My wife and I have been married for 21 years. I am 44 and she is 41. We have two children: a son, who finished school, and a daughter, 9 years old. In 2007, the wife registered with Odnoklassniki and after a while began to correspond with her former classmate. At first I did not give it special significance, but soon my wife asked me to allow her to meet him at the station in a neighboring city (7 km from our house), to remember the school. And so that I don’t think anything like that, her friend will be nearby with her. I, the fool, agreed.
I was in the city that day for work. And suddenly I decided to check my wife. My conscience began to torment me that my wife would be offended, since I was checking her, and I called her that I would drive up now, and we would go home together. A classmate ran away, I did not see him. The wife was with flowers, a friend had just returned from the "shop". I swallowed it all, decided that I would go crazy and calm down. But it only got worse.
She did not get out of Odnoklassniki. I decided to follow her, installed a keylogger and a program for hidden screenshots on my computer. I learned a lot of interesting things. The wife exchanged very frank messages with her classmate. I made a scandal to her and left home. Three days later I returned, I realized that I could not live without her. We buried the hatchets. She justified her behavior by saying that she considered herself unattractive, and the attention of a classmate inspired her, and that it was just a little flirting.
It's been 7 years. We went to rest with the children this summer in a boarding house. And on the very first day, my wife burst into tears and admitted that then, 7 years ago, she cheated on me. They secluded themselves in a hotel, and everything went towards THIS, but at the last moment she refused him (is this true?). She doesn't tell me the details. I really want to forgive her, but I can't. I understand that she suffered for seven years because of her act. I am constantly tormented by questions: why did this happen, what did she lack? She can't answer them either.
Now we have a very difficult relationship, but I still love her, and she loves me. But lately I have a strong desire to know the details, the WHOLE truth. To forgive, I must know EVERYTHING. I know that I will not rest until I know EVERYTHING, even though it hurts. But I don't know how to tell her.
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2018-07-11T19:51:32+00:00
If you are a man, then divorce her. Who betrayed once, will betray again. And such a woman is not worth anything. I changed my family to x ..... d. She is nothing.
2014-08-22T13:06:50+00:00
She just started for 7 years and just now stopped cheating on you. That is, she cheated on you for a full 7 years and most likely he left her, so her "conscience" woke up to you.
2014-08-22T11:23:56+00:00
She will not tell the truth to the end. So she will lie. She has been lying for seven years. Most likely she realized that she is better with you.
2014-08-22T10:50:43+00:00
The best way for her to become indifferent to a classmate is to make her jealous, when she realizes that she can lose you, then she runs in if she loves you of course. But the main thing is not to overdo it. him and doesn’t know him 100%. Watch the series betrayal together, maybe it will come to her how much pain she can do to you. The series is just about a classmate and wife. be in moderation, stay a man. Good luck to you and take care of your family!!!
2014-08-22T00:31:46+00:00
I thought about it, and I agree with the Guest ***, I could change it more than once, but all 7 years, and if it just ended for her - that's such a "late" reaction.
2014-08-21T04:48:34+00:00
There is no evidence that she has not changed, just as there is no proof that she has changed! Again, you can’t prove that you didn’t change after, and you changed, you can’t prove it either!
It is unlikely to forgive, to forget too, rather to bury in oneself ... Memories will remain .. The question is why all the same right now, and not then (after all, according to her, there was no betrayal) and not at any other moment in these seven years? Maybe this relationship ended only recently? And in this way, she decided to take the weight off her soul!? After all, in fact, she confessed to you, albeit not in everything, but she confessed! And now she has calmed herself with this! It does not matter that not everything is told, only the fact of recognition is important! Maybe then there was nothing, but it was after. You then came for your wife, thereby making it clear to your wife that she could get caught and she became very good at hiding everything from you! And now there is no relationship and there is nothing to hide, and thus telling you what happened then, and not after, she committed an act of repentance! She told, she confessed, even though she hid a lot, but the very fact of repentance happened .. And now she is calm .. She will certainly worry about what decision you will make. But that doesn't matter to her anymore...
2014-08-20T21:40:30+00:00
Do you want me to say something good? :)
If you look at it from the other side, it's good that she cheated on you just once. And the fact that this was the only time, and that she is not cheating on you now - you can be sure, because otherwise she would never have begun to tell you about that case.
So really, forgive her, we are all human. And keep loving yourself. All the bad things are already behind you.
2014-08-20T19:27:43+00:00
don't ask a question if you don't know what to do with the answer.
2014-08-20T19:01:23+00:00
Why do you need this truth now? The truth is that she deliberately then went on physical treason. Is this not enough? She lacks feelings. She will continue to lie to you and correspond.
2014-08-20T18:47:42+00:00
Risha My mistake of youth was that after every betrayal of my husband I trot in this underwear, you know less - you sleep better. It is not for nothing that marriage is called marriage, and the legalization of relations with the word marriage - there are no perfect couples. For some of my friends, with an ideal husband, the wife burned up to 30; now she pays with her health from hospitals and does not climb out. The cheater suffers just as much as the cheater. Passed on his own skin.
2014-08-20T18:44:45+00:00
Risha Have you ever? If it was, then you are quits, be that as it may, this marriage has already survived 7 years with a mistake and will live on. in the old days, broken things were treated. The wife repents 100%. In 99% of marriages that have lasted more than 30 years, there are such moments. Just hammer and live if the houses are warm and everyone is healthy. Breaking up doesn't prove anything to anyone.
2014-08-20T18:04:06+00:00
Assume that she slept with a classmate. What does it change?
Do you want to know how open she is with you and whether you can trust her? The answer is you can't, because she lied to you 7 years ago, and then lied all those 7 years.
Do you care if she had physical sex? Who cares? If she deliberately went with him to the hotel for sex, then at the moment when she crossed the threshold of the room and closed the door behind her, we can assume that they had sex. It does not matter further when she changed her mind - when she saw him naked, during sex, or after. The main thing is that she did not become pregnant and did not become infected with anything, otherwise you would already be aware of it.
You can tell her that in your world she cheated on you, and it doesn't matter what she tells you now, because. You don't believe her, and you never will. Let her try to understand this and accept it as a fact.
But you forgave her betrayal, and are ready to move on.
OK. Find a classmate. AND? he will say - did not sleep. Do you believe him?
She says she was asleep. Do you believe?
There are no witnesses. The detector will not help - 7 years have passed, they do not take up the prescription.
All. Now it's up to you to decide what you believe in. And by the way: if you still have a chance to find out the betrayal (theoretically, let's say a classmate took pictures of them secretly), then it is impossible to find out that the wife was faithful. No way.
2014-08-20T13:46:36+00:00
Thank you very much!
2014-08-20T13:45:20+00:00
Then look for resources and strength in yourself to forgive. If you can't imagine a different life. But I do not advise you to force your soul with artificial forgiveness. You have to sincerely want it. Strength to you and good luck.
2014-08-20T13:42:57+00:00
But you still have to forgive. I simply have no other choice. And the children, and one left, and I love her ...
2014-08-20T13:35:00+00:00
So nothing happened for her. Seven years have passed as long as possible. She's done her own thing, now it's your turn.
2014-08-20T13:28:47+00:00
He behaves as if nothing happened, only became more attentive and affectionate. Probably, having lived with this for 7 years, for her it is not so acutely perceived.
2014-08-20T13:25:36+00:00
I wonder what can be done so that a person does not remember this? That's right, a rhetorical question.
2014-08-20T13:22:08+00:00
Now she does everything so that I do not remember this. When I tried to talk about it earlier, she started to get hysterical. I don't want to hurt her, but what can I do. There is a stone at the heart, and under it everything burns.
Recently, with the advent a large number social networks in many families there are problems on the basis of Internet communication. Many husbands and wives prefer virtual flirting with their perfect partners to real communication with their halves. strangers. What can the wife’s correspondence with other men lead to, we’ll talk further.
For many men, finding out that their wife is texting another young man is a huge blow to self-esteem. But is everything so critical, why is such correspondence dangerous for family life? Everything will depend on the content of communication and the general climate in the relationship. The main thing is to find out why the wife is texting someone.
The first option for communicating with another man can be quite innocent - a woman has known this person for a long time, for example, she is a childhood friend, and just periodically keeps in touch. In this case, the husband should not have reasons for jealousy, and there is no threat to family life. But if, nevertheless, a man has some doubts about the innocence of this communication, then it is worth discussing everything with his wife, since omissions and reticence in this situation will have disastrous consequences. But, in principle, there is nothing terrible in communicating with other men, since in shops, at work, in public transport, women have to enter into a dialogue with other men, and there is nothing unnatural in this. Of course, personal correspondence is a rather intimate moment, but when a woman has nothing to hide, she can easily show her letters to her husband, but only a loving and trusting man is unlikely to ask for it. So the situation is very twofold, everything in this case will depend on the temperament of the husband.
It is very important that in a situation where a husband finds out about his wife’s communication with another man, he should not withdraw into himself, but find out all the moments with his soulmate, otherwise silence and reticence can lead to a breakdown in relations. You should not assume that if a woman is talking to someone, then she wants to cheat, it's just stupid.
But there may be another option for female communication with another man - flirting. When a husband finds out about this kind of correspondence from his wife, the situation will depend entirely on the man and on his desire to save the family. It is worth talking with your wife and understanding why she went to such communication with another man, because nothing happens just like that. Very often, women begin to look for virtual communication with unfamiliar young people due to an elementary lack of attention from their beloved husband. That is, the wife compensates for what the other half does not give her. In such a situation, if it is only about attention, and communication with another is based only on flirting, then the husband can fix everything. Compliments, flowers and courtship will discourage the wife from communicating with someone else.
But if the correspondence of a woman is of a love nature, then here the man has two options - to leave or forgive. Of course, leaving a relationship is the easiest way for many, since not everyone is ready to forgive and understand betrayal, and even accept it, because it is often men who are to blame for female infidelity. In any case, if the husband finds the strength to forget the betrayal, then honor and praise to him. But so that such situations do not recur in the future, it is worthwhile to figure out why communication with another man grew into something more.
It is interesting to know that about 80% of women communicate with other men and their soul mates are not against such conversations, as they treat this as an integral part. public life wives. It is possible that these men are right in their position, because according to statistics, only 10% of those who communicate develop relationships into something more.
In conclusion, I would like to note that it is unreasonable to forbid a wife to communicate with other men, but it is also impossible to let it go by itself. Perhaps a woman simply does not have enough attention, and she is looking for him "on the side", but if you give your soulmate a little affection, and all other communication will fade into the background.
Instruction
Resist the temptation to read your wife's text messages, check her email, and hire a hacker to hack into her Odnoklassniki page. One has only to start, and the idea of total control will subdue your whole life, everything else will be unimportant. Now you are full of suspicions, even an innocent message: “how are you, see you” can unsettle you. A school friend could write to her, but you boiled over and already vowed to keep the cottage for yourself! Cool down, don't do anything in a hurry.
Just watch your wife's behavior. If your wife suddenly became interested in hang gliding, this does not mean at all that she was seduced by a pilot. However, it would not be superfluous to find out in which company she studies the structure of hang gliders at her leisure.
Try to spend more time together. Listen to her requests, pay attention to her mood. In trust is important, good spouses tend to best friends. Become her friend, especially if intimately your relationship is far from perfect. Let her understand that she has something to lose, and she herself will dispel your suspicions.
Don't neglect common companies. Take your wife to her friend's birthday party, even if you've stubbornly ignored such invitations in the past. There is a chance that old acquaintances are aware of your spouse's personal life. It is usually not difficult to find out details from them over a glass of wine.
If suspicions still do not leave you, no matter how hard you try to get rid of them, it is not forbidden to turn to the services of private detectives. However, remember that this is a last resort. In case, due to anxiety, you practically do not sleep and have long lost your appetite. Regardless of the result of the investigation, a visit to a psychologist will not be superfluous. Especially if it turns out that you spent money on a detective in vain, and your suspicions had no reason.
However, the best way to test loyalty is a direct conversation. This banal method is considered by many to be useless - after all, you can always pretend. But psychologists say that it will not work to hide the real feeling, no matter how wonderful an actress your wife is. Especially if the question of treason takes her by surprise. When talking, look into her eyes, a liar is unlikely to want to meet your eyes. As a rule, malicious cheaters are given out by intonation - too emotional.
Before resorting to radical options, consider whether you want to know the truth. Maybe sometimes it's better to live in ignorance? Fleeting hobbies pass, but are you ready for a breakup? Exposed infidelity is something you have to live with. And remember this for years to come.
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Jealousy in small amounts is even useful, but if it oversteps the bounds, it makes no sense to expect that everything will change for the better over time. It happens that a loved one has reasonable suspicions of infidelity. Situations are different, everything can be explained. But if this happens often, trust goes away, only doubts and claims remain.
Instruction
Almost all are owners. And if there are constant suspicions that they are trying to deceive him, to hide something, then it will be very difficult to change it. For such people, a reason for jealousy is not needed, they find it in any situation. Proving your innocence is almost useless. In such cases, only a heart-to-heart talk and dotting the “i” can help. It should be discussed with him clearly once and for all that suspicion can only destroy the idyll. In fact, it doesn't even "smell".
Sincere explanations may not always help. You can arrange a personal acquaintance of a guy with a person to whom he was jealous (it is better to arrange everything as a chance meeting). This may be a colleague or classmate who was not going to get into other people's relationships, just called or sent SMS at the wrong time. This situation can also be resolved without resorting to the acquaintance of two people, but, for example, by dialing the phone number of the one to whom they were jealous. Turn on speakerphone. Perhaps the guy will understand that there are no additional relations between you, except for industrial or business ones.
In the most extreme case, when there are no options left, and the guy simply does not want to listen to anything, you can find out where in the city there are firms that provide services for detecting deception using a lie detector. This is quite an expensive pleasure, not everyone can use it. But on the other hand, one of your proposals or consent to be tested on a lie detector can weed out all his doubts. If he liked this solution, then why not arrange a little adventure, and at the same time see how this very detector works. After all, it will be a very entertaining experience.
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If a guy often catches you in a lie or petty deception, he is unlikely to be able to trust you in the future, even if at some point you have the opportunity to provide indisputable evidence.
Do not be too zealous, giving degrading explanations in cases where they are not appropriate (ie, when there was no reason). Strengthened excuses on your part can only confirm suspicions.
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- how to prove that you are cheating
A lot of married people cheat on each other. Some do it simply because the opportunity has turned up. Someone tempts fate by getting their dose of adrenaline. Others lack something in family life, while others are simply very amorous. There are many ways to prove the fact of treason, but is it worth it, some find it more convenient to turn a blind eye to deceit.
You will need
- Traitor, lie detector, detective agency
Instruction
One of the signs may be frequent phone calls and messages, the traitor usually tries to go into the room to negotiate, or turn off the sound on mobile phone. Need time when the scammer will sleep or take a shower and check the latest messages, incoming and outgoing calls on the mobile phone. It will also not be superfluous to check personal correspondence at home, perhaps there are some traces of infidelity left, look in the basket.
Check your clothes for hair, or any unusual smell of perfume or cologne. Have you found any contraceptives in your pockets that you do not use. Inspect the body of your soul mate for scratches and other consequences of the manifestation of passion.
It is worth paying special attention to behavior - are there late returns from work, have they become more frequent. And in general, isn’t the second half behaving strangely, maybe they monitor their appearance more, new clothes have appeared.
Hasn't sex become less lately, because there is already enough of it on the side. It is quite difficult to convict a person who skillfully covers his tracks of treason. Call your other half more often, find out the news and his whereabouts. Arrive home from work early without warning.
If the suspicions are very strong, and to prove, despite all attempts, does not work, you can contact the detective agency. Pay for their services, let them follow the traitor for several days and report the results. This is a fairly standard procedure and many use services of this kind.
Invite the deceiver to prove his innocence with a lie detector. If he agrees without any problems, then it is not necessary to go. But if it rests, it means that there really are trips to the left.
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Don't miss out on every little thing, including incomprehensible late-night conversations or urgent errands.
Useful advice
When suspicions arose, you should not immediately sort things out, first you need to examine the phone and clothes, otherwise the traitor will have time to cover his tracks.
When choosing a life partner, you want to know for sure what kind of wife she will become, how your marriage will develop, what “surprises”, pleasant and not too pleasant, you can expect from her as a legal wife.
Instruction
Unfortunately, it is impossible to say for sure what kind of wife the girl will turn out to be - too many factors affect the "final result". It depends not only on the character of your chosen one, her life aspirations and the ability to build relationships with a partner, but also on the events that your family life will be filled with, on the level of material well-being and on how exactly your union will be harmonious.
Nevertheless, some preliminary conclusions can be drawn. One has only to study the girl more carefully, to understand what kind of person she is and what influenced her formation as a person.
The first thing to look at is the relationship in the girl's parental family. It is known that the character, habits, life values and ideas about the norms of the family way of life are formed in a person in childhood. Visit her at home, talk with your parents, evaluate the situation in the parental family of your chosen one. It is highly likely that she will embody this particular model of family relationships in her family life.
Get to know your girlfriend's mom. There is an opinion that, having matured, daughters in many ways become similar to their mothers - both externally and in character. Of course, the girl will not become an exact copy of her mother, but she will certainly take on some features, because for a girl during the formation of her personality, her mother is an example of a female model of behavior, including in the family.
Of course, there are times when another of the female relatives, for example, a grandmother, has a greater influence. It is worth finding out these points and, if possible, getting to know the person who is so significant to your chosen one, or at least learn as much as possible about him.
It happens that a girl, growing up in a family that is not very prosperous, authoritarian or burdened with other kinds of problems, begins to build her family life “from the contrary”, i.e. chooses such a model of the family and its own line of behavior in it, which is the opposite of everything that she had to see and experience in childhood. Ask your girlfriend about how she lived in the family when she was little, what she liked and what might have caused rejection - and you will get a picture of your beloved's ideal ideas about family life and the role of a woman in it.
Study the character of your beloved. If she is kind and caring with you during your meetings, is interested in your affairs, seeks to provide all possible assistance - it is likely that in family life she will show these qualities. If the girl is sharp, ambitious or mocking, one should not expect excessive softness, complaisance and tenderness from her in the future.
And, of course, the best way to get an idea of how a girl will behave in marriage is to live with her. Meetings and dates are one thing, but living together day after day is another. Being constantly in the same territory, it is almost impossible to hide from each other your habits, character traits and responses in certain everyday situations. If you are not yet ready to run a common household and look for joint housing, you can just spend a vacation with your girlfriend. By the way, the less comfortable your living conditions are, the brighter the character traits of your chosen one will appear: it is known that extreme circumstances contribute to this.
A rare family can boast of impeccable fidelity of husband and wife. This is the flip side of almost any romantic union. A rival or rival can stand in the way of a once-lasting union. And then the safety of the family may be at risk. Aware means armed. Therefore, one should not rely too much on sweet ignorance. Sometimes a traitor should be called to account, and for this you need to know the signs of treason.
Imaginary signs of treason
Those who suspect their soul mate of cheating should be very careful. Unfounded suspicions can significantly harm family relationships, which is why it is so important to know what signs of infidelity are imaginary.
The most common imaginary signs of infidelity are:
- a sharp decrease in sexual desire;
- increased irritability;
- secrecy.
All these signs are united by the fact that each of them can provoke great amount reasons. If a husband or wife suddenly ceases to be interested in sex, this may be due to great fatigue, emotional problems at work, and elementary financial turmoil. And that's not to mention health issues.
Increased irritability can hardly be an unambiguous sign of infidelity. As a rule, cheating men do not at all show any dissatisfaction with their spouse in order to make up for their guilt before her.
Stealth can also be associated with a variety of reasons. And betrayal is far from the most obvious.
Signs of a cheating husband
Signs of treason are clearly divided by gender. Men have a different attitude towards their family mission, so in the event of an affair on the side, his behavior will be special.
A man who changes a man is always betrayed by a cardinal change in attitude towards his appearance. If the husband suddenly began to monitor the volume of his waist, went on a diet or went in for sports abruptly, he probably wants to become attractive to someone.
The same goes for the wardrobe. Instead of an old flannel shirt, your husband suddenly began to wear stylish fitted suits? Apparently, he has become more scrupulous about his appearance or is specifically trying to be more attractive to someone in particular.
Husband used to brush his teeth with a scandal, and now he has become a pedantic hygiene maniac? Perhaps he does all this for someone.
Another sign of male infidelity is sudden signs of attention in relation to his wife. It can be flowers "just because", a set of new linen or a completely new smell of toilet water. A cheating man is often tormented by a sense of sight in front of his missus, therefore, he seeks to compensate his behavior as much as possible with gifts and signs of attention. By the way, gifts often carry the shadow of a fatal traitor. Linen exactly like hers, perfume with a rich floral aroma. If the gifts suddenly ceased to meet the tastes of the wife, but on the contrary, they began to show the style of another woman, this is an occasion to take a closer look at the behavior of the husband.
Signs of a cheating wife
Women's attitudes towards infidelity are completely different. The fair sex, having an affair on the side, always try to be the most attentive wives for their husbands.
Therefore, if a wife suddenly, for no reason at all, began to show excessive concern for her husband, it is inappropriate to give compliments and, in general, play on vanity, you should take a closer look at her behavior. It is possible that this way the woman simply wants to look away from her sin on the side.
Another clear sign is the constant comparison of the behavior and habits of the husband with how the spouses of the girlfriends behave. “But Masha’s husband earns three times more than you. This is what I understand a man, ”- if every morning begins with such phrases, probably the spouse has ceased to see support in her husband and has already looked after someone better.
Perhaps the most obvious sign female infidelity- Appearing expensive gifts. They are often written off as gifts from friends and parents. Wives, as a rule, are very careful, and it will be difficult to declassify the cover - probably acquaintances have already been notified of the deceit and will not give out the traitor to their spouse.
Suddenly appearing workaholism is another clear sign of infidelity. If the wife’s work didn’t particularly enthrall her before, and recently there are more and more overtime and shifts on weekends, it is likely that the reason for such zeal is not career achievements, but an easy affair.
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Once a man managed to understand what a woman wants. Unfortunately, he immediately died of laughter. — Odessa anecdote
Women are unpredictable. Sometimes such strange behavior indicates chronic fatigue, depression, hormonal disruptions. Before giving vent to jealousy, suspicion, resentment, you should make sure that the wife is cheating on her husband.
False accusations will only aggravate the situation and the relationship between the spouses. Often, chronic male jealousy provokes the chosen one to think about a relationship on the side as a possible way out of the current situation.
What signs accurately indicate violation of marital fidelity? There are several proven methods that allow you to determine if the chosen one is cheating on you.
Top 5 signs of adultery:
- Absent-mindedness, secrecy, an attempt to avoid heart-to-heart talk are warning signs for you. You should also pay attention to a sharp change in clothing style, hair color, makeup, although the beloved has always been conservative. The appearance in the apartment of expensive things that are not affordable, do not correspond to the family budget.
- She made adjustments to her lifestyle, became interested in sports, bought beautiful underwear, but does not show interest in you, went on a diet, changed her social circle. Swimming pool, fitness, gym, oriental dances, plastic strip, massage courses are new hobbies that I used to consider a waste of time.
- I began to spend a lot of time on the net, cleaning the history of visiting sites. She behaves strangely, hides her eyes in fear, or is defiantly indifferent when you find her at the computer monitor. Does not part with the phone even in the bathroom. If this is not an Internet addiction, then you should be more careful with your chosen one, she has something to hide.
- Makes unreasonable claims, shows aggression, irritability, jealousy, or becomes “quieter than water, lower than grass”, tries in every possible way to please. Perhaps the beloved feels remorse, guilt. She does not want you to meet her after work or accompany her during an evening walk. In any case, it is necessary to find out the reason for such unusual behavior.
- In a conversation, family quarrels, words about divorce, parting, replacing you with a more worthy candidate that will truly love her slip through. At the same time, the attraction to you has noticeably decreased, but the number of excuses for making love has increased. Beloved has moved away from you, behaves closed, silent, often tries to avoid talking, although she used to share it willingly breaking news the past day.
Methods for checking a wife's fidelity
The first method is close observation of her behavior. Do the listed signs correspond to the strange behavior of the second half?
Second method- Peaceful conversation. Sometimes a direct question helps to find out the truth: “Are you faithful to me? What's stopping you from being happy with me?" You need an open dialogue. If she is not a professional actress, you will be able to feel the lie and find out the weak points of the family union along the way.
The third method how to determine if a wife is cheating or not - surveillance. Possible different variants. Sometimes a video camera will help, hidden shooting at the time of your absence in the apartment. If the financial situation allows, hire a private detective and the question “how to catch a wife on a hot one?” will fall off by itself. Surveillance of the object of passion, as a rule, gives a good result.
It also does not hurt to periodically check the beloved’s mail, carefully familiarize yourself with her “business” correspondence. If desired, you can install a special listening application on your beloved’s phone. A woman will definitely give herself away during a conversation with a new sexual partner or a curious girlfriend.
With the help of a specialist or spyware, you can easily find out passwords to social networks partners. A keylogger application is also suitable for this purpose. You can get creative with the task. Place a voice recorder under the car seat of your beloved. Maybe you can record part of their love date. This will be enough for a serious conversation with your soulmate.
Fourth method- urgent business trip. Can connect with fixed surveillance. Adjust favorable conditions for adultery. Announce an unscheduled business trip to your family and just wait for the right moment. The reason may be the desire to "visit relatives", arrange a week's rest alone, "correct health" in a hospital outside the city. Do not forget to periodically call your beloved, be interested in household chores, share news “from vacation” so as not to arouse suspicion.
Fifth method how to find out if a wife is cheating with another person - a medical DNA fidelity test. In this case, you will not only receive the results of the examination with an accuracy of up to 100 percent, but will also be able to figure out your opponent. How to check if the woman you love is cheating? Everything is simple.
To perform the test, you need to provide laboratory workers with a DNA sample that remains on sheets, clothes, chewing gum, used ear sticks, a toothbrush, feminine pads, cigarette butts, a condom, napkins or glasses.
Earwax, mucous fluids (discharge from the nose, mouth), blood, hair at the root, semen stains, cut nails - all this can be reliable evidence of adultery.
Don't worry, the analysis is completely confidential. The presence of your soulmate is not required. Matching the detected biological patterns with your genetic materials will help to easily identify foreign DNA. The result depends on the condition and quality of the biosample provided. Based on the verified data, the laboratory of the medical center will issue you an expert opinion.
A medical fidelity test is expensive and not always convenient. But after such an accusation with the documents provided, the spouse will no longer be able to lie to you.
What to do if the wife is cheating?
When your wife betrays your love, the old world collapses. In fact, while we are looking for effective ways to find out that our wife is cheating, we do not want to believe in her infidelity to the last. How to understand the motives of the woman you love if she betrayed you so easily? How can you forgive, and is it worth it?
First typical mistake- make decisions impulsively. When the wife is unfaithful, you want to pour out your anger, take revenge on your opponent, punish the traitor as soon as possible.
The second mistake is inaction, an attempt not to notice changes in family relationships. Come what may. A sign of infantilism, unwillingness to solve problems on their own. Such a man will definitely not inspire respect in a woman.
When the first emotions leave, I want to slam the door and proudly leave forever. Take a break, live separately. This is necessary to make the right decision. Don't try to mirror your answer. Deal with your feelings.
Family psychologist Andrei Zberovsky advises you to start reviewing your relationship by filing for divorce. This action will demonstrate to the chosen one the seriousness of the situation, your determination, firmness in matters of principle. Divorce or not - it's up to you two.
Do not involve friends, relatives, acquaintances in your relationship. When it comes to your life, other people's advice should not play a decisive role.
Adultery is a symptom of a deep family crisis. Andrei Zberovsky claims that it is possible to overcome all obstacles and restore trusting relationships only if the young lady herself sincerely desires reconciliation. At the same time, she is ready to exclude the repetition of a similar situation in the future, she will try to become an ideal wife.
A lot also depends on the man. Are you willing to work on your own behavior to build relationships? Ready to change? Can you forgive her infidelity or will you blame your beloved for what happened at the first opportunity for years, tormenting your wife with constant reproaches?
When you drop a glass or a plate on the floor, a loud knock is heard. If glass breaks, a table leg breaks, or a picture falls off the wall, we hear a noise. But when a heart breaks, it happens silently. - from the Internet
Forgiving betrayal is never easy. But, if love is still alive, perhaps. It may be worth visiting a good psychotherapist to deal with conflicting feelings and alleviate mental pain.
Remember that there is no universal solution for such a difficult situation. Each family is individual. Restoring a lost connection or starting life from a new leaf? The choice is yours.
Every day, global search engines are looking for answers to thousands and thousands of queries regarding adultery. They search and search, but they find little of anything sensible. To help the reader in this important matter, blogger Tetkorax publishes a series of articles under the heading "The Cuckold's Library". Read, add and express your opinion.
If you have grown horns, do not be sad - they will definitely come in handy in your life. (Tetcorax)
1. Why do wives cheat? Why do wives cheat?
Scientists-scientists count 100,500 reasons for female infidelity. Do you think you have enough brain capacity to remember them all? And even if you remember, what will it give you? Let's say you probably know why the Sun rises and sets. Well, how does this knowledge help you in counteracting cosmic forces?
So it is with change. Even Z. Freud himself once admitted: “The great question that I cannot answer, despite 30 years of research: “What does a woman want?”
Often, wives themselves do not know why they cheat. I want - and that's it! So do not slow down on this issue, but read on.
2. How to understand what your wife wants to change?
This the right approach! Cheating should be stopped at the stage of conception, and not be tormented after the fact with questions: “did the wife change, what should I do?”, “the wife cheated once, will there be more?” etc. And it's not as difficult as it might seem. As soon as the first family quarrel occurs, the wives immediately have a desire to take revenge on their husband. Their arsenal of revenge includes three simple, but at the same time effective ways: not giving, instructing the horns and pouring some shit into the husband's food. Therefore, after a quarrel, look after your wife especially carefully.
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3. If you love your wife a lot, will she cheat?
Yes, no matter how much you love her, she will change anyway. It's a matter of time. In addition, love is love, but this love also needs some kind of real material return, monetization, so to speak. And if not, then how much you love her is of no fundamental importance. Paradise with a sweetheart can also begin in a hut, but much more comfortable conditions are needed to continue it.
4. If the wife cheated, how does she behave?
Just wonderful! He loves you even more, cooks even tastier, silently cleans everything, washes, washes, becomes unusually affectionate and attentive. And only sometimes it gives out, cast a furtive, frightened look: but have you guessed about your horns?
However, this is only at the beginning. Over time, cheating from a hidden form turns into an open one, and then the wife behaves arrogantly and defiantly, and the husband is completely transferred to self-service.
5. Can a woman have sex with only one man her whole life?
Maybe. If its short but bright life, like that of a one-day butterfly, lasts from early morning until late evening. And no more. But if the Lord gave her good health and "Caucasian longevity", then here it is not only one, but two, three, ten, or even a hundred, it will not be limited. She can help, but she doesn't want to! Well, do you understand, reader? Your question is pure Batanian.
6. My wife and I have two children. Will she cheat on me?
The number of children is not the limiting factor in this matter. If she wants to change, then no amount of children will stop her. On the contrary, the situation "two children + husband" puts a woman in the position of a draft horse. In the end (if she doesn’t collapse from fatigue), she will lose her nerve, she will quietly scoop out all your stash and hit the road with the hunter to a fairy-tale land, “where reefs splash in an amber wave.”
If there are no children in the family, then the situation of the husband is even worse. Will change. One hundred percent! And for one simple reason: no woman will ever believe that it is she who has infertility, and not her husband. Therefore, it will look for other males and try them as inseminators. Pretty soon, she will have a “pussy riot”, and this is no longer manageable by definition.
7. Can a wife who went south with children change?
Maybe he wants to. Children are an unfailing excuse to persuade a poor husband into desperate deeds. The absence of a husband nearby is a provoking factor. Children for treason are not an obstacle, but only a slight brake. Compare: how long do children sleep and how long does it take to get laid in a hurry?
Here's the answer to her:
- Come on Thursday.
- And who is the fourth?
- Like who? mother-in-law.
He said and carefully look at her expression. If it's sour, it means she's thinking of cuckolding you, dude. Fact!
8. Do all wives cheat?
The answer depends on who you ask about it. "Clever beauties" will answer that a woman does not change, she stops loving. And this, in principle, is close to the truth. Young men answer that not all. But the old people say that everything is without exception. So don't have false hopes. "Nothing is given to us forever."
- Get ready for cuckolding!
- Always ready!
9. Why does the wife cheat, but does not leave?
And why should she leave? You don't chase her! She is satisfied with everything. There is a dumb husband-slave. Plus, she rapes one lover, milks another, drives a third, and so on. Would you like to leave your wife in a similar scenario?
Second. And if the lover does not grow together? Where then to go? A woman cannot allow herself to have neither a husband, nor a roommate, nor a lover, nor a huntsman. But if everything is nishtyak with her lover, then she will file for divorce and partition.
Well, and the third. She makes you a cuckold. Every day, hundreds of requests "How to make a cuckold out of a husband?" go to search engines. Do you want to be a cuckold, dude?
Therefore, if you are not a burdock and not a miserable pervert, then you must immediately file for divorce yourself.
10. Can a wife cheat on her husband if they do not temporarily live together?
How badly you understand your native language! Husband and wife always live together! If they do not live together, then they are neither husband nor wife. And even if such a period is, say, no more than a month.
Some cunningly (_I_) wives specifically say to their husband: “Darling, I need to sort out my feelings. Let's live a little apart."
If the wife offers to "live separately", this means that she is planning to change her husband. That is, give the current one a thrashing and marry another. However! Just like in request No. 9, suddenly it doesn’t grow together with the new one! Therefore, prudent bitches set the candidate on a probationary period and for some time test him in the matter of living under the same roof. Simply put, they impudently cohabit with this pepper. And this is with a living husband!
If this roommate does not justify her hopes, then she will return. (Like, she lived separately, checked her feelings and realized that she loves her husband). And if that pepper successfully passes the probationary period and agrees to marry her, then she will file for divorce. Why divorce early? Moreover, during your “business trip” you can get pregnant and even acquire a bastard.
11. The wife left and returned two months later. Could she change during this time?
The same situation as in request No. 10, only without a pretext. Your wife turned out to be too self-confident and stupid. You do not ask Google / Yandex, you ask her where and with whom you were dragging. And what did you bring back from the trip? What's wrong to ask? Your cunning and impudent bitch quietly tried to live with the yokhar. However, something didn't work out. She's back, as if nothing had happened. Came back and played the fool. She hopes that the burdock husband will chew any noodles. Remember, man, if a wife hasn't slept at home at least once, she's not a wife anymore!
You can ask her only one question: “Are you going to file for divorce yourself, or will I do everything myself again?” But no matter what she says, immediately take a lawyer and sue for divorce, division and alimony.
12. The wife cheated, does not apologize, is silent and pretends that nothing happened. Why? What to do?
Don't try to talk to her. It will weaken your already pathetic position. She acts like a naughty cat that hides under the bed, in the closet or under the covers. Instead of self-criticism and active repentance, she silently hints at you to rejoice that she did not leave at all. And in her head there are three processes going on in parallel.
1. She doesn't know what to say and thinks about how to fool you.
2. Waiting for your reaction. “Makes a pause” Or maybe you yourself will apologize for bringing her to such a state that she was forced, reluctantly and with tears in her eyes, to commit treason? You will tearfully ask not to leave, promise that you will improve and will unquestioningly fulfill all the whims of your bagini.
3. Doesn't want to talk at all. He also doesn't want to apologize. She's got you, dude. Looking for another hunter.
What to do? If you are in her apartment, collect your clothes and go. If she is in your apartment (or a shared apartment), throw her clothes off the balcony, and push her out of the house. Change the locks, immediately take the lawyer by the scruff of the neck and sue for divorce, partition and alimony.
How to pause, read on the Internet.
13. Can a wife cheat by accident?
Easy. Women have sudden attacks of lust, no less than men. In this state, they can perform very inadequate and unexpected actions. For example, to pounce on a husband or even on the first handsome man that comes across and rape him in a perverted form. Even right in his office or car. However, over the years this has become less and less common.
15. Is it possible to convince a wife's lover to leave her alone?
Of course! It is only necessary that the arguments be sufficiently convincing and intelligible.
What arguments can be considered convincing and intelligible? A couple of knocked out teeth and a broken rib are enough for a reasonable person. If the mind is not enough, then the number of teeth and ribs must be doubled, at the same time add oIo and liver. Trimming an ear (or two at once) also helps.
16. The wife went to her lover. Can it be returned?
No, you won't be able to do anything. She can only return on her own. And this happens quite often, after a sheep that has strayed from the family has plenty of shit to swallow and realizes that the trick to change horses has failed. We must save ourselves and do something immediately. And here she has two options: either transfer to the next pepper (however, she still needs to find it!), Or return to her husband for a while. In the second variant, after turning over with her husband for a year or two, she goes to a new huntsman. And such "back and forth" from one jade log to another can continue right up to her death, well, or until the wishing ones run out.
17. The wife says that men do not pay attention to her. Is it true?
Not true. Men pay attention to all women without exception. On beautiful ones to admire and try to pick up some. On the terrible, to be horrified and laugh at those who cohabit with them.
Ask her: “They don’t pay so much that no one even offers to get laid?”
Well, do you understand, dude? She takes you for a sucker!
18. Should I ask my wife to apologize for cheating?
In no case. Do not ask, do not demand, do not threaten. Otherwise, you will become an insignificant cacalder! Do you want to be a caulder, dude? After proven infidelity, the wives do not apologize, but are stupidly silent. They are waiting for the idiot husbands to start asking them for something. They are silent and wait when the cuckold will not stand it and say: "Come back, I will forgive everything." You can play such silent games, but you should not ask the traitor, but she should ask you.
She is the one who pauses. Do you know how to pause? This is great art! Read about it on the net. Set yourself a deadline - a month. If during this period no progress has been received from her in terms of repentance, feel free to drive her “in three necks”.
19. The wife left. What will happen if she finds out that I'm even better off without her?
She will hang herself with envy and malice. So don't tell her anything, lest you be accused of driving her to suicide.
21. The wife cheated, her lover left her. What should a husband do?
A real man will never forgive such meanness. It is necessary to properly clean the face of that insignificant yokharka and explain: “What are you, a goat, you sailed and left? If you don’t marry her, hang on a high bough!” If the lover is poverty under the fence, then find her another lover, more reliable and monetary.
23. The wife became very cold in sex after meeting classmates. What could be?
This means that it was warmed up there properly.
24. How many centimeters is needed for a woman so that she does not cheat on her husband?
Dr. Tetcorax warns the reader against complacency in this matter. No matter how much you have, over time, a woman demands more and more. Or something else altogether. And most likely, she is tired of this tedious, boring marriage, husband, children, etc. She collects her belongings and brings down to hell in the hope of better life. Therefore, you need to constantly take measures to increase your size. It's not easy, but it's possible! Doubling the size is real! Read more in articles
25. Why ex-wife loves ex-husband but does not leave her lover?
Why burn all the bridges? Good for drinking water. You are just an alternate airfield. But what if! "In flight, the engine failed!" It will land at your place for a while, trim the fuselage - and again rush off into the foggy distance. Women are like birds, they fly to where the food is better. Don't believe in fables. Shake off the noodles. She loves not you, but that stinky pepper.
26. How do Russian husbands feel about the fact that their wives' lovers are not Russian?
Yes, even aliens! Whatever nationality the lover is, this is not the main thing. The main thing is to be a good person. And he paid well for her services.
27. How to make the wife forget about her lover?
Give her a lobotomy. Nothing else helps.
28. Can a wife cheat if she is over fifty?
A wife can change at any age. And for 60, and for 80, and even when they carry her in a coffin to the cemetery. And as for those who are “over 50”, then at this age they often wake up in a place you know just hellish forces. And even the all-absorbing Pusi Riot. Do not relax, dude, "peace we only dream of"! 😦
29. How to persuade your wife to swinger parties?
Don't be an idiot. If she does what these parties are for, then you've lost your wife. Forever and ever.
30. Lover openly calls my wife. What to do?
1. Take away her phone, change her number, write a complaint for telephone hooliganism, answer that she no longer lives here, emigrate with her to Honduras or somewhere else.
2. Say that you are her pimp, and if that pepper does not pay for her services as a prostitute, then let him blame himself, since you have already put him on the counter. Call him every week and remind him how many bucks his debt has increased.
3. If it doesn’t help, then you need to gather clear boys and popularly explain to that pepper the rules of knightly etiquette. (See request #15 above)
31. The wife left with the child to her lover. Can it return?
Most likely it will. Why the hell is that lustful dog bathing with someone else's child?
And what are you up to? You can't be so loving. If your ex is not a fool, then she will return, and even bring goodness with her! Even the apartment can turn away from that sucker. Such cases have happened more than once. Call her regularly and inspire her not to get pregnant from that pepper within two or three years! Otherwise, it may return not only with your child, but also with someone else's.
Learn your native language! If the wife left for another, then this other is no longer a lover, but a cohabitant. And if after that they also got married, then this is the second husband.
Read more “Current issues of cuckolding. Part 5. Question 101. “The wife went to her lover. Will she return to her husband?
32.2 Can a man be my wife's friend?
A wife should not make her own friends. Enough with her and her husband's friends. (Plutarch)
If you do not agree with this ancient Greek, then you can take a chance. "To the madness of the brave we sing a song."
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