I am sure that every woman at least once in her life experienced the situation described below.
At some public event (conference, wedding, party) you notice an interesting man and try tomake an impressionon him. But after a few hours you go home, feeling like a rejected loser.
Why does this happen? What did you do wrong? Was he bored with you, or did you overdo it when you wanted to be fun and funny?
While you remember similar situations from your life and try to understand their reason, I will tell you so that in the end he asked you for a phone number and offered to go on a date.
To do this, you need to remember only 10 unspoken rules.
- Stay calm
It is clear that being emotionally restrained when there is a man who you like is not so easy.However, if you want to get an invitation to a date, behave with a man you need to make him see the mystery in you.
Your task is not to impress him at all, as a spectator who came to a spectacular circus performance. You need to be interested in something else...
- Seduce him intellectually
Make a good impression on a manPretty easy if you follow the 80/20 rule. With intelligent men, in most cases it works 100%.
So what should be done? In fact, everything is simple - 80% of the time listen to him and only 20% speak yourself and ask him questions.
In this way, you will show your interest in him and at the same time save him from feeling that he is monologue.
Why does it work? Because everything, absolutely all men love to talk about themselves and their achievements.
From time to time, give him ideas to continue the story about yourself. Ask questions about his work and hobbies in sports, movies, music. You will be surprised at the effect of such a communication model.
- Do not mention marriage and future plans
In your 20% of the conversation, in no case should you touch on the topic of marriage. It's a totally inappropriate subject when you're trying.
Any mention of marriage can be taken as the reason why you are now getting to know him. It will also become the reason why he wants to quickly end the dialogue and leave.
Another thing is if he asks about your plans for the future. Then, mixed with “get a diploma”, “find a good job” and “get a kitten”, you can casually mention the desire to meet a soul mate. But you can't focus on it.
- Don't talk about yourself unless he asks for it.
When you tryKeep your life story to yourself. He should take the initiative in this regard.
If he asks about your hobbies, childhood, youth, answer. Briefly, without going into too much detail. If he does not ask such questions, then it does not interest him yet. But do not be offended. Just everything has its time.
- Listen carefully
I have already mentioned that men like to talk about themselves. But even more we like it when someone enthusiastically listens to these stories.
If you are not very interested in the information he gives out, but you still want to continue your acquaintance, you will have to pretend. Make eye contact, nod your head, smile and laugh when appropriate.
Sometimes ask again in surprise or ask simple clarifying questions. You can be sure that this behavior will definitely helpmake a good impression on a man.
- Don't mention your past relationships
A lot of people complain about their ex when they meet or on a first date. And this applies to both men and women. But in fact, this is the worst topic that you can think of to discuss when meeting.
Of course, impress a man, talking about your plight and the "goat" that ruined your life, you can. But it won't be exactly what you want. Don't be surprised if the other person starts looking for reasons to leave if the conversation takes a turn like this.
- Do not give advice or express your opinion until he asks
This is the most common trap girls fall into when they try toimpress a man.
If he talks about a situation and you really want to show yourself as an expert in this area and give advice, control yourself.
You can only express your opinion on the surface. And even then, only if he asks for it. Think for yourself, do you need advice from a person you see for the first time in your life?
- touch it
Touch the back of his hand, touch his shoulder, or lightly touch his arm. But only once! This will be a discreet signal that you are interested in him as a man. But if there are a lot of such gestures, he can understand this as an invitation to go to your house and get to know you better.
Therefore, if your goal is not a one-night stand, "hold your horses." One or two unobtrusive touches per evening. Not more.
- Show no interest in material things
I understand that you are tired of men who live with their mothers or are simply "rogue". But the first conversation is absolutely not the right time to discuss his income and property.
So you can give the impression of a girl who is looking for a "daddy" who will suit her life. Just focus on the fact that you like him. And let him understand it.
- Flirt but don't flirt
In this case, you can not count on more than a one-time sex. But I understand correctly, your goal -? Never Forget You Only Have One Opportunitymake a first impression on a man.
Follow the rules described in this article to achieve the desired result. If everything works out and he wants to continue dating, you may need help with how to behave on the first date and subsequent meetings.
But this is a completely different topic, which is best discussed in person. Come onto learn even more secrets that will help not onlymake a first impression on a manbut also to attract and retain it.
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There are two types of women: those who attract men and those who want to impress them.
Any woman can learn how to impress a man. Start with self-confidence. A woman who doubts her words and actions will not make a proper impression on a man.
Express emotions
One of the differences between women and men is that women do not hide their emotions. Do not be shy when meeting, be natural.
Know the measure: do not cry every time when he tells a sad story or laugh to tears after another flat joke.
Dress properly
Choose clothes according to your figure, which will hide flaws and highlight advantages. Look sexy, but not defiant.
For example, for an evening trip to a restaurant or for a walk, dress up in a black dress with a beautiful neckline, but choose not too revealing. The riddle should be in behavior and appearance.
Offer to pay the bill
Such an act will tell the man that you are not interested in the size of the wallet, but in his personality.
smile
A sincere smile will impress even the gloomiest man. Do not overact so that the man does not think that he is a clown or that something is wrong with you.
Keep your teeth clean. Make sure that leftover parsley and sesame seeds from your lunch salad don't ruin a beautiful smile.
Don't settle for everything
Men do not like it when women agree to all proposals. Give reasons for any point of view that differs from his. With such an interlocutor, you will not be bored, and the man will remain impressed.
At the same time, do not provoke quarrels. Know how to give in if your views are very different.
Change hairstyles
Experiment with hairstyles in your free time. Men love when a woman changes. Dressing up in a dress with an open neck, loose your hair: leave it straight or make curls.
Watch the smell of hair - a pleasant smell will impress the guy and remain in his memory.
Have a hobby
Talking constantly about work or the weather, you will quickly get bored with each other. A girl who has hobbies and talks about it with pleasure is the dream of any man.
Be smart
Not very smart men and stupid women listen to the statement “men do not like smart women”.
Every woman should keep up the conversation and share interesting thoughts. Silent girls will make an impression on men, but not the one we would like.
Women, because of nervousness, often start a conversation with mundane topics: discussions of the weather or the latest news. Be attentive and maneuver during a conversation on interesting topics for a man.
Use perfume
Use scents that are appropriate for the time of year and the meeting place. Don't overdo it - it's annoying.
Address him by name
Use this advice during the first date and regular meetings. Addressing your partner by name, you let him know that everything that has been said applies to him.
Remember yourself, is it nice when a man calls you by name?
Are men impressed by expensive things?
Men don't pay attention to the brands you wear (if it's not).
A girl who looks neat, knows how to keep up a conversation and has her own point of view will make a better impression on any man.
How to impress a guy? If you are asking this question, then he has already made an impression on you, you want to attract his attention, establish a strong and lasting relationship with him, and perhaps you are already coming up with names for your future children. If he finds out about this, he will most likely be a little scared. In any case, feel the tension. So make sure he doesn't find out. And the fact that your dreams and desires have moved so far is nothing to worry about. These are features of female thinking. All women, regardless of age and life experience, tend to make far-reaching plans in the very first minutes of meeting a man they like.
What impresses men? Of course, first of all, appearance. On women, by the way, too. What is outside is immediately visible to everyone, unlike what is inside. He will learn about your spiritual virtues after some period of communication, but the way you look will impress him or not within a few seconds. Therefore, do not neglect your appearance even when you go to the market for potatoes. After all, there is a chance to meet your prince.
You cannot change what nature has given you without resorting to the services of plastic surgeons. Or maybe you don't need to change anything? You just need to learn to focus on your merits and smooth out what, in your opinion, does not correspond to the ideal. Any girl, by trial and error, finds what suits her and what she needs to avoid. In this business, it is important to follow not fashion, but your individual characteristics and sense of your own style.
If you're going to impress a guy on a first date, then looks are especially important. The first date is the one and only opportunity to show yourself in all its glory and in all its splendor. All girls understand this and try very hard to make up beautifully and put on something new, fashionable and expensive. What advice can you give about appearance and makeup for a first date?
- Think about relevance. If you're just going to the movies, then a sequined evening dress and a feather boa would be out of place. Wear something simple, but perfectly flattering your figure. Sometimes jeans and a T-shirt look better than a chic and expensive dress.
- When you apply makeup, remember that it should highlight your natural beauty, and not completely hide your face under the paint. The war paint of men scares away more than it attracts.
- Use proven makeup techniques and outfits. Something you are 100% sure of. If you wear a dress in a style you've never worn that makes you feel weird and insecure, your insecurities will show. The same goes for makeup. Experiment another time. And now make up your eyes the way you have painted many times already and you know that it suits you for sure.
- Be feminine. The unisex style promoted by fashion magazines is mostly liked by stylists and makeup artists, and not by ordinary straight guys.
- Remember about posture and plasticity. Cheeky gait, hunched shoulders, waving arms, flopping on a chair from a run - all these things will spoil the impression of any feminine dress.
How to impress a guy in other ways besides stunning looks?
- You can and should be late for a date. It will be worse if you come first and wait for him. He must wait, doubt, worry and hope. If he is familiar with the rules of etiquette, he will not call you five minutes after the onset of the X-hour. And he will wait at least fifteen minutes, hiding the excitement even from himself. This is where you will appear: all so charming, charming and unusual. There is no need to apologize for being late for fifteen minutes, but if you are more than fifteen minutes late, be sure to apologize with a sweet and guilty smile, without going into the reasons for being late.
- Let him show his best side. Guys are always impressed with this opportunity. Let him talk about himself - listen carefully. Let him joke and make jokes - laugh contagiously. Let it be smoothed and perfumed - praise his shirt and perfume. Don't be afraid to show him that you like him. This will strengthen his reciprocal sympathy.
- Try to look happy. Or at least everyone is happy. The best way to do this is to smile. Happy people always cause universal sympathy and attract attention. Let him know that you are a self-sufficient, confident and contented person. Because in your life there are many interesting and pleasant events. Which can be hinted at without going into too much detail. And today you are especially happy that you spend time in his company. He will be pleased to know this.
- Keep your wit. But not always, but only when it wants to manifest itself in relation to him. Friendly jokes are, of course, cute and spice up relationships, but do not cross the line. Do not be ironic about things that are truly important to him. Maybe it's his hobby, maybe his family, or maybe something else. If you have recently met and you do not know him very well, then you can accidentally touch his sore spots. Therefore, be ironic in moderation and follow his reaction in order to stop in time.
- Look at him with admiration. Eyes often say even more than words, and he tries to understand from your look what impression he made on you. When he says something, look at him carefully, eye to eye. Then he will feel that you are interested and feel sympathy. Eye contact has another function: it brings people closer. The more you look into each other's eyes, the closer you become. After two hours of constant looking at each other, you get the feeling that you have known each other all your life. And that your communication must be continued.
- Light and unobtrusive touches also stimulate the process of rapprochement. Touch his hand in conversation when appropriate. For example, you can lightly pat his hand after he makes you laugh. If you notice that he, too, is constantly trying to touch you, you can be absolutely sure: he is experiencing the most ardent feelings.
- Let him take the initiative. Do not talk about the second date and further meetings. Let him do it. If you see that he is not sure that he wants to continue, but you are sure that you do, and that in the future he will be able to appreciate all your virtues and respond to your sympathy, push him to this. As if by chance say the phrase: "When we next time ...". He will have no choice but to discuss where and when this next time will happen.
The unspoken code of the patriarchal society said that a man should go out of his way to impress a girl, and women only had to accept signs of attention or reject them. In such a situation, try to wait until the exact guy you need is seeking your favor. What if he's also modest?
You can take matters into your own hands and impress a man by being good. Then he will understand your interest in him and will probably want to appreciate the depth of your personality. To impress a man, you do not need to sit on the transverse twine at the first meeting, demonstrate the ability to speak six languages or dance with sabers. Enough in the manner of communication, conversation and behavior.
Be interested in the world around you - this will help impress a man
The social world of women and men differs from each other. Men like to talk about "big things" - politics, sports, the economy and the news. If you are interested in something big on a global scale in any of these areas, then try to keep track of the latest news and trends. So you can talk with a man not only about yourself and him, but also about global problems and recent events. The guy will be interested to know your view of the world, he will be happy to tell his own vision of the situation - and in such a casual conversation, you definitely won’t notice how time flies.
An important note: you don’t need to read about politics, economics or sports through force if you don’t like it. Let the opinion be really yours, and the time to “prepare” the opinion will do you good and bring pleasant memories. There are so many interesting and diverse things in global topics that you will surely find something to your liking without forcing your own interests and taste.
Learn to take good care of yourself
Over the centuries of emancipation, women have become accustomed to equality in many ways, so they have forgotten how to accept compliments, help and gifts. No need to be shy or shy if a man is trying to please you. Be sure to thank him and express gratitude, because it is very important for a man to feel the return for his own “good behavior”.
If the guy is gallant and behaves like a real gentleman, be sure to note this - especially since this is quite a rarity and will certainly catch your eye.
Moderation in alcohol consumption will make a good impression on a man
Even if you can drink alcohol with the skill of an experienced sailor and without unpleasant consequences, it is still not a quality that should be displayed to anyone other than close friends. The general depressiveness of the surrounding world has led to the fact that modern girls really smoke and drink a lot and often. Women who fall outside of this statistic make a good impression.
However, if you are well versed in alcohol, then you can afford a glass of wine or champagne, and in this case a man will appreciate your knowledge of a sommelier. Just present them as an interesting story, and not as an encyclopedic reference, so that the guy does not consider you a snob.
Well-read - makes a good impression of a person in principle
The world of modern literature is vast and varied. If you love to read and you have something to say about what you read, then feel free to start a conversation about it. Even if a man has not read the same as you, then he will have something to say about literature in general or his favorite books. Interestingly, according to statistics, women read more than men, but men tend to talk more and talk about what they read. Take this fact into account.
Please note that you do not need to discuss books with a guy that are too unlikely for both of you to read. There is nothing wrong with reading romance novels, humorous women's fantasy, cookbooks or young adults, but it is unlikely that a man will be able to say something about them.
Learn to Argue
There is an opinion in the environment about the existence of some special “female logic”, which is not logic at all, but its absence. This stereotype is accompanied by the opinion that girls do not know how to argue, switching them to an emotional level. Break this stereotype and read a couple of articles or books about the art of debating.
Use arguments, try to understand your interlocutor, do not be afraid to admit that you were wrong if he convinced you. Just a couple of well-conducted disputes - and a man will forever forget about this stereotype, and you are in his eyes, and you will undoubtedly impress a man.
Choose the right topics for conversation
In order to have a conversation, you need to have a proper chat with him, but at the same time not offend and not make him bored. Oddly enough, men tend to be easily offended by all sorts of little things, without showing it outwardly. If you are not best friends who have known each other for a hundred years, then do not criticize a man, do not give him advice if he does not ask for it, and try not to knock him out of his comfort zone.
Do not talk too much about yourself and do not interrogate him if you see that he is not in the mood to talk about himself.
However, this is a rare occurrence: usually men are ready to talk about themselves for hours, and you will only have to ask leading questions.
Forbidden topics: relationships (both yours and his), family (this is not a conversation for the first few dates or conversations), sex (he may misinterpret this). And, of course, we are sure that you will not talk with a man about topics that are of interest only to you and a narrow circle of owners of the same hobby or hobby.
There is one simple but very effective way. What attracts both men and women the most? On the first date and in general? Appearance, smile, charisma? Yes. But what is the most important thing in appearance and charisma? Eyes. More like a look. Everyone has heard the expressions “bottomless eyes”, “bewitching look”, “devils in the eyes”. This is what captivates almost any person. And why he gives preference to this particular person, and not to another, although the other one may be more beautiful, and smarter, and so on. One girl will come on a date stylishly dressed, with beautiful makeup, will behave “by the rules” and there will be no continuation. Often, she finds herself in a situation where the continuation does not happen from time to time and she is in a long loneliness. And the other will come casually dressed, not very confused on behavior and will like it. Of course, it's also a matter of looseness. But not everyone is so good at it. Therefore, this technique for them is how to learn to make those very “devils in the eyes” for themselves. Do you think that only a few have beautiful and charming eyes? You are wrong. They have absolutely everything, if you know how to look right. Here is that secret. On the first date, go to a cafe and choose a table that is not the largest size - so that the distance is no more than 50-60 cm. More precisely, such that you feel comfortable holding hands while sitting opposite each other. Just don't hold hands yet - everything has its time. And so, sitting opposite the man, look him ... not in the eyes. Look at his nose. And keep talking while looking there. He will notice absolutely nothing and will think that you are looking exactly into the eyes. But in the most incredible way, he will get the impression that he is drowning in your gaze. This effect is achieved due to the fact that when you look at the bridge of your nose, then slightly, completely imperceptibly, the pupils shift to the inner corners of the eyes. And when a man looks into your eyes in response, his gaze will also barely noticeably move. Thus, the possibility of side vision is turned off, and he stops noticing anything but you. More specifically, your eyes. If you ask someone you know to look at the bridge of your nose, you won't understand. It will still seem to you that the person is looking into the eyes. But when you ask to see it this way and that way, you will see the effect! The look will appear softer, warmer. It seems to envelop and entice. I want to look into those eyes.
How to impress a man on a first date
Just remember the distance. No more than an outstretched hand. Otherwise, the effect will dissipate. Now, as for the hands. First date and how to impress a man this time is a delicate moment. Don't start right away with hands, hugs, and other contact. Start with a look. When contact is established, when you see that there is an effect - continue the conversation, reinforce the action of the look. Most likely, the man himself will extend his hand to you. When you let him put his hand on yours, keep looking. This will enhance the impression. When you use this method, absolutely everything fades into the background. The man will be focused on your gaze, and will not notice flaws in appearance, if any. It will not be distracted to the sides - because your gaze keeps it within the framework of internal contact. And this will not let him get bored, because he will be fascinated by looking at your eyes and face. And without any danger. Even if you messed up with makeup or have a nose that you are embarrassed of - it will not matter at the moment. He will be drawn to you despite all this. And 90% of his attention will be focused on the look.
You can use this look not only on dates. Psychologists teach us not to be shy about making eye contact, although they say that many people are uncomfortable with direct eye contact. But the trick is that you do not look directly into the eyes, you look at the bridge of the nose, so the person will not have a feeling of discomfort. And, on the contrary, there will be a desire to look at you in response. This will help to remember you and secure your reputation as a charming person.
There is one more way to interest a man, but it is not very decent. As you know, sexuality attracts much more than anything else. Only for sexuality do they take anything but herself. And sexuality also lies primarily in the look. Only not in depraved (or even worse - feigned depraved). Experienced women talk about creating the look of a well-fed, contented panther and at the same time creating the impression of attractiveness and inaccessibility at the same time, just before a date you need to do self-satisfaction 🙂 Then you won’t desperately throw yourself at a man and there will be less longing in your eyes. I haven’t tried it - I don’t know, but it seems that there is some truth in this.