“Not a child, but the leader of the Redskins”, - this phrase can often be heard from grandparents about grandchildren who show miracles of activity. It is difficult for parents, educators, teachers to cope with such children. What to do and how to behave as an adult with active boys and girls of different ages?
Active breastfeeding one year old baby
The temperament of the child begins to manifest itself from childhood. But it is in the power of parents to influence him and slightly soften the manifestations of hyperactivity, to slow them down. In infants, such manifestations are often observed in the nature of night sleep. Therefore, from the moment a mother arrives with a child from the hospital, you should not put him to sleep next to you. Such guardianship deprives the crumbs of the opportunity to calm down on their own. The kid should get used to being alone at night. Waking up at night is a natural element of sleep that does not require the active participation of the mother. At this moment, you just need to be there and with the help of light stroking or rocking, nipples, hissing sounds, if necessary, help the baby sleep further.
First-born mothers believe that if the baby wakes up several times during the night, then he is too active. This is not true. For babies, this is quite normal and you don’t need to react to it with hyper-custody, because it is she who can make a restless child out of crumbs who cannot fall asleep on her own.
Every mother should have a catchphrase in her arsenal of sprinkling a baby, repeating which the child will always fall asleep. And it is not necessary for this to rock him, pick him up. For example: “Sleep baby, sleep” or “bye-bye, fall asleep.” The baby will develop a reflex falling asleep to these words.
If, in a year, a child cannot fall asleep, sit quietly for several minutes, touch something with his hands all the time and move somewhere, then these are really already manifestations of high activity. It can be caused by birth trauma, a genetic tendency to activity, for example, when both parents are choleric, as well as brain diseases.
The main problem in raising an active child is his inability to concentrate. Such a child is difficult to feed and clothe. Only parental patience and wisdom will help to cope with the child. Persuasion, persuasion, praise are the helpers of mom and dad in dealing with an active baby. He must feel love and attention to himself, understand that his interests are shared.
Parents of too active girls and boys should understand that sometimes their development is slower compared to phlegmatic and balanced children. Perhaps the skills and abilities inherent one year old baby, he will learn a little later. The main thing is that he is healthy and loved.
Too active child at bedtime
Daily routine is the best sleeping pill for a child of any temperament. After all, putting the baby to bed at the same time, while observing the same ritual (bathing, lullaby or a fairy tale), you form a habit in the child, that is, a reflex to fall asleep at the same time.
The reasons for poor sleep may be non-compliance with the regimen and overexcitation of the crumbs before bedtime. Having fun with a child who grows up, it becomes more and more fun, adults, experiencing a lack of time during the day, play with him in the evening. Sometimes it is their activity that is the reason that the child cannot fall asleep in any way. An hour and a half before going to bed there should not be any outdoor games, watching funny cartoons that excite the psyche. It is better to give the girl or boy the opportunity to play on their own. You can walk outside an hour before bedtime.
It is worth noting that those babies who were previously put to sleep in diapers, tightly wrapped, fall asleep badly in the crib. Children who do not have the habit of lying freely, actively move their arms and legs, wake themselves up. It is also bad in the crib to fall asleep children, whom their mothers rocked in their arms.
In order for an active baby to fall asleep easily and quickly, it is necessary that the same person puts him to sleep. It could be dad. All actions of adults before the baby goes to bed should be calm, speech is quiet, the TV or computer should be turned off. Many young parents do not understand how a flickering picture of the screen with the sound turned off can interfere with the baby. And sometimes it is this exciting effect on the brain and does not allow the child to relax.
The crib should not stand near the radiator, and the child should not be dressed too warmly at night. It also makes it difficult to sleep well and sleep peacefully.
If we are talking about daytime sleep, then it is better to put your son or daughter on the street. Fresh air is an elixir of calmness and long sleep. Even if it's winter outside, don't be afraid to put the stroller under the window, in the garden, when it comes to a small child.
The child is active at high temperature: what to do?
Children endure high temperature easier than us adults. Therefore, you should not put the child to bed and force him to lie at a temperature of 38, if he does not want to. The opinion that the baby should lie in this state is erroneous.
A boy or girl should not be too warmly dressed. Excess clothing will only increase body temperature, which the patient does not need at all.
The main thing for such an active baby is a plentiful warm drink. Water, juices, fruit drinks help to lower the temperature, resist dehydration. At the same time, mom and dad should give liquid often and in small portions. But you shouldn't force your child to eat. If a child moves, even plays his favorite games a little, it means that his body copes well with the disease. You just need to create a calm and comfortable environment for him. The air in the nursery should be cool, humid. It is necessary to do airing twice a day and carry out wet cleaning more often.
activity of a young patient elevated temperature should not disturb adults. This is only evidence that the child tolerates it well, that his immunity is not so weak, that it is easier for him to cope with the disease.
Very active child at school, pinching
The first grade is the period of adaptation of the child to a new type of activity. Study also involves new responsibilities, acquaintance with adults, teachers, classmates, that is, getting used to a new environment and lifestyle. Pinching in this case is a manifestation of an active researcher who does not have the ability to communicate at the proper level. When a child pinches, in this way he demonstrates himself, shows that he can do something. But at the same time, the first-grader performs such actions on the sly. Psychologists state that such actions may be characteristic of children who did not attend kindergarten before school and do not know how to behave in a peer group. Pinching can also be a manifestation of dissatisfaction with something or someone. Indeed, according to observations, children do not pinch everyone, but only a certain circle of classmates. Sometimes boys pinch a girl they like. Similar attention can be shown in pulling her hair.
With such behavior of an active student, the behavior of the teacher should be literate. This is not a punishment of a little bully in front of everyone, but an individual conversation with him. The teacher should calmly, without reproach, talk to the student and explain that adults, and he has already become such, do not allow such actions. You need to focus on the fact that the child is good, smart, everything works out for him, only pinching is the lot of the nursery group.
Parents should also be informed about this behavior. Perhaps the lack of attention on their part to the new duties of the child is the reason for such a negative phenomenon. Gently hug the child, say that you love him, trust him, hope that he will cope with the role of a student and find mutual language with classmates. And if someone offends him, then in response to insults, you should not pinch. Teach your child to act like an adult - to ignore the offender, not to communicate with him at all.
Remember that the beginning of the school period is also a new crisis in the development of the child. And the task of parents with their attention and patience is to survive it with dignity, even if the child is too active.
Strongly active child: how to educate
The main mistake of parents and teachers is that in hyperdynamic children they see pranksters, naughty, unbearable students. To curb them, punishments are used, and in front of all children, which is unacceptable. It’s bad that adults don’t see a person in such a child who just needs an outlet for energy. Hence the conclusion: load such a child with household chores, make sure that an active boy or girl is busy all the time. Watering flowerpots, feeding the cat, dusting or other household chores should be assigned to the baby. This will only bring up the responsibility of the child, make him more organized.
An active kid should be scolded exclusively for an act and never say that he is bad, unbearable. Show him that the accidentally broken vase upset you very much, because it was a gift. Cry. Let the child understand how painful and unpleasant you are.
Never compare a daughter or son with other children. Do not emphasize his weaknesses and the strengths of other people's children. Indeed, in fact, your child is generous and gentle, quick-witted and quick-witted. So make use of his strengths.
If your child is being scolded strangers, then one cannot join such an assessment in his presence. He must know that he is loved and believed in, that there is always a chance to improve. You can't put labels on a child! In addition to homework, an active child should be given opportunities for physical activity. This is, first of all, sports. Perhaps a horizontal bar, wall bars, dumbbells, a bicycle will help with this.
Psychologists advise parents of hyperdynamic, active children not to hold back their feelings. If you are angry, furious, then explain to the child your condition and in no case use your hands. Physical punishment will only make things worse. And if you can’t cope with your own son or daughter on your own, then go to a psychologist. After testing, he will give you individual recommendations, objectively evaluate your relationship and help you with competent advice.
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Reasons why it may occur:
- strong positive or negative emotions;
- long monotonous work;
- regime change;
- fatigue;
- an overabundance of sweets or hunger.
If a child is very excited, he may look happy, run, jump and laugh non-stop. Often after this state, children begin to act up, cry, or even make a real scandal. Any parent would prefer to avoid such a situation.
Having noticed the first signs of overexcitation, parents need to calm the child, switch the focus of his attention. It is unlikely that this will be done by simply calling to reason or shouting: unfortunately, children in this state are not able to calm down according to your or even their own desire.
How to calm overexcited children
I want to offer 10 proven and enough simple ways relieve nervous overexcitation in children. They work on almost all babies. Some can only be done at certain times or at home, but others are universal.
1. Walk.
I confess that this is the method I use most often. The excited son and daughter instantly switch their attention to dressing, and as soon as we go outside, a change of scenery, fresh air and the ability to run freely quickly calm them down.
Even if now is not the time for a walk, you can go out for half an hour - this will work great for children. If it’s raining or cold outside, it doesn’t matter: just pick up the right clothes and walk for less time. Don't be afraid to go for a short walk before going to bed: if the baby is overexcited, he doesn't sleep well, and a walk will relieve stress and help him fall asleep better.
2. Warm bath.
If you are at home, prepare a bath for your baby. It is not scary if he does not wash himself at the usual time: the water will instantly relieve stress and switch attention. Give vessels for transfusion, a water mill, a watering can, a syringe, a sponge, whatever is appropriate for age.
Body cream and gentle massage after bathing will further relax. If it is not possible to take a bath, replace it with exercises with water: pour liquid into a large basin and give vessels for transfusions. Water has a wonderful therapeutic effect, and classes with it relax and develop motor skills.
3. Exercise with cereals.
Soft cereals have almost the same therapeutic effect as water. Boys and girls like to pour lentils or millet from one vessel to another. A great activity for an excited toddler is to look for small toys or natural materials in a bowl of cereal. Sand can always be used instead of cereals both outside in the sandbox and at home. However, it is more difficult to clean, so we usually use grits.
4. Dancing to calm music.
Listening to calm melodic music will be a great relaxation. However, overexcited children are unlikely to want to sit still. Invite them to dance. Pay attention to the smoothness of the movements, their correspondence to the melody. Use accessories, such as light multi-colored handkerchiefs.
5. Sports activities with clear instructions.
Often agitated children run and cannot sit still. In this case, redirect the energy - offer sports activities with clear instructions: yoga poses that you will demonstrate, or any other physical exercises. Concentrating on doing it right will switch attention and calm the mind.
6. Motor work with small objects.
Children 2-4 years old love to work with small objects, and this work requires concentration. Choose an activity by age:
- string beads;
- stick small stickers;
- assemble a mosaic;
- embroider.
What will be at hand. The main thing is to interest the children, otherwise it will not be easy for them to make such a quick switch.
7. Cooking.
It happens that anxiety is caused by hunger. But even if this is not the case, children are usually fascinated by working in the kitchen. Ask your little one if they're hungry and offer to make their own snacks. Let him peel boiled eggs, cut fruits or vegetables, prepare himself a salad or a sandwich.
Keep in mind that sweets, candy, and cookies are more arousing, so don't give them to already excited kids.
8. Creativity.
Another great remedy for overstimulation is creative pursuits. One of the most soothing is modeling. I always pull out plasticine for my raging son and daughter.
Instead of plasticine, you can make salty dough by mixing a glass of flour, half a glass of salt and a little water. Kids are sure to love making their own.
Drawing with paints - other fast way relieve tension, as well as gluing various materials onto cardboard (collages).
9. Exercises of practical life.
UPZH can take not only overexcited, but also hyperactive children. Depending on the situation, you can offer different types cleaning: wash dishes, furniture or clean your shoes. Montessori groups are well aware of the calming effect of such activities. It is with them that presentations to children begin during the period of adaptation in the group.
10. Reading a book or listening to an audio story.
If the kid is a fan of looking at books or listening to audio fairy tales, there is nothing easier than switching his attention to his favorite or new book.
As you can see, there are many methods to calm children down. Something for everyone. But the best way would be to prevent overexcitation, for which you should:
- observe a clear daily routine;
- walk outside more often
- sleep the required number of hours;
- eat light, balanced food;
- maintain a friendly atmosphere in the family.
But even if these rules are followed, as a result of the still immature nervous system, babies will still be overexcited. Try to calmly respond to this and switch the children's attention to calm, relaxing activities.
When a child is upset or overly cheerful, it is very difficult to put him to bed, especially during the daytime. Right Action parents will help prepare the baby for the rest.
1. Limit the number of irritants
It's hard to get into "relaxation" mode when the TV is on in the next room, the lights are on, and the homeowners are busy with urgent business. Reducing irritants such as noise and bright lights will help to calm you down.
2. Soothing conversation
How to calm a child before bed? Even small children love to chat in their own language, a calm conversation about upcoming magical dreams helps to relax.
3. Farewell ritual
A baby older than five months can say goodbye to his toys until tomorrow or put them to sleep in a makeshift crib. Such a daily ritual will teach the baby to feel the approach of drowsiness and calm in case of whims.
4. Massage
Stroking and kissing evoke a sense of security, which is why many babies fall asleep quickly after a massage. In addition, a gentle massage will help soothe.
5. Music
It has been noticed that energetic music makes a person move faster and wake up, while calm music, on the contrary, inclines to sleep and relaxation. You can listen not necessarily to the classics, let it be what all capricious people like - quiet and beautiful.
6. Is the child naughty at bedtime? Sing a lullaby
Lullabies are really effective, because there is nothing more precious than a mother's voice, even if it is not as melodious as the voice from the TV. Lullabies from all over the world are created in order to soothe and convey love from mom.
7. Whisper
Hearing a whisper, the baby will quiet down and focus to hear a pleasant sound. Thus, he will be distracted and feel the need for rest.
8. Stargazing
Now it is not necessary to lie in the open air or look out the window. There were many children's projector lamps displaying the starry sky in any part of the room. Stargazing - great way remove excessive physical activity.
9. Motion sickness
Babies love to rock in their cradle or in their parents' arms because the motion sickness reminds them of the days spent in their mom's tummy. When rocking the baby, remember that the baby should wake up where he fell asleep, so you will prevent fear if the child wakes up in the middle of the night.
10. Evening reading
You do not need to wait until the baby grows up, reading a book will begin to soothe immediately after birth thanks to the native timbre of the voice.
What makes it hard to get to sleep
Some actions excite nervous system, try to avoid them and make sure that they do not appear an hour before bedtime.
What to watch out for before bed
- Energetic fun. Games before falling asleep best idea, this should be explained to older children and other close relatives.
- Watching cartoons. A computer, tablet and TV excite the nervous system, reducing the likelihood of restful sleep.
- Tense atmosphere. Children perfectly feel the tension in relationships between adults, postpone serious conversations until the morning.
- Fatigue. Excessive fatigue prevents you from falling asleep quickly.
- Irregular rhythm of the day. A child who lives in chaos has trouble slowing down in the evening without feeling the need to rest.
Other reasons that prevent you from falling asleep:
- The baby wants to go to the toilet or has already gone (check the diaper).
- Bad dreams.
- The stiffness of the hands interferes, or vice versa, freedom.
- Overeating or hunger.
- Insects bite.
Dad and other relatives can also calm the child before going to bed, this will be effective when he spends all the time only with his mother.
Good sound sleep is of tremendous importance for the health of the body, your mood and appearance. It largely depends on what you do during the day: from physical activity to proper nutrition. But an hour or two before you go to bed can be decisive in the sleep issue. Do not leave insomnia and nightmares (and with them - wrinkles, heartburn, swelling and stress) not a single chance and properly prepare for sleep. So here's what not to do before bed!
1. Use a tablet or smartphone
Numerous studies prove that using electronic devices or even just watching TV in bed can disturb your peace of mind. Try to avoid any light-emitting technique an hour before bedtime. The blue glow of gadgets interferes with the production of the hormone melatonin, which helps the body fall asleep. If you absolutely do not want to give up devices, keep devices at least 40 centimeters away from your eyes and reduce the screen brightness.
2. Take some medication
If you notice that since you started drinking medications or dietary supplements, you have problems with sleep, be sure to consult your doctor. Antidepressants and painkillers often have a strong effect on sleep. As for sleeping pills, they are taken in courses of several weeks, but not on an ongoing basis.
3. Chat with friends
It seems to us that correspondence in the messenger late at night is a less disturbing event than a phone call. Thus, we are gradually drawn into a longer conversation shortly before bedtime. If the smartphone is lying near the bed, an inadvertently "turned" message from friends can wake you up and bring down your biorhythms. According to a survey by the National Sleep Foundation, about 10% of people wake up every or almost every night from sound signals about new messages or letters. If your friends are avid night owls, it's better to put the phone in another room and sleep peacefully.
4. Drink tea or coffee
A cup of coffee contains an average of 80 to 120 milligrams of caffeine, which lasts up to 12 hours in the body! Hence the conclusion: even your favorite afternoon coffee can disturb your night's rest. The second source of disturbing caffeine that you should be careful with is tea. This applies to white, black and green varieties. In order not to indulge in the usual pleasure - use the second tea leaves. Most of the caffeine is gone on the first brew, but on repeat, there is very little left. You will get a milder taste without stimulants.
5. Eat chocolate
Closes the theme of caffeine before bed - dark chocolate with a high cocoa content. People who are especially susceptible to this natural energy should forget not only about sweet tiles for the coming night, but also, for example, about chocolate ice cream. In addition, the product contains another substance - theobromine, which increases the heart rate and can lead to insomnia.
6. Be active!
Often when people complain that they can't "pass out" in bed, it's because they don't give themselves enough time to get ready for bed. For example, an hour before bed, they constantly jump from one type of stimulating activity to another. You should give yourself at least 30 minutes to clear your mind, reflect and relax.
7. Check work email
We have already talked about the "blue screen" and the natural rhythms of the body, but that's not all. Late night work messages can make you nervous, agitated, or keep your head busy with anxious thoughts about tomorrow's urgent business. American research in 2014 proved that people who regularly check their email after 21:00 feel more tired and distracted the next day.
8. Eat spicy and fatty foods
First of all, you don't have to eat dinner before 18:00, normally two hours before bedtime to give your body enough time to digest food. If you can’t fall asleep on an “empty stomach”, a snack from simple carbohydrates, a glass of kefir or milk will save you. But a fatty or spicy dinner is a risky event, causing bloating and heartburn, incompatible with a sweet nap.
9. Drink alcohol
One common myth is that a glass of wine helps you sleep better. Any alcohol, however, makes us sleepy. But that doesn't say anything about its quality. At the moment when the body begins to absorb alcohol, the recovery period of sleep is reduced, and you wake up tired and distracted. Plus, according to last year's University of Missouri research, alcohol is a powerful diuretic and can cause you to wake up multiple times during the night.
10. Smoking
For many smokers, a cigarette before bed is already a ritual. But! Be aware that nicotine is a stimulant that can cause or worsen insomnia.
11. Drink plenty of water
Water is of tremendous importance for the body ... but not at night! If you are prone to edema, this will only aggravate the situation. Make sure you drink enough fluids throughout the day.
12. Train hard
We understand that “operation: bikini” is in full swing, but you may have heard that evening physical activity on the muscles makes sleep intermittent? Indeed, for the treatment of insomnia, doctors often "prescribe" exercises, but obviously not in the moments of preparation for sleep.
13. Heat up the room
Known fact: a person sleeps better in a cool room. This is due to the process of thermoregulation of our body. Comfortable temperature for sweet dreams - 16 degrees.
14. Take pets to bed
May Barboses and Murziks of the whole world forgive us, but animals (even the cleanest, perfumed and combed ones) are not allowed to enter the bed. According to a recent study from the University of Kansas, 63% of people who share a bedroom with a furry friend don't sleep well. There are many reasons. The main one is the restless behavior of the animal, which constantly knocks you out of even sleep. In addition, the fur and skin flakes of a domestic dweller are strong irritants that can affect your well-being.
15. Take a shower
The point, of course, is not personal hygiene, but the reaction of your brain. If you are used to taking a shower only in the morning, evening bathing can serve as an erroneous signal for the brain - wake up and shine! And instead of relaxing, he will cheer up. With evening exercise, you should also be careful with the owners of long hair - there is a risk of falling asleep with wet hair, which, firstly, leads to tangling of the strands, and secondly, makes the pillow damp, which can lead to mold.
Tense, high-pitched conversation raises cortisol and other stress hormones, which gradually block your “ability” to fall asleep quickly. In addition, angry people tend to engage in self-criticism or continue to fight fierce battles with an opponent in their head. Somnologists advise: the morning is wiser than the evening. With any problem, you need to sleep at least a night, waking up you are more likely to find the right solution.
17. Change routine habits
Doing the same thing every night before bed is an important prevention principle. good night. Brush your teeth, wash your face, prepare your clothes for the next day - a series of familiar sequential actions sends a signal to the brain: it's time for bed.