuss, something to argue about and there is something to strive for. In Moscow, life is more dynamic. There are much more events per unit of time than, for example, in Perm. Therefore, people walk the streets a little faster and cars on the roads move much more dynamically. Life passes more dynamically and more interestingly, as they would say before, "a year - in two".
When should you change your place of residence? Probably, in those short periods of your life, when you are not bound by any obligations to elderly parents or young children, or rather not tied to their place of residence, place of study, place of treatment.
In order to leave, it is necessary, of course, to save up money, to provide yourself with resources for the first time. You need to start, of course, with renting an apartment, which should last from one month to one year. If you are of active working age and strive to realize yourself in Moscow, then it is better to choose a place of residence in the center. Only then you will understand the true meaning, feel what you came for. And the apartment that you will rent for the first time will contribute to this. An apartment in Moscow is needed in order to live in Moscow, and not to live in an apartment. On the other hand, having rented or bought an apartment in a remote residential area, you will most likely quickly realize that it only prevents you from realizing yourself in Moscow.
The housing problem is the most important question when changing residence. If you manage to solve it, then everything else is solved much easier. The cost of goods and services, products, transport, communications will not differ much and will not be critical for you. What you will miss is nature. You will have to forget about activities such as a trip for mushrooms or weekend barbecues in nature. Living in the center of Moscow, going out into nature is a problem in itself. And nature, which you remember from your previous place of residence, begins in Moscow after 50-100 kilometers from your new home. And this trip requires a significant amount of time, not to mention the fact that you still need to try to find a place in nature that you are used to.
In Moscow, the budget provision per person is five times higher than in Perm. This means that, having become a full-fledged Muscovite, namely, having registered in the city of Moscow, you will receive much more public services than in your hometown. And together with transport facilities, roads, parks, squares and territories, five times more money will be spent on you than in Perm.
I don't know about school and preschool education so far I've only tested healthcare. And it's definitely better in Moscow. It is better organized, it is better technically equipped. Although, just like in Perm, no one will express a desire to work with you personally. You will be actively sent for tests, for various procedures, studies, but nobody will be particularly interested in delving into your illnesses and their history.
In Moscow, you will probably notice that people will smile at you more often, greet you more often. This also applies to neighbors in the stairwell, at the entrance, in various public institutions, shops, services. You will not miss friends, the usual barbecue gatherings in the country in nature or in the bath. But friends will come to you in Moscow, visit you, and you will talk about your life in Moscow and show them your new place of residence, your new city. And it is also fascinating in its own way.
To leave or stay - everyone decides for himself, depending on what he expects from this life, what he aspires to. But I want every person to realize that at every moment of time he has such a choice - to leave or stay, and that there are no obstacles and prohibitions, that everything in life a person decides for himself.
Hello! I have problems with my husband, I have only been married for 7 months, but during this time there has already been a great desire to break everything and go home several times (my husband is a military man and immediately after the wedding we left according to distribution). According to the horoscope, both Leos, both want to assert their dominant position in the family, both are very proud, but we also love each other very much. The first call was in November - the husband did not come home to spend the night. The next day, he explained this by saying that he was very drunk and simply could not get home. Of course, there was a scandal, I said that this was not why I came here to spend the night alone and threatened to go home if this happens again. The husband of course swore that this was the first and last time. But the same thing happened a week later. Arriving home in the morning, he asked me not to leave, especially since we had invited guests for a housewarming party in the evening. I stayed. I lectured, I knew that he didn’t like it, but I didn’t see another way to influence him. After these cases, my attitude towards my husband changed, he undermined my confidence, if he was late at work, I was already preparing for the fact that he would not come. A few days before the New Year, I fell ill, was heat, the husband came home from work and said that he would go for a walk with his friends. I asked him to stay, but he left anyway. At 2 am, without calling him, I went to spend the night with a friend. The next day, when the relationship was sorted out, I was left to blame, due to the fact that I did not spend the night at home. Although in my opinion, it was he who should not have left at all. We reconciled, and until this week we lived in perfect harmony. In the evening he said that he was going to see friends, drink beer in the garage, but from his preparations it seemed to me that he was not finishing something. She let me go, told me to be careful, it’s not too late to come home, because. get up early for work the next day. I woke up at 4.30 my husband was not there, I knew that it was useless to call, but I called twice - I did not pick up the phone. At 5 am he came, I decided not to make a scandal and pretended to be asleep, but he went into the room and started to wake me up. I could not stand it, jumped up, began to scream, asking where he was, why he didn’t pick up the phone. The husband was very drunk and just fell asleep. I turned on the light to get dressed. I'm about to start getting ready for work. He got up, started turning off the light, pushing me out of the room. He did not respond to my explanations that I needed to take things and that I was going to work. Having already arrived at work, I did what I probably should not have done - I called his boss to find out if my husband was actually with him in the garage. He said that they were in the garage until about 23 and then my husband left somewhere. I knew that my husband would not like my behavior, but I did not find another way to find out the truth. Now he accuses me, says that it was I who decided to quarrel and achieved my goal, did not let him sleep, in a fit he even ordered me to go home if I did not like that he was spending time with friends. In general, we do not talk, I tried to get out of the conflict, because I know that it is very difficult for him to take the first step, but he does not go forward. On the other hand, I no longer know whether it is worth reconciling at all, and whether I need such treatment. I no longer believe that this was a unique case, I think that it will only get worse. Or maybe I'm wrong in my requirements? I tell him that he is a family man and therefore he must understand that he can no longer go out until 5 in the morning and not spend the night at home. He does not understand why he cannot, and is trying to prove that if he wants it, he will do it and I will not see him at all. I don’t know what to do... I don’t want to go home, but I can’t allow myself to be treated like that anymore either! How can I prove to my husband that he is wrong?