Mom, you and dad just became the grandparents of the best grandson, congratulations - three five hundred, fifty one centimeters!
- Waited! I know where it is better to give the boy. I will take him to the ballet.
- Mom, what ballet? He goes to boxing. You must understand what time we live in.
Here comes the conversation and grandfather:
- Do not wait! As soon as my grandson turns 3, his grandfather will give him to chess.
Did you smile? Familiar dialogue? In this article you will learn:
- how to better understand which circle to choose for your child;
- how to develop your baby in the best direction for him;
- what you need to know and understand when choosing additional education and education for a child;
- how to understand the desires of your child and whether they need to be taken into account;
- dance circle: the story of three boys.
Send the child to the mother's favorite circle
Recently I happened to attend a reporting concert of the Belarusian community. Before the start I met young mothers - my friends. They did not hide their excitement and pride - now their sons will perform. Moms were friends from school, they themselves were engaged in dancing. They also decided to send their boys to the same creative team - you won’t find a better one.
What a concert! It was opened by the smallest children - 7 years old - three girls, three boys. The children lined up one by one. The music played. In the foreground stood the smallest boy. From the very first seconds, he literally riveted attention to himself. He was the best. A ready-made artist performed: plastic, precise movements, looseness, rhythm, smile. You could see how happy the child was. At the same time, he tried to look into the eyes of the audience, trying to understand what the review would be like. I wanted to watch and enjoy the wonderful dance.
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In the matter of choosing a circle or mom and dad should be guided by his wishes and real abilities. Many parents will say that this is an obvious truth. But how to understand what the soul of the baby lies in? How to assess the child's abilities, his potential abilities? To answer this question, you will have to carefully observe the baby.
The choice of a hobby largely depends on which the child is endowed with. Creative circles and sections are chosen mainly by melancholic people. These children grow up vulnerable and impressionable, they are prone to expressing deep feelings. Psychologists recommend taking such kids to a trial lesson in a fine arts or applied arts studio, a music school, rhythmic gymnastics or figure skating classes. After the first lesson, the kid will decide for himself whether he wants to continue classes in the section or not.
If a phlegmatic person grows in a family, he can be enrolled in a technical or computer circle, sports sections (cycling or equestrian sports, swimming, athletics or gymnastics, tennis). These areas of activity are most suitable for phlegmatic people: here you need to have a sober mind, prudence, developed logical and spatial thinking, the ability to analyze the situation and stubbornly look for a way out of any, even seemingly hopeless, situation.
A sanguine child will probably enjoy being in a drama club, a photography studio, or a foreign language. It is in these areas that the activity, mobility and friendliness of the sanguine person will find their due use. Passion for leadership is in the blood of sanguine people, they like to be the center of the company, pose, act, revealing their nature from different angles.
Choleric kids are suitable for shooting, speed skating, short-distance swimming, fencing, horseback riding, playing musical instruments, etc. The mobility and impulsiveness inherent in them will contribute to the achievement of success in these areas of activity.
It is very important to take the child to one or another circle in a timely manner. Too early acquaintance with a hobby can have sad consequences: the kid, due to his age, will not appreciate it, will make hasty, but final conclusions. It is believed that dance clubs, an art studio, a school of early development, foreign languages can be attended from 3-4 years old. Five-year-olds can learn swimming, skiing, skating and rollerblading. At the age of 5, kids are also accepted into ballet schools. After 7 years, children can be enrolled in the hockey, football, music school or photography studio, chess club, technical and computer sections.
In addition to the temperament and natural abilities of the child, there are several other important parameters that should be considered when choosing a mug. First of all, this is a category of baby health. If the crumbs have some chronic diseases or pathologies, then it is better to coordinate the choice of a circle with a pediatrician, because in one case sports can worsen the child’s condition, and in the other they will only strengthen his physical health. For example, doctors recommend swimming to strengthen the immune system.
In addition, you need to understand that for each lesson there is its own “age entry point”. For example, playing figure hockey at the age of 3 is not a good idea. of course, the child will be able to learn a few "pas", but he is unlikely to be able to avoid serious injuries, since he still does not know how to properly control his body. This skill appears and is honed by 5-.
An important criterion is the territorial location of the institution of additional education. If the mother plans to go to work, then in the future the child will have to go to the section on her own, which means that she should be within walking distance from home.
Parents pay for visiting sections and circles. Moreover, the services of most leisure institutions cost quite decent money. Therefore, before inviting a child to go to one or another section, it is recommended to analyze the offers that exist on the educational services market and identify those that mom and dad are able to pay for. It should be noted that in addition to the cost of the mug itself, many involve additional expenses - the purchase of special clothes, shoes, accessories, etc. The child should be offered only those options that parents can afford.
However, in some cases, when a child has an obvious talent and, importantly, an unquenchable desire to develop in a particular field of activity, you can try your luck and enter a general education sports reserve school or an Olympic reserve school. You can study there for free if the coach highly appreciates the abilities and potential of the child.
Enrolling your child in several clubs at once can also be dangerous. Instead of pleasure, the child will feel tired, which, sooner or later, will turn him away from all sections and circles.
Parents must be prepared for the fact that they will change. It is unlikely that the baby will find a hobby once and for all his life. To understand what exactly is of interest, he needs to “feel” and “try” different options. Therefore, you should not scold and, even more so, mock a child if he suddenly announces that instead of swimming he wants to take up singing. The task of parents at this stage is to support this child's search for himself, and in every possible way contribute to the formation of personality. You can quietly direct children's energy in the right direction, not make a choice for him.
Perhaps it’s worth starting with an analysis of what, in your opinion, your son or daughter has abilities, inclinations, what interests them. It is not necessary that the child has a talent for anything. Since in most cases we pursue the goal of organizing the child's leisure, emotional discharge from the tension accumulated during the day, it is sometimes advisable to choose an activity for which the child does not have any abilities, but there is a desire to do it. The exception is the sections, for classes in which it is necessary to initially have certain abilities and skills. If the child does not have them, then they will not take him, no matter how great his desire. Naturally, if you want a child to achieve significant success in one area or another, he should do what, firstly, he has the ability and, secondly, if he has these abilities, he is interested.
Wise parents think not only about what the child is interested in, but also about what will be useful to him in life. In particular, in this regard, girls should have their own selection of circles and sections, while boys should have their own, boyish set.
Ask for the child's opinion. Perhaps he already has in mind some kind of circle in which he would like to go. Or maybe he doesn't know anything about it at all. Then you will have to explain why he needs it, and talk about the options, offering the most attractive choice. Do not enroll your child in the section without consulting. Of course, children are not always able to correctly assess the situation and make an informed decision. Sometimes they feel like they don't want anything at all. Sometimes, on the contrary, as in Agnia Barto’s poem, “a drama circle, a photo circle, but I also want to sing ...” who he wants to be like. But still, taking a child against his will to where he does not want is not worth it: it will not bring pleasure to either you or your child.
What kind of sport you want to do is discussed. But the fact that you do sports is not discussed. This is a must in our family.
If the son or daughter insists on their own, does not agree with your arguments, then a variant is possible in which you give in. The choice of a circle is not as responsible as the choice of a school. In the worst case, the child will soon leave the circle in which he was so eager. For him, this will be a useful life experience: next time he will evaluate himself more critically and listen more carefully to the advice of his parents. If the child did not cope with what he was striving for, you should not say: “Yeah, I told you, but you didn’t listen!” It is better to calmly, without reproaches, discuss with him the reasons for the failure.
It is advisable to ask where the child's friends are doing at school, in the yard. He will be more comfortable if extracurricular activities will take place in his usual social circle.
If the child does not develop relationships with peers, then perhaps communication in neutral territory will help to establish them. However, be careful if the child has a clearly negative relationship with classmates, you should not enroll him in the same section where his "enemies" are engaged. The conflict will "move" with him to a new team, and visiting the circle will not be a pleasure for the child, but a punishment. It's better to start from scratch. Suddenly, in a new team, the child will be more lucky?
The proximity of the circle to the house, school is also an important factor. After all, the child will either have to go there himself, or accompanied by one of the adults. Visiting the most beautiful club on the other side of the city is hardly a good idea. The road will take too much time and will be very tiring for the child.
From a practical point of view, of course, the price that such development and entertainment of a child will cost you also matters. Choose a circle that you are really able to pay for. Most likely, if you opt for something fabulously expensive, you will begin to demand reciprocal sacrifices from the child: so that he does not miss classes, so that he tries his best, so that there are tangible results. Otherwise, what are you literally giving the last money for?! But in fact, classes should bring joy to your child and you. In addition, the high price does not always correspond to the quality of classes.
If you have roughly decided on the section (or sections) where you want to send your child, go to reconnaissance in the area. Arriving at the club, talk with the teacher, the head of the circle. Check with parents of children who are already there. If possible, ask the opinion of the children themselves. Look around, whether it is comfortable in the club, whether there is everything you need for classes. Be sure to find out what else you will have to bring for the child's classes, what form of clothing is accepted.
If you liked everything and the conditions suit you, visit a trial lesson with your child. As a rule, it is free. After the lesson, find out if he liked the leader, other children, the lessons themselves. And if you like it, then feel free to sign up.
Parents who have enrolled their child in the section have a new problem: there are more things to do, but the number of hours in the day is still the same. It is necessary to organize the time of a son or daughter in a new way in order to be in time for everything.
- The time and day of the week should be chosen taking into account the individual characteristics of the child. For example, if after school he is very tired or cannot do homework without your control, then it is more expedient to visit the section after school, and do homework in the evening when the child has a rest or when dad and mom come home from work. Classes can be on weekdays or only on weekends. The last option should be chosen if there is no one to take the child to the circle during the week, and he cannot get himself, or if the child has a very heavy load at school.
- The frequency and duration of classes depend on many factors: the child's working capacity, the workload at school, the complexity and tediousness of classes in the section, the ability of parents to accompany the child. The only general rule to keep in mind is that classes should not turn into a punishment for your family.
- How many clubs can a child attend? The answer is simple: as long as the child has enough time, strength and desire, and you have enough money.
- If classes in the section are not more important for you than studies (and as a rule they are), then it is obvious that the child's passion should not harm the educational process. The task of parents is to organize the time of the child in such a way that he has time for everything. At the same time, it is desirable that all obligatory work be completed first, and then entertainment. Such a rule may be one of the clauses of the contract between you and the child.
It is advisable to involve the child himself in the development of the day's plan. The likelihood that he will observe the daily regimen, which he seems to have developed himself, and was not forced to obey, is higher. When drawing up a plan for the day, offer the child alternatives, the opportunity to choose. In the end, it is he who will have to live according to this plan.
Make it clear to the child that the circle is a pleasure for him, which, in principle, he can lose with bad behavior. Once, at the very beginning, to clearly and categorically explain this to the child is correct and simply necessary, but you should not remember this for any little thing: use this agreement only in important cases.
Get rid of illusions in advance. The child is still small enough and not able to take full responsibility for himself. His interests are unstable. This means that even in the most favorable scenario, you will have to be aware of when and what activities the child has, what he should prepare at home, what he should bring with him. You need to know this not in order to do everything for the child, but in order to insure him. If he forgets, remind him. More than once or twice you will have to persuade the child to go to classes, even to the most favorite circle. However, it is worth doing this only if you are really sure that the child’s unwillingness to go to the section is associated with a momentary mood, and is not a persistent unwillingness to study there at all.
Remember that you care about the physical, mental, creative, social development of your child. Are the difficulties you face so great compared to your goal?
Of course, not a single house can be called truly happy if ringing laughter and the clatter of children's feet are not heard in it. For parents, the appearance of a baby is boundless happiness and a colossal responsibility, because in addition to the fact that the baby needs to be given good nutrition, it is necessary to make a real person out of it, to ensure a healthy lifestyle.
To put notes of mercy, to teach to give joy to others, to help choose the right direction in sports and creativity.
The harmonious development of a child is a difficult task for young parents, so you need to carefully monitor it and note for yourself the preferred directions in creativity or sports attachments.
The turning point in the life of every baby is considered to be the age of three, it is at this time that parents can analyze the behavior of the crumbs and offer him the most suitable activities. The possibilities of a small person are endless, because right now the road to the world of creativity or sports opens before him, right now, thanks to his parents, you can take a step towards a successful and interesting future.
The question of where to send a child at the age of three is asked by almost all parents, because right now you can lay the right direction in the physical and creative development of the baby. However, despite observations and analysis of a child's character, it is quite difficult to choose the right hobby for a child, so it is necessary to rely on the many years of experience of psychologists and children's specialists who have developed a lot of unique techniques.
Today, any parent, regardless of education, can apply several simple tricks that will allow you to find out the inclinations of the baby and choose the right direction for him.
How to understand what a child gravitates towards
Choosing the right hobby for a young child is very important, because it is the interest of the baby and allow him to achieve good results. It is very important to motivate your little peanut and help him in all his endeavors, thanks to the support of his parents, the baby will be able to engage in a creative studio or sports section with pleasure.
Three years is a rather small age, but it is from this period that the character begins to form, and the foundations of a small personality are laid, so psychologists advise choosing interesting hobbies of different directions for the baby. To date, there are a lot of different circles for children from 3 years old, so there should be no problems with the choice, the only thing that should be taken into account is the interest of the child.
It is worth noting that at the age of three, boys and girls practically do not differ from each other, they are active, inquisitive, spontaneous, the formation of personality by gender begins in babies much later, so you need to choose a hobby for a child based on his needs. An important aspect for future development is the specifics of raising a child, the level of education of parents and the direction of their thinking.
If creative disorder is welcomed in the family, kids grow up in harmony and calmness, most often they open up their creative abilities. In turn, families where an important aspect of life is following the schedule, full control of actions, children have a tougher character and prefer sports sections. Despite the nature and mood of the crumbs, it is best to offer several options, perhaps today's choice will be a wonderful future for him.
There is a fairly simple ability test.
For one week, the child is shown various sports programs, then interesting paintings, poems, and musical compositions are selected for him. At the age of three, a child quite easily chooses pleasant music or an interesting sport; based on weekly observations, options for classes can be suggested.
Most often, a child at this age clearly articulates his preferences and tells his parents that he likes ballet or boxing. Try this exercise with your little man, and everything will fall into place.
Unleashing creativity
After a long analysis of the behavior of your baby, you managed to determine his attachment to creativity, the only thing left to do is to choose a narrow focus and start classes. In any Russian city, a large number of studios for children's development and creativity are open, an important task for parents is to choose the right teacher and a program that will correspond to the level of development of the child.
It is best to stop your choice on experienced people with a pedagogical education, they will be able to correctly convey to the child the prospects for development in one or another creative direction. At the age of three, you can send your baby to a circle of singing, dancing, drawing, a creative studio, as well as acting classes: it all depends on your choice and abilities.
Vocal lessons
Of course, playing musical instruments at this age is quite early, but you can start vocal lessons, this will help the child learn to read faster, pronounce sounds correctly and control his voice.
Sculpt and draw
If your amazing child does not show love for vocals, you can offer a modeling or drawing circle, quite often at the age of three, children begin to draw amazing pictures. Many eminent painters from early childhood surprised their parents and others with interesting portraits, abstraction and still lifes, perhaps painting will open a love for sculpture in a child.
Acting School
In addition to drawing and modeling, you can offer your kid training in acting school, today children's roles are quite in demand. In addition to choosing a career as an actor, classes in such studios will allow the child to gain self-confidence, learn how to behave in public and present themselves competently in society.
Thanks to training in acting studios, the child will have a clear understanding of how to behave in society, how to dress, what makeup to choose, what to do to make a good impression, but most importantly, the crumbs will have the opportunity to make a career in the film industry or on the stage.
Little Writer
Very often, parents do not notice their child's craving for writing fairy tales and poems, but it is at a young age that fantasy works great, and children can create real literary masterpieces. In some cities of our country there are special schools for little poets and writers, training there begins from three to five years old, everything will depend on abilities and talent.
Learning languages
If a child has excellent diction and a wonderful memory, you can send him to a school for studying foreign languages, it is much easier to learn languages at the age of three, because the amount of memory is larger and the game process captivates the baby completely. When choosing a creative circle, you should not place too much hope on your child, select loads according to age and talent level so that mistakes and mistakes do not cause psychological trauma.
Maybe a child, a future Olympic champion?
From early childhood, we are told that a healthy mind must be in a healthy body, so the child must develop not only spiritually, but also physically. It is rather difficult to choose a sports section for a child from the age of 3, because the body is just beginning to form and excessive loads can adversely affect the general state of health. A huge amount of energy is accumulated in the body of a growing person, which must be spent, respectively, physical activity is the best option. Modern children very easily receive information from various sources, so watching sports channels will allow you to determine their inclinations.
Sending a child to a sports section at the age of three is not an easy task, because it is necessary to take into account not only the abilities of a growing organism, but also future results. Most pediatricians distinguish several groups of physical activity according to which you can choose a sport:
Sport, first of all, is discipline and active physical development, therefore, when choosing in this direction, it is necessary to be guided by common sense and the real physical capabilities of the baby. Due to the high activity of young children, you should remember that playing sports is quite traumatic, approach the choice of a coach seriously and carefully.
Based on the classification of psychologists and pediatricians, it is best to give a three-year-old child to sections that do not require heavy loads.
Sports sections with an average level of physical activity are more popular because dancing and port games are great for boys and girls.
A common mistake many parents make is that they try to implement failed projects through their children. Many tend to send their kids to the sections in which they themselves wanted to study, mothers prepare their babies to be models or actresses, completely forgetting about the true nature of their child.
You should not put too much responsibility on the small shoulders of children, because if you have not been successful in sports or creativity, this does not mean that children should fix everything for you. First of all, you need to focus on the real physical and intellectual abilities of the little one, understand and feel his needs. It is this approach that will allow you to choose the right direction for the child for further development.
Today, every parent is interested in the development of his child comprehensively, both spiritually and physically. That is why many mothers and fathers are faced with the problem of how to choose a developmental circle for a child and where to send their children. Now there are many circles for children, both for toddlers and for teenagers. If we talk about what kind of circles there are for children who are already 12 years old, then among their diversity we can distinguish the most popular: sports, art, dance school, chess, vocals, acting and pop skills, technical and computer, etc.
For most parents, the main principle that guides them when choosing a circle is health first! That is why the guys give sports mugs for children. You can start classes in this kind of section from the age of 4. It all depends on the sport. Classes in such circles contribute to the fact that the child is more likely to get used to physical activity. As a result, endurance increases.
Once upon a time there was an artist...
Art circles are suitable for those children who have perseverance. Classes in such circles will help not only to reveal the talent of a young artist, but also contribute to the development of his own taste and spatial thinking.
If your child has sufficient plasticity, flexibility and loves to dance, suggest that he go to a dance and choreography school. This is a great option for both boys and girls. The child will have a beautiful stately posture and a good figure, which is important both for health and beauty, because very soon your son or daughter will turn into a teenager.
Who is the chess club for?
Classes in a chess circle are suitable for those children who from an early age were distinguished by a special sharpness of mind, and already in the elementary grades showed the ability to solve complex mathematical problems. Constant training in such sections will contribute to the further development of the child, and the formation of the ability to calculate the situation in advance.
Acting and pop art circles
The circle of acting and pop skills is perfect for those children who from childhood were not shy of strangers and behaved confidently in public. Classes in such circles will also help those teenagers who are not self-confident and doubt their abilities.
How useful are classes in technical circles for children?
Technical circles will be especially interesting for those children who are fond of science and various modern gadgets. An aviation circle can also be attributed to this kind of sections. In the classroom, children are taught the basics of modeling. At the same time, everything begins with an acquaintance with the device of the aircraft, its main components.
Recently, computer circles for children have gained particular popularity. And all this is easily explained, because. In the digital age, it cannot be otherwise. Today, there is hardly a teenager who is not interested in modern devices and computer technology.