You are at a loss and do not know what to do, because your loved one changed to you. It seems that the world has ceased to exist. You try to come up with excuses, but there are none. But nothing just happens. What are the reasons for cheating?
Change is caused by nature.
Most often, male infidelity is justified by nature. As in the animal kingdom, the male has a purpose - fertilization females, and the more there are, the better. Females are conservative and their goal is to preserve the most effective and optimal features of the species. Men, in turn, are always focused on finding the best evolutionary directions. But how to do it? The answer is simple - to transfer their genes to different females. That is why they say that the betrayal of men and the constancy of a woman are inherent in nature. This excuse is ideal for those who are ready to be compared to an animal.
What is treason?
Everyone has their own opinion about what is treason. For some, only an ardent glance at a passing stranger is a reason for ending a relationship, but some believe that as long as no one has caught in bed with a lover or mistress, there is no betrayal.
In order to understand the nature of infidelity, David Basse conducted study. It was attended by couples. Each participant was wearing sensors. They were then asked to imagine first a situation in which their significant other was in love with a stranger, and then their partner in bed with another person.
As a result, it turned out that men experienced particular indignation and anger only at the idea that their soul mate was in bed with another man. And women experienced a special jealousy in a situation of possible love of their partner in another woman.
If you try to understand the design of nature, then the interpretation will be as follows: love pushes men and women to stay together, only while raising children. Therefore, it is male love that causes anxiety and threatens family well-being, and not one-time sex on the side. But the sex of a woman on the side can lead to the fact that a man may not even guess that this child is not his at all.
In addition, psychologists say that people who do not believe in themselves and their weight in society are predisposed to betrayal. They justify their betrayal by the fact that they like to receive new emotions and sensations. However, everything lies in their complexes.
Very often, betrayal can be caused by a response anger on a partner. Mostly women resort to such treason. The partner does not pay enough attention or deceives all the time. In response to this, the woman is looking for a new lover who will appreciate her, instead of dealing with the problem that has arisen. In the end, everyone is a loser.
Arkady Davidovich
Adultery has always been considered a great sin because it causes great pain and suffering to the partner and often leads to the breakdown of the marriage. This often affects children who are very sensitive to the divorce of their parents. In addition, even if the marriage does not break up, then betrayal kills the trust of the spouses in each other, which negatively affects their future life together. Therefore, treason is condemned in any society. But despite her condemnation, people, both men and women, both cheated and continue to cheat on each other. About why this happens and what to do if your partner, in our case a woman, cheated on you, we will talk in this article.
Cheating a woman is always swipe by the self-love of a man. In most men, after such an act of a woman, self-esteem instantly drops, working capacity and activity decrease. However, female adultery has a number of negative consequences for the woman herself, which she often does not think about when she decides to cheat. First of all, this is a very bad reputation that a woman acquires in the eyes of men by cheating on her man, her husband. Also, by her act, she relieves a man of many obligations to her. For example, she relieves a man of the need to be faithful to her and take care of her in the way that he could do it, knowing that she was faithful to him. Of course, in different cases, different men they have different attitudes towards the betrayal of their woman, but most often this attitude is extremely negative. Therefore, her betrayal can affect the future life of a woman in the most unfavorable way. Meanwhile, for men who are faced with female infidelity, I recommend that you remain calm and look for new opportunities in what happened, which, believe me, will help you greatly change your life for the better. Yes, yes, for the best. So if your wife, girlfriend, girlfriend cheated on you - you can not suffer and torment yourself. This act has its positive aspects, and I will tell you about them.
So, your woman, wife, girlfriend, girlfriend - cheated on you. And now you want to understand - what actually happened? Your thoughts are confused, cats scratch in your soul, you can’t find a place for yourself, you are overwhelmed with a variety of negative feelings. All this prevents you from looking at what happened with a calm, reasonable eye, in order to decide what you should do next. And what happened, I believe, should have happened - your woman showed you what she is capable of. No matter what motivated a woman to cheat, below I will explain why women cheat, what pushes them to do so. The important thing is that your woman cannot resist her desire to enjoy being with another man in order to remain faithful to you. And in some cases, she doesn't want to. It shows you what kind of woman you are. And it's time for you to ask yourself - how does it suit you? And speaking even more thoroughly - you need to think about whether you deserve more, or do you have a woman who you yourself correspond to? I am not saying that you are a bad man who deserves to be cheated on. In no case. I only urge you to think about your self-worth and shortcomings and compare them with the advantages and disadvantages of your woman. This will allow you to make a more informed decision on what you should do - to forgive a woman for cheating, or to refuse it.
In general, I believe that female adultery should be treated philosophically. If a woman or wife cheated on you, this is an occasion for you to think about your life, and perhaps change something in it. What needs to be changed depends on what you want out of life. If your goal is to create a strong, friendly, reliable and prosperous family in which the spouses will be devoted to each other, then, of course, you need a reliable partner - a reliable woman whom you can trust. Therefore, if your wife is not capable of fidelity, you should part with her. Do not demand from a person what he is not capable of - just replace him. And if your whole life is a constant pursuit of pleasure, if family values \u200b\u200bare alien to you, and you yourself are prone to treason, then think about whether it is worth worrying about your wife’s infidelity at all? Think about what you want from life, and it may turn out that the devotion of a woman is not so important to you. She cheated on you, but you, in turn, can also live more free and full life without any obligation to her.
Let's find out now - why do women cheat on men? It's all about female nature, which gives rise to a woman's need to be desired by men. A woman needs to be loved, to be paid attention to, to be admired, to be taken care of, and to be wanted. Therefore, a woman strives to be beautiful in order to attract the attention of men. Her task is to choose best man and bear children from him. Therefore, her instinctive desires are aimed at satisfying this particular need. If a man by nature seeks to fertilize as many females as possible in order to ensure the survival of his species, then a woman, in turn, strives to seduce as many men as possible in order to choose the best, most worthy of them. Everything is very simple. It is our nature, our instinctive needs that drive us. And it's only our upbringing, our beliefs, and the culture we hold that stop some of us from committing adultery. You understand that society cannot be stable without condemning such acts, and our entire civilization will wallow in fornication and depravity, thereby destroying itself. But at the same time, we must never forget what needs are hidden within us. You can introduce any punishment for treason, up to the death penalty, but there will still be treason, because a person is prone to them, both men and women. People will cheat on each other if they are unable or unwilling to control their instinctual needs.
Therefore, dear men, if your woman, your wife, cheated on you, then this means that she simply could not cope with her nature, she went on about her instincts and gave free rein to her desires. You may not be to blame for this at all, so do not blame yourself for anything. Yes, there are cases when a man, by his behavior, pushes a woman to cheat, I won’t deny it. Every case is different, so I can't speak for everyone. But you must remember that women always strive to attract the attention of men, especially if they are beautiful, self-confident women, without complexes. Look how many married women strive to look beautiful, and some - defiantly beautiful, in order to attract the attention of men and thus feel their importance, feel their strength. Do they all have bad husbands? No. Husbands have absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about the nature of a woman, who is what she is, if you don't inspire a woman in anything and don't limit her in anything. As, however, and men. So women will always be interested in men, even if they have husbands. And men will be interested in women, even if they have wives. Of course, there are instincts, but there is a mind that both women and men should listen to in order not to commit such acts that will cause pain and suffering to their partner. But a person is too weak to control himself constantly and in everything. Therefore, in some ways, he will certainly give slack.
So is the betrayal of a woman, wife, in this case, her mistake? Undoubtedly. If she loses more than she gains by following her instincts, then of course, her betrayal is a mistake. But, first of all, it is still her weakness. This is how a man, having a wonderful, loving, respecting wife-beauty, ready for anything for him, for some reason cheats on her with some nondescript girl, following the lead of his natural, and speaking in everyday language, dog instincts, thereby killing trust and self-respect, this is how a woman, without any logic, can go on about her female instincts and cheat on her man, completely undermining her confidence in herself and often destroying her family in this way, and with it her happiness. This is all a manifestation of unconscious, instinctive behavior, so it is useless to look for logic here - it's all about emotional desires that a person does not control with his mind. Rather, from the point of view of nature, there is logic here. It lies in the desire of women - to attract the attention of men, and in another case - in the desire of men to get as much as possible more women. All this is in the interests of nature in terms of the reproduction of the human population. So cheating is a natural human act. In some ways it is wrong, immoral, ugly, but natural. If a person is too weak to control his instinctive desires, he will change, betray, deceive, as soon as circumstances push him to this.
And in order to understand betrayal and possibly forgive it, you need to pay attention not to others, but to your own weaknesses and secret desires and feel their strength. Perhaps you, as a man, as a highly moral person, cannot imagine sex without love, you have never cheated on your woman, and therefore it is difficult for you to understand a person who can decide to cheat. In this case, pay attention to your other weaknesses - which make you not an ideal person, not an ideal man, not an ideal husband. Do you have them? I'm sure there is. Pay attention to them, feel their power, which affects your behavior and makes it imperfect, beyond the control of your mind. Feel what it's like to go on about your emotions and feelings, doing what, from the point of view of common sense you don't have to do it, but you have to. And then, imagine that exactly the same forces act on those people who cheat on their spouses. And in particular, women can not cope with these forces and cheat on their man, for no logical reason. This will help you understand them. This will help you understand the reason for cheating, which may not affect your attitude towards such acts, but at least give you a better understanding of why people commit them.
There is another important point in female infidelity that you should be aware of. It concerns the age of a woman and her vision of her future. The older a woman becomes, the less attention men begin to pay to her, and the woman feels this, and it frightens her. Not every woman admits that she is afraid of growing old, not because old age is terrible in itself, but because she is afraid that men, including her own husband, will stop paying attention to her, stop being interested in her, stop want her. But this fear lives in a woman, so she is looking for opportunities to take more love and attention from life at a young age, while the demand from men for her is large enough. All these love adventures, intrigues, flirting - they all make a woman's life interesting and joyful. They allow her to feel alive, in demand, needed, desired. Often women do not need sex so much as relationships with other men, especially when their own husbands pay little attention to them. They need the attention of a man, they want to be looked after, to be loved, to be wanted. And sex often occurs at the initiative of a man, because it is they who need it more, while a woman needs emotions and feelings more. And the woman gives in - she goes for treason because she wants not only to take from the man what she needs, but also to give him something in return. At the same time, she can love her husband and her family, but emotions, feelings, instincts - it is sometimes very difficult for people to cope with them.
I do not justify women who cheated on their husbands, I just want to say that in each individual case, a woman can be understood. Perhaps she cannot be forgiven, and you, respected men, are not obliged to do this. But you can understand a woman. So not only the desire to have fun, but also fear pushes a woman to cheat. Put yourself in her place and think about how difficult it is sometimes to realize that today there is attention to you, and tomorrow it may no longer be, even from the outside. own husband who may be interested in younger girls. A woman can understand this, or she can feel it instinctively, so she often faces a choice - to take the opportunity to experience new vivid feelings, or to miss them, while remaining faithful to her man. And you know, it is not always easy for a woman to make this choice, no matter how wonderful a man her husband is. The subconscious fear that in the future few people will need you, although this, of course, is not a fact, pushes a woman to insane, illogical actions from the point of view of men. But there is logic in them - you just need to understand what a woman feels when she starts a relationship on the side. And in order to understand the feelings of a woman, not being a woman, it is necessary to bring a woman to a sincere conversation, then she herself will tell you everything about her feelings. And since I have repeatedly managed to do this, I am telling you about what sometimes women themselves cannot tell, because they are not fully aware of the patterns of their behavior and the nature of their desires and feelings.
I think that understanding that a woman does not always consciously commit adultery, taking into account and evaluating all the consequences of her act, will help you, if not forgive, then at least understand your woman, seeing in her betrayal, first of all, weakness. Is it then possible to blame a man, a woman for her weakness? It's hard for me to answer this question. After all, there are many weak people, and everyone has their own weaknesses. We can blame people for greed, cowardice, laziness, envy and other negative qualities that are their weakness, but this does not stop them from being part of their nature. And I repeat, we are all weak in some way. So how can we blame other people for their weakness if we ourselves are not perfect? We may be disappointed that a man does not meet our requirements and does not justify our hopes, but he is what he is - a woman is what she is. If you can find a better one, no one bothers you to replace it. If you understand that weakness is characteristic of many people, including you, and you are not going to spend your life looking for exactly the one that will suit you in everything - I think you can accept the imperfection of this world, in the face of a woman who is imperfect in her behavior . But it all depends on how you treat yourself. If female adultery hits your pride hard, if you think that no woman has the right to instruct you in cuckolds, then you have only one way out - to leave this woman.
And if you want to stay with a woman who has cheated on you, a wife, if you love her, and she is dear to you, then accept her for who she is. If she loves you, she won’t betray you anymore, and if she doesn’t love you, then think about why and why do you love her? Maybe you don’t love her, but you’re just afraid of losing her, not imagining life without her. In this case, you need the help of a psychologist, because if you are emotionally dependent on a person who causes you suffering, you need to get rid of this addiction. Just don’t put your woman in a “golden cage” and limit her in every possible way, fearing that she will cheat on you again. Think for yourself, will this make your life better and you happier? Hardly. You can take possession of a woman's body, but you cannot take possession of her soul and heart without her desire. Therefore, there can be no talk of any love if a man constantly controls his woman and forbids everything to her. Love is born only in freedom, and fear and hatred are born in captivity. Therefore, it is better to give a woman freedom and let her live the way she wants, deciding for herself what suits you in her behavior and what does not. There are many people, many women - we can choose with whom we live. I am sure you will be able to evaluate all the pros and cons of your woman and make an acceptable choice for you - to forgive her for her betrayal, or not. The main thing that you must understand is that whatever choice you make, it will be the right one. You should not look at other people and their actions in similar situations - they have their own values, their own rules, their own vision of life and their attitude towards women, so their decisions should not affect yours. Think for yourself - what is best for you - to leave the woman who cheated on you, or to forgive her and stay with her.
In this regard, I do not recommend that you limit yourself to something - live life to the fullest and use all the opportunities that appear to you to make your life more interesting and enjoyable, regardless of your internal settings. And if you have a new relationship - do not give up on them, look at life more broadly and take everything you need from it. There are many women, and the nature of a man, as you remember, encourages him to give his attention to as many of them as possible. Therefore, if your woman, wife, did not appreciate your devotion to her, then she does not need her. Of course, I don’t know what value system you adhere to, but I know that you are a man, and you have certain desires that you can and which you need to realize in order to feel more happy man. It's better than being heartbroken over female infidelity.
From my point of view, if a woman cheats on a man, then by her act she tells him - I relieve you of the obligation to be faithful to me, because I myself cannot be like that. Use this opportunity, if, of course, such a life suits you, and then you will feel much happier. But if you see that the betrayal of your woman, wife, is just a mistake that she regrets very much, think about forgiving her. After all, who knows, maybe someday you will not be able to keep yourself from some rash act, following the lead of your instincts, and then you will also regret what you have done, counting on forgiveness. And if you want to be forgiven, learn to forgive yourself. And betrayal, despite all its soreness, can be forgiven. You know, sometimes such an experience only strengthens the family if people draw the right conclusions from their mistakes.
American psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum named 17 reasons why people cheat on their partners. In his book When Decent People Have Affairs on the Side, Kirshenbaum develops the idea that betrayal does not always stem from immorality and selfishness.
According to the author, betrayal not only does not harm marriage, but in some cases helps to strengthen it. At the same time, the director of the Boston Institute Chestnut Hill advises his readers not to tell the truth, as this can cause more harm than hiding it.
Search for your own "I"
Kirshenbaum's goal is to convince people that cheating is not only acceptable, but also forgivable. First of all, this is due to the desire of a person to find himself. “For a long time in your life there are forces that do not allow you to be yourself, to express yourself. A new novel is the best way to stand up for your own self, ”writes Kirshenbaum.
Accident
There are times when cheating happens by accident. Random connection, according to Kirshenbraum, occurs even when you do not strive for it, but simply "were in the wrong place at the wrong time."
Relationship Check
Cheating can also be a kind of test of a relationship. In this case, if one of the partners becomes aware of the betrayal, then this will either destroy the marriage or make it even stronger.
Finding a better option
“When you have made significant progress in life and your spouse is lagging behind, the natural response may be to seek out an outside relationship with someone you think is a better match for you,” the therapist says. Kirshenbaum describes this phenomenon as the desire to "sell yourself at a higher price."
Curiosity
A similar situation occurs when people cannot fulfill their needs with their current partner. In this case, they seek from others what they could not get from their spouse. In addition to dissatisfaction, the traitor may be driven by curiosity. “You start an affair to see if you can get with someone else what you couldn’t achieve in marriage. If this is possible, the question arises whether the difference is really as great as previously thought,” writes Kirshenbaum.
Desire to gain experience
If one of the spouses did not have many partners before marriage, then he feels that he did not receive important experience. A person finds a way out of such a situation in a new relationship.
Let's add passion
For some people, cheating is dictated by a desire to add fire to a cooling relationship. “You subconsciously hope that cheating or just rumors about it that will reach your spouse will make your relationship more passionate,” writes the psychotherapist.
sexual panic
“You feel that your sexual powers are gradually decreasing, which puts you in a state of panic, and then you start an affair on the side to prove to yourself that you are as strong as before,” the author writes.
The desire to raise self-esteem, as well as the desire to check whether “you are still able to please someone” can also push you to change.
Marriage Crisis
Most often, spouses start relationships on the side when the marriage is in crisis. As a rule, problems arise after a few years of marriage. In this case, Kirshenbaum sees the point in trying to save the marriage, and this can only be done if both spouses give each other enough attention and time.
Cheating can also be a weapon of revenge. “When you get angry at your spouse for hurting you, you start a new romance to get revenge, even if the spouse never finds out about your adventures.”
hard work award
Describing the relationship between former US President Bill Clinton and his secretary Lewinsky, the therapist calls Clinton's "mistake" a simple and justified desire to reward himself for hard work. “It may not be fair, but the fact is that you have worked so hard that cheating is the best way you know to please yourself,” Kirshenbaum explains.
Search for a bright streak in life
A similar state is experienced by a person when he is in a state close to depression due to failures and difficulties. To distract himself, he seeks to create his own "oasis of love."
Middle age crisis
One of the rarest motives for cheating is a midlife crisis. As the author writes, this case is similar to the situations already described, when a long-term marriage is in crisis and one of the partners is looking for "help" on the side.
Cheating has long ceased to be something out of the ordinary. It is believed that men are more prone to infidelity, although women acquire lovers no less often. There can be many reasons for this, ranging from problems in marriage, ending with the character traits of the traitor herself. We will not now consider those situations when a woman falls in love with another man without memory and wants to get a divorce. It's about a sudden outbreak of passion, which can become a threat to family well-being.
Female adultery: "for" and "against"
Compared to the last century, today the topic of sex is perceived very differently. Even some 100 years ago, women were married not to those whom they wanted to see as their chosen one. Parents themselves decided the fate of their children, marriages often pursued selfish goals. Let this scenario take place today, but now people officially have freedom of choice. Combining her life with another person, a lady often idealizes her husband, expects more from him than he can give. In addition, any relationship after some time "fade away." Everyone knows that passion lives for 3 years, after which household chores and routine duties come to the fore. When a husband no longer satisfies physical needs or oppresses morally, a woman involuntarily thinks about treason.
Before succumbing to animal instincts, you should think about whether it is worth cheating on your husband? What can entail such an act, what will happen if this becomes known? Even a carefully planned adventure always runs the risk of being discovered. From a moral and ethical point of view, not a single psychologist will say that it is possible to change a spouse. When you married, you swore to be faithful until the end of your days. But what to do when the desire to be in the same bed with another is stronger than moral principles? Find out why this happened:
- Do you no longer love your husband?
- Are you dissatisfied with your family?
- Do you just want fresh emotions?
Why can't you just give in to your desires and go with the flow, you ask? Be sure that even if the husband does not find out about what happened, you will be overcome by guilt. And if not, are you sure that he is the right person for you? When the secret becomes clear, the consequences cannot be avoided! Men always take the betrayal of their wives very painfully. Their self-esteem drops, performance deteriorates. Even if the faithful assures that he has forgiven, in fact he will remember this all his life. At the same time, most likely, he will not miss the opportunity to take revenge, that is, to change in response. As a result, the marriage will simply fall apart, leaving nothing bright behind.
When the desire to change can be justified
When a woman is firmly convinced of a positive answer to the question: “Is it possible to cheat on my husband?”, She involuntarily looks for excuses for her desire. As a rule, those are quickly found:
- he completely stopped paying attention to me;
- he is rarely at home, loneliness catches up with melancholy and depression;
- there is no sex at all or “once a month is not considered”;
- life stuck to colic, I want to feel like the one and only again.
Regardless of what reason pushes for adultery, the deceiver is firmly convinced that the man is to blame, and with a clear conscience goes "to the left." However, let's look at all these excuses from the other side. If your spouse stopped seeing you as a woman, maybe it's because you changed your make-up and dresses for a cucumber mask and a worn robe a long time ago? When was the last time you preened and dressed beautifully not for going out, but for your own husband? If another gentleman appears on the horizon, you are unlikely to meet him with curlers on his head and trampled slippers. Therefore, of course, he will shower with compliments, admire the beauty and ability to take care of himself.
If the faithful is rarely at home, what is the reason for his absence? He works hard, often travels on business trips and stays up late - which means he seeks to provide for his family so that you do not feel an urgent need for the most necessary things. Men wiping their pants in front of the TV are far worse than an inveterate workaholic. As for sex, everything equally depends on both partners. Again, if you think that a husband is obliged to want you with a dirty head and holes in your underwear, then you are mistaken. He is the same man as everyone else, he also needs a beautiful picture, affection, emancipation. Try to make a difference in your intimate life. Even after 15-20 years of marriage, if desired, you can return your former passion in no time.
Home life is an integral part of marriage. On your shoulders lies cleaning, cooking, children, perhaps you also work at the same time. No wonder that sooner or later the forces will run out, and the soul will require adventure. Before you go looking for them, discuss your responsibilities with your spouse. If he doesn’t touch household chores at all, then it’s time for him to do it. And you don’t need to offer him to cook a complex lunch or do a general cleaning. Start small. You will bake his favorite cake while he vacuums. Any problems in the family can be solved, so they cannot serve as an excuse for treason. This is appropriate if marriage is dear to you, and you do not want to lose the man you love because of a fleeting affair.
Consequences of cheating
If the desire to cheat on your husband has prevailed, get ready for the consequences. Of course, the ideal option is when a fleeting, random affair had no witnesses and remained a secret forever. And if you can continue to live with your spouse as if nothing happened, then you are a rare exception. It is worse when the betrayal becomes known. In this case, there is a risk of encountering such problems:
- the husband will file for divorce, arrange a trial if there are children and jointly acquired property;
- the deceived will say that he has forgiven, but will suffer, creating even more discord in the relationship;
- children can get psychologically traumatized if they witness the constant scandals of their parents;
- when the news goes beyond the family, the reputation will be damaged.
Tormented by the question: “Should I have a lover?”, Women rarely think about the consequences. You should not pin your hopes on a new chosen one if the husband decides to terminate the union. Keep in mind that rare, passionate meetings, vivid sensations, beautiful courtship cannot last forever. They will also be replaced by everyday life, habit and a worn robe with worn-out slippers. Only you know your husband as flaky, and the new boyfriend is a complete stranger, so far a stranger who in the future may show his not the best qualities.
If a woman thinks about cheating, it means that the marriage is bursting at the seams, and there are problems in the family that require urgent solutions. By going in search of another man, you neglect the need to deal with your own spouse. Gather your courage, arrange a frank "debriefing". And if you both think that the issues are unresolvable, maybe it's worth breaking up and starting all over again?
You found out that your loved one cheated on you. It seems like the world around has collapsed. You look for excuses for him and do not find them ... However, there are several reasons why you were cheated on.
Change is in nature...
Comparison with the animal world is a universal justification for male infidelity. Any male has a mission - to fertilize as many females as possible. If the female sex is conservative, and its task is to preserve the most successful features of the species, then the male sex is aimed at finding new, more successful evolutionary directions. And there is only one way to do this - by transferring your genes the maximum number females. So male infidelity and female constancy are inherent in us by nature itself. If you're ready to be compared to an animal, that's an excuse for you.
What is treason?
As a rule, each person has his own ideas about what "treason" is. for some, a look thrown at a blonde passing by is already a reason for divorce, but someone thinks that until he was caught in bed with another, there was nothing.
In this regard, an experiment conducted by David Basse from the University of Michigan is of interest. He installed sensors on the subjects' bodies and asked married men and women to paint first their partner in love with someone else, and then their partner in bed with someone else.
As a result, men began to get very nervous, sweat and grimace when they imagined a bed scene with their wife. And women, on the contrary, began to react precisely to the hypothetical love of their husband.
From the point of view of the design of nature, this is explained simply: love helps a man and a woman to remain together during the upbringing of offspring. Therefore, falling in love with a man is much more dangerous for a married couple than fleeting sex on the side. But female physical infidelity threatens that a man can raise someone else's child.
Psychological attack
Psychologists have proven that people who are unsure of themselves and their significance to others are prone to treason. They justify their actions by the fact that they are looking for new sensations, but in fact it's all about their internal complexes.
Change out of spite?
Usually women use it. Did your husband stop paying attention? Instead of thinking about possible reasons and change something in herself, a woman is looking for a new man as proof of her irresistibility. As a result, everyone suffers.