Stay away from those who are constantly trying to please you. They clearly have their own goals, and it is not at all necessary that their goals and yours coincide. On the contrary, pay attention to people who behave awkwardly in your presence and are embarrassed by you. Such influences will respond much better. You need to understand that influence spreads like a virus. Subjugate those who are weaker, and then gradually reach the strong ones. You don't have to do everything yourself.

For example, if you want to influence your boss's decisions, this does not mean that the only or most effective way is to talk to him directly.

Often things work out much better if someone else does it for you. Get yourself such people.

Make the victim feel safe

The people you are trying to subjugate to your will must feel protected and completely safe with you. The most effective way to achieve this is to make them think that you are close. Tell them some secret about yourself.

Let it seem to them that you have opened up in front of them and trust them so much that you are not afraid to appear weak.

A secret doesn't have to be true. But whatever it is, you must definitely foresee the possibility that your secret will not remain a secret and someone else will find out about it.

That is, on the one hand, it must be something very personal. And on the other hand, something that will not damage your reputation, and preferably vice versa - if everyone knows, they will think even better about you.

Send double signals

You must behave in such a way that people do not know your true position on any issue. If you call two of your colleagues and ask them what you think about a new deal, they should confidently say the exact opposite.

You need the ability to change your point of view at a convenient moment - and for this, no one should know what you really think.

Keep in mind that this game is only suitable for very advanced players - it's easy for a beginner to get confused, so be careful.

Make everyone want to be your friend

You must become the person who doesn’t go to anyone and doesn’t start a conversation first unless absolutely necessary.

But everyone around him seems very interesting and mysterious, and everyone wants to be friends with him. Moreover, many even believe that they are friends with him (but, of course, it only seems so to them).

If you succeed, the job is done. Now any word you say will be valued twice as much. Your opinion will be decisive in the group, and it is your ideas that will be recognized as the most successful.

Pay attention to the little things

In a good way, people who know how to manipulate and those who don’t are distinguished by exactly one thing - the ability to pay attention to little things.

How many spoons of sugar does your colleague like to put in his coffee? At what time of day does the boss have the impulse to work? You must understand that there are no details about colleagues and superiors that are unimportant.

Maybe there are words that irritate them or, on the contrary, turn them on? Study the people you want to manipulate, otherwise nothing will work.

Don't forget to get lost

Let's say you are conducting business negotiations and have already reached an agreement that completely suits you. Your partner is also terribly pleased and is sure that he has finally finished off you and will now get what he wants. At this moment, you must definitely - albeit for a short time - turn in the opposite direction.

It is very important that the person you are trying to manipulate has the feeling, at least for a minute, that he is about to let you go.

Nothing makes you and your offerings more desirable than the thought of being lost. Your partner will quickly fall for the trick and, perhaps out of fear, will offer you even better conditions.

And even if this does not happen, in the future he will treat a contract with you with caution if he knows that you are not in despair and can easily do without it. Let him be afraid of losing you.

Who among us does not dream of subjugating, ruling, and precisely in such a way that people obey unquestioningly and do what we want. With the help of magical rituals, you can manipulate people, depriving them of their will, making them slaves. However... Such actions are unlikely to be useful for the one on whom they are performed, and on the one performing the rituals, all these manipulations can return as a boomerang fourfold. Therefore, before you start such actions, you should think very carefully - punishment for them is inevitable. Before you start such actions, you should think very carefully - punishment for them is inevitable

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The magic of submission

Rituals to suppress the will and subjugate a person belong to black magic and are based on interference in the energy field of another person without his consent, due to which this person can get sick if he is weakened energetically. Yes, the effectiveness of such manipulations depends on the aura of the person being plotted against. If a person is energetically intact, self-confident, then his aura is absolutely healthy, has no damage through which magical blows can be applied, and your actions will not be able to reach him, and will not cause such a person any harm, but it may “come back to haunt you.” Rituals to suppress the will and subjugate a person belong to black magic

We all want to be loved, however, this feeling, unfortunately, very often is not reciprocated. And if there is no reciprocity, then is it worth continuing such a relationship, even with the help of magic? Forcing yourself to love yourself by resorting to magical rituals is violence against the individual, so think carefully - do you really need this person? Would you like to commit yourself to him for life, or is this just a momentary whim? If a person treats you coldly, no magic will help. No, after the ritual he will be with you, but his attitude towards you will not change, and both of you will suffer. If you still decide to resort to magical actions, then at least do them on a person who does not treat you with open hostility, otherwise your future life with him will turn out to be complete hell for you. And one more thing - you need to carry out such rituals based on the purity of your soul and thoughts. If some selfish goal such as revenge is being pursued, then, you understand, you can’t expect any good from what you did.

Below will be given conspiracies in order to subjugate a man (woman), husband (wife), boyfriend (girlfriend), or arouse the interest of men in you, which are more or less harmless and, if performed correctly, will help you achieve the desired result with the least amount of money. losses.

Rituals to subjugate a husband

• If suddenly you notice that your spouse is behaving inappropriately towards you - he is not paying attention, he has grown cold, then perhaps you have a rival. To avoid the worst, perform a ritual to subjugate your spouse to your will. To do this, during the addition of the night luminary, take your spouse’s white shirt, which you have not yet had time to wash, use a church candle to set fire to the collar of the shirt, while reading the following words: “People look in mirrors, but my husband (name) looks only at me . The soap is quickly washed off with water, and my husband, looking at me, loves and smiles. There is a white shirt on his body - and a bright smile on his face. Just as the collar of his shirt burns, so my husband will forget to look at others. Let it be so!" After the collar burns completely, extinguish your spouse’s clothes and hide them so that no one will find them;
• if there are frequent scandals and quarrels in the family, then the following ritual will help you. Take your spouse’s unwashed shirt and tie its sleeves with a knot, read the spell on the knot: “Let this knot hold the sleeves, and I will be above the spouse (name). Amen!" The shirt must be hidden. After the ritual, the husband will become accommodating and flexible;
• Do you want your spouse to listen only to you? Perform a ritual - braid your hair and do not unravel it for three days. On the fourth night, at three o’clock, unravel your braid and comb your hair, while saying the spell three times: “On my head is my hair, in my hand is my braid. My mind is in my teeth. Whatever I said, I showed my mind. In church, people listen to the bells, but my husband only hears me. Let it be so!";

  If there are frequent scandals in the family, a ritual with the spouse’s shirt will help

• ritual to make the spouse submit and obey. Three aspen branches are set on fire using a church candle. Looking at the fire, they say the words three times: “The Moon and the Star have agreed, the Sky and the Sun have agreed - they will all agree among themselves, and my words will be fulfilled, strengthened and established. My decrees for (husband’s name) be orders, just as the child of the parents listens, so the spouse (name) will obey me. In the name of Koshchny I lock it, let it be as I said!”;
• after this ritual, your husband will obey only you. Bake a sweet pie that your husband loves. When preparing a treat, say: “Pie - pie, bring peace and harmony to my family, my friend! When my husband tastes you, he feels frightened by my word - let my word become law for him, let peace come to my family. Let it be so!" After your husband tastes the pie, he will only obey you;
• to subjugate your husband to your will, cast a spell on water, which you then add to your spouse’s favorite drink. To do this, on any Friday evening, say a spell on a container of water 12 times: “There is a stone at the bottom - it is silent, it does not say anything. He submitted to my will - while away his life in captivity. Let my husband submit to me and not break out from under my will. And I give him food and water - for him my will is law, forever. Whoever messes up my word will have a pip on his tongue. Let it be so!" Prepare any drink from this water on Saturday morning and give it to your husband. Soon, he will never be able to refuse you anything and will be obedient and flexible;
• after performing this ritual, your spouse will submit to you forever. On any Thursday, when your husband is not at home, take a photo of him alone and say the spell three times: “My words will be strong, but my deeds will be sculpted. Just as a horse is subdued by a collar - it does not run, does not kick, so my husband submits to me forever - I will throw his collar on the one who is dear to my heart. From now on, everything is my will, your share is in my power. Resign yourself to my collar and submit to my will. Let it be so. Amen!" The next morning you will notice that your husband seems to have been replaced, so he will become obedient.

How to subjugate your loved one

To make the guy only yours, you can make a love attachment

• so that the guy you like is only yours, you can make such a love attachment. To do this, you need to take a rope and wrap it around your waist. This is the length of the piece you will need for the ceremony. You will need to tie 12 knots on this rope, repeating the words of the plot for submission: “My beloved will leave me when my hands untie these knots. Let it be so!" The rope must be taken to the forest and placed in any hollow. After this, the magic will begin to work. This ritual is good because it can be performed on a person who is far from you;
• to make a guy fall in love with you, they perform the following ritual - they take an item that they give to their loved one after the ritual, and say the following words to it: “As birds fly boldly in the sky, so things in love would always go well for us (names). Just as the sun always illuminates the earth, so would my beloved love me alone. Just as a new day comes and illuminates people with light, so with us (names), sorrows would be rare, and happiness would be accurate. Just as water flows endlessly in a river, so life in happiness for us (names) would never end. Let it be so!" Once the item is in the hands of your boyfriend, the conspiracy will begin to take effect.

Rites of submission of a man to blood

Rituals performed on blood are considered one of the most powerful and effective in black magic. They work for sure, therefore, in order to carry out such manipulations, please think carefully about everything again - there will be no turning back. And the consequences will inevitably overtake you.

Rituals involving blood are usually held at night during the waxing moon. Blood taken from a finger is mixed with alcohol - red wine.

You need to pierce your ring finger with a treated needle and place an odd number of drops into a glass of red wine, saying the spell: “As you drink this wine to your heart’s content, your passion for me will awaken in you. All your thoughts will be about me - both night and day. Amen!" After your loved one takes a sip of this wine, the love spell will begin to work.

The next plot is made for sugar. You need to light a red candle, take a piece of refined sugar and drop a drop of blood on it, saying: “As this drop is dear to me, let me be so dear to you (name)! Amen!"

This ritual is performed on the waxing moon. Three drops of your blood are dripped into red wine, reciting the spell: “(Name) drink to the bottom, finish it! Take my blood into yourself. My blood is strong, but your will is weak. (Name), you are my slave now, I am your mistress. Your life is for me, you have no strength. You have no others, now you are mine - forever. Amen!" If close communication with a man is impossible, perform a ritual of submission at a distance

If close communication with a man is impossible, they perform a ritual of submission at a distance. To do this, you will need a full-length photo of your loved one, and an indoor flower that has been constantly growing in your home for a long time. Before the full moon, a few days before, light a red candle, tear off a branch or leaf from a flower, burn it in the flame of the candle, saying the spell: “I give you up as a sacrifice, for slaughter, for this love spell, reward. Let it be so!" Place the ashes from the plant in a bowl. It is believed that this flower will take on all the consequences of a love spell. Then, they take a photo of their loved one, concentrate completely on it, thinking about their love, prick their finger, draw a blood line along the photo from bottom to top, which extends from the genitals to the head, then repeat the words of the spell again and burn the photo. The remains from the photo are also placed in a bowl with the ashes from the flower. The ashes are mixed, half is buried in a pot with a flower, and the other half should be sprinkled on the threshold of the person being bewitched.

Conspiracy to subjugate a man's will

Every girl dreams of being desired by men. To attract the attention of the opposite sex, read the following spell: “As everyone waits for spring, they wait, as they smile in the red sun, so boys and men would rejoice at me. Mature men, young men, and very young men would look and admire me, beautiful, and fawn over me. They would respect me with honor, they would receive me with honor, they would kneel in front of me, they would come to show mercy to me, and they would dream of kissing me. Words are the keys, deeds are the locks. Amen!" This is a simple conspiracy that attracts the attention of men to your person, it is very effective, however, its effect is very short-lived, therefore, in order to be constantly in the attention of men and boys, you need to repeat it more often.

Now let's talk about a more powerful ritual. To complete it you will need:

• personalized icon of the person being bewitched;
• personalized icon of the bewitcher;
• two black candles;
• cross from the church;
• one ripe apple.

Every girl dreams of being desired by men

Manipulations are carried out at night, in the light of lit candles, between which icons are placed, on the left - female, on the right - male. A cross is placed between the icons. An apple is placed in the center of the cross. The words of the conspiracy are as follows: “It is not a church sacrament, it is a nighttime petition. Nowadays I do not sentence with a prayer, but with a black bird, and a little love spell, and a little black bird. Everything is coordinated, everything is done, and through the cross, fate (name) is attached to fate (name). They are loved by the apple, and paved with bodily delight, just as the Evil One himself measured himself through the apple, but man became filled with sin, so through the apple, and laid crosswise, two destinies are intertwined, and two hearts are made one by love. If they were tempted, and were called Adam and Eve, then now loved, and made by one fate, then (name) and (name) were named, lived by one life, and walked one path. Amen!"

In the morning the apple is buried in the church yard. They leave the yard - without turning around, without talking to anyone at random meetings until the house. The result is awaited in complete calm, without taking any other magical actions that could inhibit the action of this ritual. There is also no need to respond to every phone call and door knock, which can also only cause harm.

Good luck in love!

Mutual exchange of pleasantries: favor for favor

You don't know how to get your colleague to help you with your annual report. Or you dream that your friend will invite you to a party that he is throwing only for VIP friends, but you don’t dare ask about it. We suggest you take advantage of the “Quit for Service” manipulation.

This is a fairly effective way of manipulation. The point is this: you are the first to do a favor, provide help, make a concession to your “victim,” and after that ask for a small favor. This method works almost flawlessly. You use the human conscience as your assistant. People have a clear mechanism for mutual assistance and mutual assistance: the majority lives according to the principle: “you give me, I give you.” By providing a service, we, firstly, win the man over, and secondly, we achieve a feeling of unexpressed gratitude.

To get your way from a man, you must make him believe in your selflessness and sincere desire to help. Here's what it looks like in practice. For example, you want to go to a nightclub with your girlfriend without your lover. Prepare a little surprise for his arrival: “Darling, today for dinner your favorite shrimp and a glass of beer for dessert.” If you manage to create the conditions for him to have a wonderful evening without you, then, out of gratitude, he will certainly repay you in kind - he will agree to let you go alone.

If your friend accidentally mentions a grand party that he is throwing at his home only for a select few, but is in no hurry to invite you, do not immediately despair. Give him a gift that he can’t refuse: invite him to go to the concert of his favorite band, for which you happened to have a ticket, and then you will definitely be among the invitees.

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Rule No. 25

Innocent blackmail: tease a man

The blackmail method is best used when all other possible methods have already been used and have not brought any results. This method of manipulation is as follows: you are trying to scare a man, trying to force him to fulfill your request, otherwise you promise to do something that he will not tolerate, which he is terribly afraid of, which he dreams of in nightmares.

Manipulation will only bear fruit if you know what a man is afraid of. For example: “If you don’t stop throwing your dirty socks all over the house, I’ll stop washing them,” “If you come home from work so late every day, I’ll go to see your mom,” “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you.” You must understand the danger of this method of manipulation: after all, you may not scare a man, but, on the contrary, please him. Perhaps he is just waiting for you to finally leave him or go to your mother, and he will do what he really wants. In addition, there is a danger that manipulative blackmail can serve as a reason for a serious quarrel. As soon as you feel that you have gone too far and your threats are only irritating the man, you should stop and try to make peace.

If you decide to use this trick, you must be as serious as possible - do not smile, speak confidently and decisively. Do everything to make a man believe you, be truly scared, and feel in your power. Remember that you must be serious, otherwise they will not believe you and you will lose. Your demand and your actions, if it is not met, must be proportionate: for example, if you want your man to stop being late for dates, you can scare him by becoming equally forgetful and simply not coming next time.

Remember also that you should not resort to this method of manipulation too often. If you have never tried to carry out your threat, the man will understand that you are simply bluffing, that your blackmail is nothing more than a desperate attempt to make him dance to your tune. Therefore, this method is best used only in exceptional cases when other methods no longer help.

Chapter 3

How to persuade a man to do what you want?

Rule No. 26

How to persuade a man to visit your mother?

Persuading a man to visit your mother - real or potential mother-in-law - is not an easy task. It just so happened historically that the relationship between the parent and the candidate for her daughter’s hand and heart, as a rule, is slightly strained.

There are, of course, happy exceptions when mother-in-law and son-in-law live in perfect harmony. If people close to you cannot establish contact, then this chapter is for you.

Are your lover's visits to your mother so rare that he still can't remember her name? Does your offer to visit your mother make him nervous? Is he always looking for an excuse to refuse another date? Use manipulation to persuade your man to pay another visit to your mother. Here are a few methods you can use.

Method 1: “It slipped my mind.” The essence of this method is as follows: you announce a meeting with your parent suddenly, citing your own forgetfulness: “Dear, I’m sorry, I forgot to tell you that today my mother is expecting us to visit.” If your beloved tries to refuse the meeting, say that this is impossible , because your mother has already prepared her signature pie and is certainly waiting for you. If this does not work, then come up with some imaginary reason for the visit - for example, a visit in honor of a birthday or a promotion.

Method 2: “Phenomenal forgetfulness.” Start preparing for the visit without explanation. When your beloved asks where you are going, reproach him for forgetfulness: “I told you last week that we were going to visit my parents, but you, as usual, forgot. You know how important this is to me.”

Method 3: “Avoke sympathy for your mother.” In order to make the meeting of your loved ones more desirable, try to make them like each other. How to do it? You should not retell verbatim your telephone conversations with your mother, convey all her reproaches and dissatisfaction. Give your lover compliments on her behalf: “My mother admired you so much, she thinks that I made a good choice,” “Mom says that you are very talented and smart,” “Mom is sure that you will have a good career.”

Try to persuade your mother to be more friendly and kind towards your chosen one. Even if he doesn’t suit her in some way, explain to her that this is your choice and you do not intend to change anything. Persuade her to please your companion: let her praise him, cook his favorite dish for dinner, and be attentive to him. Then your man will understand that your mother is not such a tyrant and despot as she seemed at first, she is a completely nice person and treats him with respect. The emerging sympathy will make their meetings much more pleasant.

Rule No. 27

How to persuade a man to give you an expensive gift?

You want to persuade your man to spend a significant amount of money on you, but you don't know where to start. You understand that you shouldn’t act directly, since you may come across a decisive “no” on his part, but which method of manipulation should you use? Which one will be the most effective?

In order to achieve your goal, you can use several fairly effective hidden control techniques.

Your task is to convince the man that purchasing this thing is vital for you, that you absolutely cannot do without it. How to convince him of this? Try to use all your acting talents. The success of the entire event will depend on how much you yourself desire to purchase a new dress or jewelry. You don't have time for doubt. Once you find yourself in a jewelry store, try to sincerely feign admiration for the chic necklace you’ve been dreaming about for so long. Don’t be shy in your expressions, try to be a maximalist: “This is exactly what I have dreamed of all my adult life, if I get this, I will be the happiest woman in the world.” If your man believes that this purchase is really important to you, he is unlikely to refuse it to you. Try to confuse the man and mislead him regarding the required amount. If he asks the seller to name the price, ask the seller not to name it right away: say that you don’t want to be upset, but would still like to try it on. If you wear the jewelry or dress of your dreams, then consider yourself halfway won.

There is one more important tip. Never warn your man in advance about an upcoming shopping trip or that you want to buy a very expensive item. By warning him in advance about upcoming expenses, you give him time to think. During this time, he can collect his thoughts and think carefully about whether it is worth giving you such an expensive gift. It’s better if you drag your beloved to a fashionable boutique or an expensive restaurant completely spontaneously, as if without intending to buy anything. Such spontaneity will be to your advantage - the man simply will not be able to get his bearings, so, most likely, he will fulfill your “little” whim.

In addition, by bringing your loved one to the store, you get another advantage - you can demonstrate a future purchase. And visibility, as we know, is worth a thousand words. Your man will understand how great the necklace or evening dress you choose looks on you. And perhaps, without even looking at the price, he will hand the seller his credit card.

Rule No. 28

How to persuade a man to cook dinner?

There is a common misconception among men that only women should cook. Men's concern is to earn more money, and a woman must create all the conditions for this: first of all, feed her man. The male half of the population is not embarrassed by the fact that women, just like them, work, look after children (if they have any, of course), take care of themselves and manage to clean the house. Men often don’t wonder how their beloved manages to do everything.

If you don’t want to turn into a tortured housewife who only has household chores on her mind, you will have to learn to exploit your beloved. If you have no idea how to get your man to help you with housework, for example, to cook something edible for you, then this chapter is for you.

First, try to convince him that cooking is not a purely feminine activity and many men love to cook, and in restaurants the chefs are predominantly male. There is no point in stating this directly. You can talk about this topic casually, as if not pursuing any goals. During dinner, for example, you can tell your man a story about the wonderful talent of your friend’s husband: they say, he cooks so well that you’ll just lick your fingers. One of the many culinary programs may be among your favorite programs; it is better if its participants are predominantly men. It is advisable that your man be present when watching it and at least glance at the TV screen.

The most important thing is to get the man to take the first step: if he picks up a cookbook, he will probably have a desire to surprise you. As they say, hard trouble begins. How to achieve this? Come up with some urgent matter for yourself that will not allow you to come home for dinner during the week. For example, emergency at work: balance sheet or something else. During the first days, a man can eat in a cafe, but sooner or later he will get up to the stove and try to satisfy his need for home-cooked food. Perhaps the beginning will not be too virtuosic - banal scrambled eggs and pasta with sausages, then he will be interested in the recipe in the cookbook you specially left on the table. And, who knows, maybe when you come home after another hard day at work, you will find a wonderful dinner on the table, prepared by the hands of your own husband.

Another way to force a man to stand at the stove is a sharp deterioration in the quality of your dishes: for completely unknown reasons, you forget how to cook - everything burns and is over-salted so that it is completely impossible to eat. Having eaten his fill of over-salted soup and burnt cutlets, your man will simply be forced to pick up a recipe book.

There is another sure-fire way to get a man to cook. It is known that men are very sensitive to pregnant women and try to please them in everything. So, if your desire to teach your beloved to cook coincides with your joint desire to have a child, then go ahead. Your loved one will be ready to do anything for you and your future child.

Rule No. 29

How to persuade a man to pay more attention to you?

Do you feel like your loved one is not paying enough attention to you? He has too much to do at work, so he always comes back late, or he meets with his friends too often, or maybe when he comes home, he just lies down on the couch and watches TV, without even wanting to talk to you. If you want to change the situation, then you should seriously work on your relationship.

There may be various reasons for this behavior. Perhaps he is thinking about your future and trying to earn as much money as possible. Or he simply values ​​his friends very much, so he is always glad to meet them. Another option: he is so tired from work that he has no time to talk at all. But in any case, if a man does not pay enough attention to you, you are also the culprit of this inattention. Perhaps the man has lost interest in you, he has become bored in your company, so he is looking for a way to reduce the time you spend together. You can change the situation if you want.

Try to turn your man's return home from work into a small celebration. The main thing is that the desire to go home returns to him, the confidence appears that his beautiful wife is waiting for him there and a delicious dinner is ready. Analyze the topics of your conversations, think about whether you are an interesting interlocutor for your man. Very often, women simply do not know how to interest a man; they talk incessantly about cosmetics, fashionable outfits and women's trinkets. You must understand that men are a different world, they are interested in completely different topics. Of course, you are absolutely under no obligation to talk to them about cars and football, but you can try to penetrate his inner world, try to show interest in the things that he lives by - his work, his friends, his hobbies.

Being an interesting conversationalist for your chosen one is half the success. The other depends on your ability to use little feminine tricks. To get more attention, you need to be able to attract it. How? Very simple.

– Honey, how do I look today?(And you should always look your best, and you can ask this question as often as you wish.)

It will be nice if strangers can appreciate your beauty and charm. A little jealousy on the part of your chosen one will benefit your relationship. Your man might have lost interest in you, because he was sure that you were in his power and would not go anywhere. Try to shake his confidence, create a threat to his inner peace, make him worry. As soon as there is a danger of losing you, the man will begin to pay attention to you much more often than before.

A man’s desire to be close to his beloved woman largely depends on her talent for organizing joint leisure time. Remember how long ago you were at the cinema together, sitting in the last row and kissing. When was the last time you went to a restaurant or cafe together? Or maybe you just need to go to the skating rink, because you used to really love doing this. In general, think about how you can diversify your life, make it colorful, fill it with new impressions, be proactive - and then your man will pay more attention to you.

Rule No. 30

How to persuade a man to make renovations to your taste?

You really want to renovate your dilapidated home - remodel, revitalize the interior. But you just can’t come to a compromise; you constantly quarrel over little things. The renovation has been delayed because you can’t agree on which wallpaper to prefer.

The problem of repairs became fatal for many couples: lovers broke up without reaching a compromise. If such a dangerous issue as home renovation has appeared in your life, you should treat it very carefully and act not through persuasion and requests, but through manipulation.

Men are confident that they understand much better than women when it comes to repairs. In order for your opinion in choosing wallpaper and new furniture to become authoritative for your man, you need to work hard.

First, you need to decide what you want. It is important that you clearly formulate the idea of ​​your new interior. You should not prove to your chosen one just out of a sense of contradiction and your own importance that the bedroom must certainly have yellow wallpaper, and not brown, as he wants.

You need to turn your idea into your man's idea, convince him that it originated in his head. Make him believe that he wants yellow wallpaper, not brown. How to do it?

They use the “random page” method. Leave, as if by chance, a fashionable interior design magazine on the dining table. It should be opened exactly on the page that shows the interior that, in your opinion, is very suitable for your apartment. If the man does not react to this in any way, then you can completely “accidentally” forget this magazine in the bedroom, in the living room or even in the toilet (where your man will definitely have time to think). The result of such manipulation should be his complete confidence that the interior design that HE found in the magazine would be very good for your apartment.

If this technique does not work and your man remains unconvinced, then you can turn to a qualified specialist. People, as a rule, are more willing to trust the authoritative opinion of an outsider. Please consult with an interior designer first. Ask him at the next meeting, which you attend together with your man, to advise you on the option that you like most. Be sure that your man will agree with the expert’s opinion. You may even doubt the designer’s advice: “But it seems to me that the option with brown wallpaper will suit us.” We assure you that the man will agree with the opinion of the specialist. The job is done: you can safely begin the long-awaited renovation.

Rule No. 31

How to persuade a man to quit smoking?

Your man smokes too much, you have tried everything: persuasion, requests, and threats, but nothing has any effect on him. It still smokes like a locomotive, despite your dislike for this bad habit. Well, it's time for you to resort to manipulation and help your man quit smoking.

This is a very difficult question: should you try to stop a man from smoking? The fact is that for an experienced smoker, those who oppose his bad habit are his enemies. In most cases, a person who smokes depends on cigarettes both physiologically and psychologically. Moreover, if physiological dependence can be overcome with the help of various medications, then it is impossible to get rid of psychological dependence. You can help your loved one with this.

In this case, you cannot use the blackmail technique: if you don’t quit smoking, then I will leave you. A man, most likely, will not quit smoking, but will secretly continue to poison his body. Perhaps your words could become the beginning of a serious confrontation or even a conflict between you.

You must act using the method of hidden control. Your task is to convince him that smoking is an addiction and it greatly limits his existence. Invite him, for example, to a new restaurant, book a table in advance. Arriving there, you find out, as if by accident, that this is a non-smoking restaurant. On the one hand, you deliberately create discomfort for your man, and on the other, you prove to him that his bad habit is limiting him. Arrange more frequent trips to the cinema, the theater - places where you need to limit yourself for a long time in satisfying the need to smoke. When meeting your mother, you can ask him not to tell her that he smokes, since she hates cigarette smoke and always swears. Your man is unlikely to refuse you, and during the entire visit he will have to hide his addiction to nicotine.

Try to make him understand that he is able to cope with nicotine addiction. Always celebrate his successes: “Darling, you haven’t smoked for three whole hours.” Be on his side, become his friend, not his enemy. Help, don't blame.

In order to quit smoking, your man must have an incentive, so to speak, a super task. He must answer the question: why does he want to get rid of cigarettes? For women, pregnancy can be such an incentive: many representatives of the fair sex quit smoking after learning that they will become mothers. Your pregnancy can also be an incentive for your chosen one: “The child needs fresh air, so you should stop smoking in the apartment, or better yet, quit completely, so as not to make your first-born a passive smoker.” Or, for example, you can find your man a vacant position in a prestigious company. When he becomes eager to get this job, you can tell him that preference in this company is given to people without bad habits. Then, perhaps, he will have a desire to get rid of his addiction.

It is quite possible that you will not be able to completely wean your beloved from his addiction, but even if you reduce the number of cigarettes you smoke per day, this will be a great achievement.

Rule No. 32

How to persuade a man to marry you?

Do you feel like your relationship with the man you love is stuck in one place? You're still just his girlfriend and he's still just your boyfriend. You have long been convinced of the strength of your feelings, but for some reason he is in no hurry to propose to you. You think it's time to take the bull by the horns.

A man’s fear before a wedding is quite understandable: almost every man is afraid of losing his own independence, of parting with the so-called male freedom. Just like any woman is afraid of remaining unmarried or simply an old maid. How to persuade your man to marry? Yes, it’s very simple: you need to convince him that marriage is not as scary as it seems. You must rid your loved one of the common male prejudice that the end of a bachelor’s life is the beginning of a new, boring and hopeless life of a married man.

Almost every man is frightened by a woman’s persistent desire to become his wife. Therefore, try to hide from your chosen one your irresistible desire to get a stamp in your passport. There are polygamist tricks that are resorted to in order to force a man to marry. Someone gives birth to children counting on the nobility of the father: he will not abandon his offspring. Someone tries to attract a man with their culinary talents: I’m such a good housewife, you simply can’t find a better one. This is also a kind of manipulation, but each of these methods has its own errors: they may or may not work.

We offer you a win-win. You must fully support the man in his belief that a good thing will not be called marriage. Take the side of avid bachelors who don’t want to hear anything about wedding ceremonies, outfits, and celebrations of boring distant relatives. Be persistent in your rejection of the institution of marriage as such. Try to convince your man that you always want to be free like the wind.

At first, such a policy cannot but please your man. He will admire you, so different from other women, and rejoice at his own happiness. But after a while, a treacherous thought will definitely come to his mind: if you value your freedom so much, are you ready to part with it for him, are you able to prove your love. Your man may be seriously afraid that you, so bright and extraordinary, will one day simply leave him. Be sure that sooner or later his proposal to get married will come at first timidly, then more and more persistently.

Your task is to play the play to the end, not to agree to the first marriage proposal. He must seek your consent as long and painfully as he sought reciprocity from you. Men always value what they had to obtain with blood and sweat. If your hand and heart were not easy for him, then rest assured that he will value them until the end of his life.

Rule No. 33

How to persuade a man to have a child?

You can't wait to have a baby, but for some reason your chosen one is against it? He is sure that a child is a very important step that can change your whole life. And he is not ready for this yet. How to convince him that a child is not only a burden of responsibility, but also a wonderful gift of fate?

Among the manipulative techniques, the “positive example” method is best suited here. If you see young parents with their baby walking in the park, be sure to note how cute they look. If you know someone with a child, be sure to organize a trip to see them together with your chosen one. See how they live, how they cope, ask if they have free time, if they manage to relax. It is best if the baby is already over a year old, and the parents have already managed to acclimatize after his birth.

Your man may change his mind about fatherhood if you organize a conversation with the new dad. It would be great if dad shared his impressions of the arrival of a new member to his family. He will tell you how much he changed his life. It will be great if the impressions of the child’s father will be so vivid and expressive that your beloved will be eager to have his own child.

If this does not work, then try using the “immersion” method. Make an appointment with your friend who has a child. And ask your man to sit with her child for a short time while you chat about your business. Very often, men do not want to have children because they experience some fear of them: many simply do not know what to do with them. For such insecure men, this method is suitable. After sitting with the child for an hour and a half, the man’s image of fatherhood will begin to take shape; he may ask the question: “Can I be a good father?” If he fails to establish contact with the child after the first meeting, then it should be repeated several more times until he develops an interest in the child and a desire to experience fatherly feelings.

Rule No. 34

How to persuade a man to leave his mistress?

You accidentally found out about your loved one's betrayal. What to do in such a situation? Should I leave him, start a scandal, or demand that he immediately break up with his mistress? If you decide to save your union, we will help you with this.

Cheating does not happen in a vacuum, therefore, if you are sure that your beloved has an affair on the side, you must analyze your relationship and understand where you made a mistake, where you are imperfect and what he lacks.

If you still decide to save your relationship, your man is dear to you, then scandals, persuasion and pleas are unlikely to help you. Use the technique of hidden control so that your man voluntarily leaves his mistress. Few women manage to win back their man, getting away with it, that is, maintaining their union without losing their self-esteem. How to do it? Here are just a few useful tips and effective techniques.

1. If a man still hasn’t revealed his secret to you, but you found out about it by chance when you met him with his mistress, then know that he values ​​your relationship, he doesn’t want to lose you, and an outside relationship is not so serious for him. In this case, take advantage of your own importance, provoke a situation in which the man will understand that he can lose you. To do this, you just need to expose your beloved, bring him into the open, and make him understand that you know everything. The disclosure should not be accompanied by a scandal or threats; try to be balanced and as calm as possible.

2. Make a man jealous. Create intrigue in your relationship - hint that you are also having an affair. This can be done very simply: ask your friend to call you late in the evening, and when the man asks who it was, be embarrassed and come up with some ridiculous excuse that it was a work colleague . For a man, as a rule, your betrayal is a fantasy. They admit their own betrayal, but do not imagine that their woman could cheat on them. If he suspects that you are cheating on him, he will devote all his efforts to finding out the truth. You can maintain intrigue by making new hints without presenting direct evidence. Your man will begin to pay more attention to you, and he simply will not have time for his mistress, but his interest in you will awaken if he understands that he must again seek you, moreover, “beat you off” from your imaginary lover.

3. And, finally, an integral part of female manipulation is a seductive appearance. You will have to make more than one trip to the beauty salon. Awaken in yourself the desire to spend your entire salary on yourself. Compliments from the men around you, their passionate glances should make your man look at you with the same eyes that he looked at long ago when he was courting you. Try to reanimate his feelings, and he himself will forget the one he wanted to exchange you with.

Rule No. 35

How to persuade a man to give you his salary?

In your family, does everyone have their own pocket, their own expenses and income? You dream that your beloved will give you every penny. But he still hides his income from you, and you only have an approximate idea of ​​how much he receives. What should I do?

If you and your lover are established individuals with good jobs, you may not be asking this question. But if you still have no idea about the family budget, your family cannot be called complete. In order to force your beloved to reveal all hidden items of income and expenses, you can use several effective manipulation techniques.

Usually men hide their income in order to make it easier to hide expenses. After all, if you don’t know how much he earns, you won’t know how much, and most importantly, what he spends his savings on. Your task is to “promote” your man, make him play openly.

You can do this as follows. Try to exceed your total expenses on it. Let him pay for the purchase of groceries, utilities, trips to the restaurant and to the cinema. You can explain your insolvency by the fact that, having received your next salary, you decided to look into a fashion boutique and accidentally spent everything. This can be repeated for more than one month until your beloved himself suggests that you spend your “general” savings more economically. In this way, you will lead him to the idea that it is time to combine your financial efforts.

Another variant. You may have an idea to buy a car or an apartment. The main thing is that your man is interested in this purchase. You can look for a new car together, consult on estimates and loan options. Thus, you will kindle in your man the desire to purchase this item as quickly as possible. Then you can start taking action. “Darling, we can fulfill our dream only if we are very economical and start taking into account our expenses.” You can even try to create a family budget book in which you will keep track of your savings. In such a situation, your lover is unlikely to refuse to share his savings, because buying a new car is in his interests. And after acquiring it, the concept of “family budget” will become familiar to both of you.

Chapter 4

How to resist male manipulation?

Rule No. 36

Develop reflection: understand yourself, your goals and the goals of others

Do you think that you are very easily influenced by members of the stronger sex? Do you feel unable to resist their manipulations? In order to give a worthy rebuff to the manipulator, you must learn to understand yourself and your goals.

In order to expose the manipulator, always try to predict the further development of events, think ahead, try to find out the man’s goal before he voiced it. Be on the lookout and always have a refusal ready if the man’s proposal does not interest you. If you feel that a man, like a spider, is dragging you into his web, then you should refuse his proposal.

Let's give an example of a conversation between a manipulator and a girl who succumbed to his influence and was unable to resist his manipulation. The man begins his conversation as follows: “I really like you, and I would like to talk with you alone,” - the beginning of the conversation is quite friendly and, it would seem, , does not contain any threat. Hearing such a confession, the girl is naturally flattered and embarrassed, she tries to respond to sincerity with sincerity. She agrees to a date. Having secured consent, the young man does not allow her to come to her senses; he immediately offers her two options for a date: a hotel outside the city or an apartment in a local motel. The girl is confused and doesn’t know what to choose. The man insists on making a quick decision. She decides that it is not worth going out of town, and chooses a more suitable option, in her opinion - a hotel in the city. The man books a rather expensive room, in the room he treats his chosen one with champagne and delicacies - all this does not cost him cheap. The girl begins to feel awkward, she feels that she is obliged to her companion. She understands that she is unlikely to be able to refuse him if he asks her to spend the night with him. Which is what happens as a result.

In this case, there are skillful actions of a male manipulator and the girl’s inability to resist him. What should you have done in this situation? The girl didn’t even try to figure out this man’s goal, although it was obvious from the very beginning. The man suggested that she arrange a date not in a restaurant or park, but in a hotel, from this one could conclude what he was trying to achieve. In this case, the man skillfully used manipulative techniques. He offered the girl an imaginary alternative: to spend time either in a country hotel or in a city hotel. In fact, the essence of the proposal did not change. In such a situation, the girl herself could offer a third option for the development of events, for example, take a walk in the park or go to her favorite cafe. She did not do this and found herself at the mercy of her companion. But even having accepted his offer, she should not have felt awkward, or felt like she owed anything to her companion. The girl was embarrassed because the man had spent a lot of money - this is another manipulation technique. The man hoped that by giving his companion such a gift, by providing some kind of service, he would be able to ask her for anything. It so happened that the girl could not refuse when he made her a fairly frank offer. The girl’s mistake in this example is very indicative: we can conclude that when communicating with a man you need to be on guard, be able to calculate his goals in advance and be able to refuse if his goals do not coincide with your desires.

Rule No. 37

Be extremely careful

Often men turn out to be successful manipulators due to simple female inattention. Women are not always able to concentrate on the main subject of the conversation; it is very easy to switch them to foreign objects. Therefore, another extremely important piece of advice: be careful when communicating with men!

When talking with a man, you should always filter out unnecessary information and leave only the main thing - the reason for which the man started this conversation.

How to learn to concentrate on the main subject of conversation? First of all, remember the basic tricks of the manipulator, with the help of which he can try to switch your attention, distract you, and confuse you. For example, during a conversation, a man may suddenly remember an important meeting for which he is allegedly late, or an urgent call that he needs to make. In this way he redirects your attention. Your task is to concentrate on his request and try not to be distracted by these tricks. Very often, after using this technique, manipulators ask you to immediately give a final answer to a question or make a decision. In order not to fall for these tricks, you should once again clarify with your interlocutor the essence of his request or proposal.

When talking to a manipulator, don’t be afraid to ask again, clarify, or interrupt. Some people are extremely successful at using the “quick talk” method to confuse a person. This method of manipulation is designed for a person’s lack of attentiveness, who may miss important details of the conversation due to the fast pace of the interlocutor. If you encounter such a trick, ask the person to slow down the rate of speech and start over. Or ask some clarifying question at the very beginning - this will immediately throw the manipulator off the rhythm.

Another way to switch attention is to switch the conversation to another topic.

Here are some examples:

– Honey, I'm going to meet my friends today. You know, you look great today. Have you changed your hairstyle?

– Honey, I'm leaving on a business trip in a week. Dinner today was excellent. I think you added chicken curry?

Likewise, men often divert our attention from an important subject. The essence of the manipulation is clear: the woman simply does not have time to think through the information received and, as a rule, answers the last question asked of her, losing sight of what was said at the very beginning. To prevent this from happening to you, try to immediately resist the manipulation: without answering the question, ask a counter question:

– I didn't catch when you meet your friends.

– Repeat, please, when you are going on a business trip.

Rule No. 38

Pretend that you don’t understand or understand anything about this issue.

You have been asked to fulfill a small request, and you don’t really want to do it, but you don’t want to offend the person asking with a refusal. In order to competently refuse, you can pretend to be a person who does not understand this issue: “I cannot understand the essence of your request.”

A work colleague asks you to work for a non-shift worker on a day off. You really don’t want to lose your day off, but it’s somehow awkward to refuse without a good reason. You can answer like this: “You know, last month I also changed shifts with Marinka, but in the accounting department they messed something up and calculated the salary less than usual. I tried to find out, but I didn’t understand anything in their explanations and decided not to change shifts with anyone else, otherwise I’ll end up getting the least amount of money.” You can simply brush aside all his persuasion and suggestions to figure it out on your own and stand your ground: “I haven’t figured this issue out and I don’t want to be made a fool again.”

We find another illustrative example of such manipulation in literature - in N.V. Gogol’s poem “Dead Souls” the female character Korobochka behaves in a similar way. Chichikov calls her “club-headed” because she does not want to sell him dead souls and explains this by saying that she does not understand what the essence of the deal is. This tactic characterizes Korobochka as a woman with good intuition: she understands that Chichikov wants to deceive her and is trying to resist his manipulations.

You can use this tactic in various situations: misunderstanding of the interlocutor very often infuriates even an experienced manipulator, he loses his composure and, as a rule, does not achieve the intended goal.

The boss calls you and asks you to tell us about the violations you noticed on the part of the company’s employees. You don’t want to spoil your relationship with your boss, but you don’t want to give away “your own” either. He is trying to find out the truth from you, using the most sophisticated methods of manipulation. The simplest and surest way to resist is to say that you haven’t seen anything and don’t know anything. The main thing in this situation is to be persistent in your “testimony”. Under no circumstances should you engage in long explanations or arguments about what if you knew, you would definitely say, since you are a very honest worker and always tell the truth. Answer all questions in monosyllables: “I didn’t see anything,” “I don’t understand what you’re asking,” “I really don’t know what to tell you,” etc. The monotony of answers will not allow your boss to find a weak point in your testimony, and he will be forced to believe you.

Rule No. 39

Don't make decisions "here and now"

If you are required to make an immediate decision, this means only one thing: your interlocutor is trying to manipulate you, he is trying not to give you time to think, so that you do not change your mind and reject his proposal. Your task is to slow down the hasty interlocutor and take a time out in order to weigh everything.

Imagine this situation: you are walking through the shops and suddenly on one of them you see a huge poster: “Only today and only we have 99% discounts on all products.” Do you think you'll go inside? Certainly. A very tempting offer. The store has even more attractive information - on all products you see two price tags: one, the old one, with a five-digit figure, the other with a three-digit figure. "Wow! - you think. “I was extremely lucky.” Although you had no plans to buy anything anytime soon, the unique offer made you change your mind, and you rush to make as many purchases as possible at this unique price. When you come home and look at your new purchases, you discover that the items are not of very good quality, some are defective, and you didn’t even get the receipt in a hurry. A week later, passing by this store, you come across the same sign about a unique sale and see people leaving the store with happy faces, thinking about how fabulously lucky they are.

This example once again proves the truth: measure seven times, cut once. You always need to think, even when you are offered an unrealistically good deal, a unique purchase with a crazy discount, or something else. In any case, remember that if you are asked to make a decision now, then you need to be wary. After listening to your interlocutor, you must answer the questions: “Do I need this right now? For that kind of money? Will this be useful to me? If the answers are positive, then you shouldn’t lose your head and agree to a purchase or deal. You must receive appropriate guarantees: that if the business fails, you will be able to get the money back. If your interlocutor does not give such a guarantee, it means that you are faced with a manipulator who wants to deceive you.

Rule No. 40

Don't tell too much about yourself

Any information about you can be used against you. This is the law of manipulation. If you have identified a manipulator, try to deprive him of his main weapon - information about yourself, because the most effective way to resist manipulation is not to tell anything about yourself.

In reality, it can be difficult to resist an offer from a manipulator, especially if you like him. But it is in your best interests to pull yourself together and refuse his offer. First, take a defensive position. Ignore his suggestions at all costs. However, to get his way, a clever manipulator may invite you to visit a trendy club or a newly opened bar. Refuse without explanation. You shouldn’t go into details and tell him that you prefer other types of recreation or that you don’t really like noisy places. By entering into explanations, you help the manipulator: you give out invaluable information about yourself, which he will definitely try to use. In a week, he may present you with a ticket to the cinema or theater. Perhaps he really wants to please you, or perhaps this is just a tactical move. Most likely, he is simply looking for a special approach to you. He is trying to use the knowledge about you that you suggested. Once you accept his offer, he will immediately begin to use his influence on you.

Girls very often fall for the bait of clever manipulators, coming into contact with them, talking about interests and hobbies. Experienced men will immediately extract all the necessary information about you from one insignificant conversation and use it next time.

Therefore, in the fight against a manipulator, be vigilant, do not engage in long conversations, do not talk about your hobbies and secrets. If you do not want to seem impolite, answer all his questions abstractly, for example, that you do not want to talk, that you are not inclined to have fun, or that you have too much to do. With such answers you will confuse even the most dexterous manipulator; he will not be able to learn anything new about you and, most likely, after some time he himself will be forced to give up the dream of achieving the task.

Rule No. 41

Try not to show pity

Some men try to get their way from a woman in a very effective way - they evoke pity. The mechanism of this manipulation is clear: a woman is unlikely to refuse to help a person who is unhappy and offended by fate. In order to arouse pity in a woman, men can pretend to be the most unfortunate creatures in the world, inventing a story about how they were kicked out of work or abandoned by their wife.

You need to be very careful when dealing with such “unhappy” men. If you don’t know your interlocutor well and you don’t have the opportunity to check his legend, then don’t rush to put yourself in his position, leave yourself the legal right to doubt. You can easily determine whether he is telling you the truth or trying to deceive, take advantage of the effect of his story. Sympathize with your interlocutor and try to find out some details of his misfortune. If he refuses to tell you his story in detail, then most likely he wants to deceive you and deliberately arouse pity. After all, if he didn’t want to remember this, it’s unclear why he even started telling you about his difficult fate. There is one more sign that can distinguish the imaginary unfortunate from the real one. The imaginary unlucky ones, as a rule, talk very pathetically about their fate; it seems that they are retelling a romantic story borrowed from some novel. People who actually experienced a tragedy either very dryly present the facts of their biography, or try not to mention it at all.

Once you figure out the manipulator, keep your eyes open. Of course, you can sympathize, but at the same time remain sober and do not lose the ability to analyze what is happening. After all, the feeling of pity deprives a woman of this ability; sometimes she becomes imbued with trust in her interlocutor when he does not deserve it.

You will finally understand that this is a skilled actor when, at the end of his story, your interlocutor asks for a favor. He seems to apologize for his request: “I was fired, and I had no money left, the last of the money went to pay off the loan (or for my daughter’s wedding) - could you lend me a little until I get back on my feet?” Or another option: “My wife left me, and I’m so lonely, I just need a woman’s affection and tenderness.” Of course, it is very difficult to refuse such requests, but you must remember that this is not an unhappy person, but a skillful manipulator who uses his mask to get what he needs from you.

In such a situation, you need to take time - try to find an opportunity to think about his request. Try to knock the manipulator out of his thoughts, to ensure that the pity he evokes gives way to common sense. It is best to leave him for a while in order to weigh everything and make the right decision. After you come to your senses, you will be able to soberly assess the pros and cons of his proposal.

Rule No. 42

Always be wary of overly kind compliments

Remember Krylov’s famous fable “The Crow and the Fox”: in this work, the Fox acts as a real manipulator, her manipulation is successful - she receives the coveted piece of cheese from the Crow. And the essence of this manipulation is ordinary flattery.

It is known that women love with their ears; for them there is nothing sweeter than the music of admiration, especially if these words come from the lips of a man. Most representatives of the fair half lose their heads and become convenient victims for the manipulator.

When should you be wary? Firstly, if the man did not often compliment you or never praised you at all. And then suddenly he was definitely replaced: he tells you all day that you look wonderful, noticed your new shoes and appreciated your perfume. This is the first signal that something is wrong here. The second warning sign: if a man’s compliments have become more sugary, more like flattery than true admiration. This is also a sign that the man needs something from you.

The essence of the manipulation is very simple: a woman loses her head from compliments and becomes easily controlled, more trusting, and begins to feel sympathy for her interlocutor. That's when a man can ask her for something.

How to resist a manipulator who is trying to gain your trust by saying a bunch of compliments? How to determine whether his admiration for you is sincere or false? This is not an easy task. You can overcome it if you have adequate self-esteem and are able to objectively evaluate yourself and your own efforts. Try to analyze your interlocutor's compliments from the point of view of proximity to the truth. Of course, any woman is pleased to hear praises, especially from a man, but try to come down to earth and understand how true these praises are. Perhaps his words are more like flattery uttered for selfish purposes. You should be wary if your interlocutor with the enthusiasm of a poet praises the slenderness of your legs, but they may not be slender, or he compliments your sophisticated manner of dressing, but it seems to you that your taste is not all right.

As soon as you see through the flatterer, immediately begin defensive actions. You can use his own weapon: give him two or three compliments that are far from reality. Play with your interlocutor as the heroes of another famous Krylov fable, “The Cuckoo and the Rooster”: “The Cuckoo praises the Rooster because he praises the Cuckoo.”

– Darling, these earrings match your eyes perfectly. You are so good at choosing jewelry. Could you help me choose a gift for my girlfriend?

– I would love to, but with your impeccable taste, you don’t need an assistant and it’s even contraindicated.

Rule No. 43

What to do if a man creates the appearance of intellectual superiority

Women prefer smart men, and therefore representatives of the stronger sex try to produce the appropriate effect in order to gain trust. Is your interlocutor spewing sayings of philosophers and using unfamiliar words? He seems too smart to argue with him, and you don't even try to prove your point of view, although it fundamentally disagrees with the speaker's point of view. Be careful: you may simply be being manipulated.

Very often, in order to gain women's trust, a man creates the illusion of intellectual superiority. This method of manipulation is based on the human fear of admitting one's ignorance. Therefore, instead of arguing with “smart” people, we, as a rule, agree with them. How to distinguish a manipulator from a truly smart person? Manipulators use bookish, rarely used words to appear smarter. Their speech is too pretentious for normal conversation. An intelligent person, on the contrary, does not boast of his intellect, but tries to explain his point of view in a form accessible to the average person. Manipulators, instead of the standard question “How are you? How was the weekend?”, they may ask you: “How are you feeling? Did you manage to enjoy your weekend?” In the speech of “smart guys,” words often slip through that you haven’t heard of, and their use often leads to a dead end: “Don’t you think she’s behaving irrationally?” or “I think his tie is a little too eclectic, don’t you think?” In their speech, manipulators often use quotes from famous people: “Just about this, Goethe said...” or “But Schopenhauer thought differently...”. Very often, such quotes are made up and have nothing in common with those to whom they are attributed. This is done deliberately to confuse the interlocutor: look, they say, how smart I am.

In order not to succumb to this kind of manipulation, we suggest mastering the following techniques. Learn a few “smart” words that your interlocutor has hardly heard of, and if he has, he doesn’t know what they mean - for example, congruence, transcendentality, etc. You can invent several independent quotes and attribute them to famous people, just like your interlocutor did : “I recently re-read Dostoevsky, and that’s why he said…” or “But Hegel believed that...”. By taking advantage of the enemy's tactics, you can resist his manipulations. Of course, this method of confrontation can only be used if you are really sure that this is a manipulator who does not have encyclopedic knowledge.

Rule No. 44

How to resist your boss's manipulation?

Do you feel like your boss often uses manipulation and you are unable to resist them? A good boss is always a good manipulator. Its main task is to control, sometimes for this it is necessary to use hidden control levers.

How to spot a manipulative boss? Your boss adheres to a democratic management style. He never shouts or demands anything, but you always fulfill his demands without appeal. After all, he is your boss. You find him charming, even attractive. He does not skimp on compliments and always notes changes in the appearance of his employees. If your boss personally asks you for something, then you agree, for example, to work overtime without extra pay, or go on a business trip in place of a sick employee. You have never asked for a salary increase. Your attitude towards the leader is respectful and respectful. If all of the above applies to your situation, then you are most likely being manipulated.

How to resist a manipulator if he is your boss? The task is not easy. First you need to learn to demand. Start small: ask for a day off at your own expense or a small amount in advance. I'm sure they won't refuse you. Further - more: salary increases, career growth, social benefits, etc. Of course, you will not get to this right away.

Your embarrassment in front of your boss is dictated by his ability to manipulate people and make them trust him. You are flattered that he notices your new hairstyle, new dress and praises you for your success. That is why you are simply embarrassed to ask for material incentives for work. You feel awkward: it’s awkward to ask your already impeccable boss for something else, it’s awkward to reproach him for not appreciating your work enough. But such is life: you must convince your boss that you want to receive not only compliments and praise for your work, but also decent material rewards.

Your position in the company will become stronger if you declare yourself and demonstrate your ability to resist the manager. You just need to do this without aggression and negativity. You can introduce an element of play and flirting into your communication with a male director: react to his compliments, smile more often, joke. Remember that communication between a woman and a man is always something more, even if there is nothing between them.

Rule No. 45

What to do if a man takes advantage of his financial superiority?

One of the most reliable and proven ways to manipulate a woman is money. There is a rule of etiquette that states that a man who invites a lady to a restaurant must pay for her order. But this rule has long become a tool of clever manipulators of women’s consciousness.

In the West, with the development of emancipation, women saw through this male trick, so there everyone pays for himself. In our country, this rule applies, but with a caveat: a woman allows herself to be paid for, but at the same time feels obligated to her companion.

A feeling of awkwardness and unexpressed gratitude accompanies a woman if she receives an expensive gift, if a man pays for a taxi for two, or simply invites a woman to use his discount card. It is this feeling of awkwardness that manipulators take advantage of.

Of course, a man can give you a gift or pay the bill at a restaurant disinterestedly, out of a feeling of sympathy for you, following the rules of good manners. But most often behind such actions there is a desire to force you to fulfill his request.

How to resist such manipulation? You must remember that if a man invited you to a restaurant and paid for your order, this does not mean that you have to thank him in any special way, other than the usual “thank you.” You can fulfill or not fulfill the man’s further requests or desires at your own discretion. Remember that by paying for your order, the man was simply following the rules of etiquette, and did not provide you with an extraordinary service. In order to feel more confident in such situations, you can practice. For example, accept an invitation from strangers to join you at a bar and, after sitting for a while and ordering a glass of wine, bow out and leave. In this case, you will do everything right, the main thing is that the company is adequate. Repeat this “trick” several times. If you still feel awkward and begin to dance “to the tune” of your gentleman, then use the Western method - pay for yourself.

Rule No. 46

How to talk to a man who demonstrates his strength superiority?

Men are stronger than women. This superiority is another way of manipulating women’s consciousness. In order to win a woman over to their side, to convince her that they are right, men demonstrate their advantage.

The mechanism of this manipulation is completely obvious: stronger, so it’s better not to argue with me. Men demonstrate their superiority to us every day. Heavy bag? I can carry it. Is your car slipping? I can push her. Stuck zipper? I can fix it. Usually this is a demonstration without intent, but skilled manipulators try to use this advantage for selfish purposes.

To do this, they can organize a whole performance: for example, they can stage an attack by hooligans and defeat them, or the theft of a handbag and its return. Your savior, strong and brave, is automatically the owner of your trust.

Manipulators can find a way to demonstrate their superiority in real life. For example, having noticed your titanic efforts to drag documents from the archive, the manipulator can offer its services. Or, seeing how you are trying to cross a huge puddle on your toes, he will carry you in his arms. Perhaps his actions are caused by a feeling of sympathy towards you, or perhaps he wants to gain your trust and arouse your sympathy.

Your actions: take a close look at the man flaunting his strength in front of you. Try to guess his motives: does he just want to impress or is he trying to manipulate you. For the purity of the experiment, you can play the role of a gullible girl who is captivated by his charm and strength. You will identify the manipulator when he, convinced of your trust, expresses his request or desire. Once you are convinced of his selfish intentions, you can safely refuse him if his offer does not interest you.

Rule No. 47

How to communicate with men from the “guy” category?

There is a special type of man whom women classify as “theirs.” They are trusted with the most terrible secrets, they chat with them about clothes and discuss hobbies, they say about them: “Their guy.” These are men with whom they are mostly friends, but never have affairs. Be careful when communicating with such men; perhaps your friend is a skilled manipulator.

A universal way to win someone over is to become like him, become his copy, pretend that you share his interests. Gradually they begin to perceive you as one of their own, and no one expects meanness or other dirty tricks from you. Remember the hero of Gogol's novel Chichikov, who had a unique talent for winning hearts. He skillfully manipulated people, copying their behavior and agreeing with their assessments.

Agree, you rarely meet a man who enjoys talking about shopping or makeup. If your friend does not belong to the category of sexual minorities, then most likely he is trying to gain your trust for further manipulation. You are unlikely to be able to refuse a “tiny” request from “your boyfriend.”

You can resist such manipulation in the following way. Keep your communication with him to a minimum, try to avoid too frank conversations, do not give information about yourself, do not reveal your deepest secrets - otherwise you yourself will hand him a weapon against you. If you enjoy communicating on feminine topics with a representative of the opposite sex, you can continue to do this, just don’t let the manipulator get too close, keep it at a distance. At the first attempt to use his influence, make it clear to you that his methods are unsuccessful.

– Honey, can you help me with this terrible report?

– You know, I would love to, but I have a lot of work to do myself.

– Honey, can you lend me some money before payday?

– I would like to help you, but I decided to do it myself.

After several failures, your “dear friend” may himself refuse to communicate with you and choose another object for manipulation.

Rule No. 48

How to resist the manipulations of a perfectly dressed man?

An impeccable appearance is another way of manipulation. A man dressed with taste and according to all the rules of modern fashion inspires confidence, doesn’t it? Is it because you don’t often meet a man who meets all the rules of impeccable appearance.

This method of manipulation is based on women's attention to neat, well-dressed men. A man's impeccable appearance automatically increases a woman's level of trust in him.

Women try to judge men by themselves: since he is decently and neatly dressed, that means he is worthy of respect. Although, you must admit, in practice the rule “a neat appearance means decency” does not always work.

If a man is dressed according to all the rules and canons, then this may rather indicate his pedantry. There is a possibility that an impeccable appearance is a way of manipulating women’s consciousness.

Of course, experienced manipulators use the ability to dress well as part of the manipulation as a whole, adding to this a gallant demeanor, the art of persuasion and other manipulative techniques. A manipulator who knows how to dress well is already half close to victory. He hasn’t said or done anything yet, and on a subconscious level you are already starting to trust him.

When communicating with men of impeccable appearance, it would be worth checking: his good taste in clothes is part of self-expression or the first successful attack to gain your trust.

Of course, you should not express distrust of all men with good taste. But you have the right to some degree of skepticism towards them. Be careful when dealing with prim and perfect men. See if this gorgeously dressed gentleman is trying to take advantage of the impression he made on you, or if he is simply flattered by your attention. Even if in the future this person only evokes your sympathy, do not rush to agree to fulfill his request or wish. Be prepared to refuse. Perhaps your sympathy is caused by a whole complex of manipulative techniques and you are under the influence of the false charm and charm of your interlocutor.

Rule No. 49

How to resist a manipulator with good manners?

A man who is familiar with the rules of good manners conquers immediately. He opened the door for you and let you pass ahead, offered his hand at the exit from public transport, or, ahead of you, gallantly opened the door of his own car for you. Do not rush to exclaim: “There are still more gentlemen in this world!” It is possible that your gallant gentleman uses his tact for manipulative purposes.

Of course, it is stupid to accuse every man of any gallantry of trying to manipulate you. Such signs of attention are a completely normal manifestation of respect from a man to a woman. But if your companion is overly helpful and polite, if he shows signs of attention with obsessive persistence and desire to please you, then, most likely, his gallantry is just a way to manipulate you.

It is quite obvious what this method of manipulation is based on. Representatives of the fair sex receive enormous pleasure from the attention they receive from others. Essentially, etiquette is an opportunity to show respect to your interlocutor. But it happens differently: some men use knowledge of the rules of good manners in order to gain your favor. The second option, unfortunately, is much more common. The manipulator expects that under the influence of his spell you will lose your vigilance and will readily fulfill any request.

How to resist such manipulations? If you are sure that your companion is manipulating you, you can not notice his attention: enter the building without waiting for the door to be opened for you. Pretend that you did not notice the hand offered to you, refuse the offer to help you carry your bag, unless, of course, it is too heavy. Thus, by rejecting the advances of your companion, you disarm him, he loses the opportunity to impress you and take advantage of it.

You need to use such tactics of confrontation only when you really want to know that his gallantry is nothing more than a way of manipulation. Otherwise, your ignoring signs of attention will be regarded as a sign of disrespect for your interlocutor. Be careful.

Conclusion

Summing up our conversation about manipulation, we would like to once again dwell on the arguments in defense of this method of management. It is still believed that this is not a completely honest way to achieve their goals, that it is used only by those people who are unable to achieve their goals with the help of their own Italian mind. But it happens that manipulation is simply necessary, since it is the only possible way to achieve a goal.

For men, there is nothing more terrible than being henpecked by his wife, and therefore, if a woman tries to control him, give advice or demand fulfillment of her desires, this is usually perceived negatively. This is why women have to resort to manipulation.

While defending manipulation as a way to control representatives of the stronger sex, we still want to warn you against using these methods of influence too often. Use manipulative techniques in cases where you feel that other methods will not help. Leave a man the right to his own opinion, you don’t want to turn a strong personality into a weak person dependent on you, a zombie man, ready to fulfill all your demands.

In addition, always remember that manipulation is different. There are types of manipulation that do not contain malicious intent and therefore cannot negatively affect the psyche of a person close to you. This, for example, is the use of one’s own attractiveness and the method of frequent praise. But there are methods, the abuse of which can cause harm - this is blackmail, a deliberate lie. Such methods can be used only as a last resort and only if you are sure that their use will not ruin your relationship.

This manual presents the System of Total Submission of Women. It is a complex of extremely effective techniques for quickly influencing the female psyche. This system will teach you, first of all, to subjugate a woman. Well, having subjugated her to yourself, you can get from her everything you want. This is precisely the difference between this course and all other outwardly similar ones. All techniques like Ericksonian hypnosis, NLP, BEYOND, all methods of seduction and pickup are actually extremely ineffective because they do not take into account the importance of instincts. If the above methods are used in combination with the System, then their productivity will increase many times over. A woman must first be subdued. Subdue her Subconscious by acting through her instincts. And then she will either seduce you herself, or make your task so easy that you just have to take her. It doesn’t matter your age, your appearance, your social and financial status. To master the ability to subjugate women, you must train some of the skills given in this course and accurately follow the detailed psychological algorithm. These skills and this algorithm work flawlessly on any woman. The system is effective regardless of not only a woman’s age and position in society, but even regardless of her character and life experience.’ The secret of the System is that it teaches you, first of all, to influence a woman’s instincts. And they are absolutely the same for all women. The basic instinct of Man is the continuation of the existence of his biological species, that is, the continuation of the race. In women, this instinct manifests itself in the desire to find a strong male, have sexual intercourse with him and conceive. At the same time, she must be sure that this male will be able to ensure the safety of her and her offspring. This means that he must at least be stronger than herself. A woman wants to feel this power and instinctively wants to give herself over to someone who is stronger than her. The use of this instinct is the basis of the System. Since the System is universal for all types of women, and also for simplicity and clarity of presentation, a single designation has been adopted for the person who is affected by the rune - “Object”. This manual, in a concise form, outlines practical methods of influence. The amount of theory is reduced to an irreducible minimum. The influence has the following effects: Complete psychological subordination of the Object to you. The emergence of subconscious trust and sympathy for you in the Object. Calling the Object of sexual arousal oriented towards you. The pearl of the course is a technique of hypnotic influence on a woman in her sleep. Mastering and applying this technique allows you to completely control the behavior of the Object. It becomes possible to program any actions and even desires you need. At the same time, the woman herself will perceive all these reactions as her own. In fact, she becomes your puppet. The course does not consider the question of how you can take advantage of the results obtained. The concept of the meaning of the Subconscious. In the first half of the twentieth century, science came to the conclusion that Man is not nearly as intelligent as previously thought. What is called consciousness and intellect is by no means the most important thing in the human psyche. Just the opposite - human behavior is determined by some mysterious, elusive forces. These forces belong to the world of the Subconscious. One psychoanalytic aphorism expresses this position in a laconic and polished form - the formula: Consciousness reflects, Subconscious mind controls. How does this awe-inspiring controlling force manifest itself?”1 The subconscious is the space of human beings: dreams, fantasies, impulses, impulses, desires, forbidden desires, reservations and, most importantly, this about the space of human instincts. The subconscious is what people really think and want, but are not aware of it. What people really think is hidden from them behind seven seals. There are no accidents in human everyday life, although, at first glance, it seems quite the opposite: everyday life is full of them - chance encounters, accidental slips of the tongue, and the like. You yourself can find many such “accidents” in your life. Moreover, you should remember important points: there are no accidents, everything has a strict predetermination and pattern, look for a hidden motive behind every accident in behavior. This Subconscious Mind gives the Consciousness the command to “accidentally” forget where you put your documents before you were about to leave the house. And as a result, you are late for a meeting that you really don’t want or are afraid to go to. This Subconscious mind gives the Consciousness the command to “accidentally” dial the wrong phone number, and you end up in the wrong place, but in fact you call exactly the person you really want to hear. A person is controlled one hundred percent by his Subconscious! What is the most important conclusion that can be drawn from this statement? The one who can give commands to the Subconscious controls the person himself! Put some desire into someone else's Subconscious, and it will do the rest of the work for you. The person into whose Subconscious you have put your thought will sincerely consider this desire to be his own, and will do everything in his power to fulfill “his” desire. But mastering someone else’s Subconscious is not as easy as many would like. Yes, it has a very trusting character. Yes, it tends to believe everything. But human Consciousness stands on its guard. It plays the role of censor, critic, watchdog. How can you get into someone else's house, safely avoiding a collision with an evil and distrustful guard dog: you can treat him with something tasty and try to tame him, you can divert his attention and try to get past him, you can wait for him to fall asleep and slowly walk by, you can try go around the dog and enter the house through another entrance. Of course, there are other options. It must be admitted that people are, to a greater or lesser extent, controlled mechanisms. Once you master the keys to the control panel, you can safely operate these mechanisms. And here it is necessary to realize the difference between a Man and a Woman. What is the main difference between a man's mentality and a woman's? A man, as a rule, relies on logic, calculation and intelligence to make decisions. What does a Woman rely on? On feelings, emotions, instincts. It is they, and above all instincts, that are the very keys to the control panel of such a mechanism as Woman. Main impact. Introduction. When you need to persuade a woman to some idea (in this case, to the idea of ​​submitting to you and having sex), it is useless to even try to use persuasion and logical arguments. Try using logic to convince the girl you like to go to bed with you. It's funny, isn't it? Only a prostitute can be convinced to have sex using money as an argument. In all other cases, one should influence the feelings, emotions and primitive instincts inherent in nature itself. Whom does a woman by nature look for all her life? A strong male. The one who is initially stronger than her. Someone with whom she will feel “like behind a stone wall.” Literally from the first seconds of meeting her, she instinctively feels who is in front of her: her Master, her Slave, or just her comrade. It goes without saying that in order to achieve your goal, you simply need her to feel her Master in you, a person to whom she not only should obey, but to whom she wants to obey. This alone will make her unconsciously want to give herself to you. You, in turn, should only strengthen and intensify this reaction until you get from it everything you need. Main impact. Impact with gaze. By what signs does a Woman sense her Master in her interlocutor? First of all, by his gaze. A look that involuntarily pierces and hypnotizes her. Just by meeting your gaze, She should already half obey you. How to develop such a view? In fact, there is nothing supernatural about this. A combination of three points is necessary: ​​The first point is that your gaze should be fixed and unblinking. To practice, open the tool 1. Slide the work area to its lowest position and position yourself approximately one meter away from the monitor screen. Exercise at least three times a week for 15 minutes. You should not practice completely without a break. The maximum number of workouts per week is five. Your task is to learn to look continuously and without blinking at this point for at least fifteen minutes. Of course, at first it will seem very difficult to you. There will be a pain in the eyes, they will water and blink involuntarily. Tip - try not to focus your attention on your eyes. Very little time will pass, and you will be able to perform this exercise first for a minute, then two, three, etc. It makes no sense to extend the time of doing this exercise for more than fifteen minutes. Tool 1 is a tool for developing this skill. Use it exactly. It is of great importance that the screen produces its own light. Please note that the background is black and the circle marked on it is red. This is no coincidence. The combination of these colors involuntarily affects you. Your blood pressure rises and your pulse quickens. This is a consequence of the body’s production of certain hormones and, accordingly, changes in the entire hormonal background. Just by reading this text, typed in the same color combination, you are already changing. It is well known that, for example, the color green is calming. Red, especially in combination with black, has a completely different effect - you become more aggressive. Your reaction speeds up and your potency increases. You become courageous. Women instinctively feel this. The second point lies in the mystery of what is called the piercing gaze. It will seem to the woman that you are looking right inside her, seeing right through her, reading all her thoughts, like an open book. The secret is that you need to literally look inside it. You should focus your gaze not on the woman’s eyes, but on an imaginary point slightly behind them. Try to see right through the back of her head. At a close distance, you can try to see your own reflection in her pupils. Try using this elementary skill and you will immediately feel the effect. Tool 2 is a tool for developing this skill. As in the previous exercise, open the tool, also move the work area to the lowest position and position yourself at a distance of approximately one meter from the monitor screen. Try to unfocus your gaze. Look behind the monitor screen. You should achieve the effect when you clearly see not two points in front of you, but three. You should also devote 15 minutes to this exercise three to five times a week. The third point is that you need to look into the woman’s “leading” eye. The division of people into right-handers and left-handers fully applies to the eyes. In right-handed people, the dominant eye is the right one, in left-handed people, the dominant eye is the left one. It is through the leading eye that information reaches faster and more accurately. (For clarity, think about which eye you are aiming with). If you cannot determine who you are dealing with, you should rely on statistics, because the vast majority of people are right-handed. The skill of looking into the leading eye of the interlocutor must be developed regularly. Every time you talk to someone, try to look into the other person's dominant eye. Over time, you will do this completely unconsciously. Algorithm of gaze influence. So, the order of influencing the Object through gaze is as follows: 1. Having met the gaze of the Object, you must ensure that the woman first looks away. In this case, you should look into the dominant eye 2. Having achieved this, the intensity of the impact can be reduced. There's no point in continuing to watch. But in the first seconds of contact, you simply need to make her look away. 3. Then, in the process of communication, to increase your influence, use the third point and look inside her. Notes 1. Keep in mind that women are psychologically better adapted to long stares. If men feel discomfort after three to four seconds, then women after ten to twelve. 2. And one more important point related to the difference between the sexes. In women, such a look involuntarily evokes a desire to obey, as well as a physiological reaction of sexual arousal. But men perceive such a look as aggression with all the ensuing consequences. Therefore, if you do not want to make enemies, do not use this technique when communicating with members of the same sex. Main impact. Impact by voice. Thus, you have loaded the main channel of perception of the Object - vision. This channel is the most important, since it is well known that a person receives 80% of information from the outside world through his eyes. The next most important channel of perception is hearing. For the female Subconscious, what you say is not so important as how you say it. The timbre of your voice is important. The lower it is, the better. A low timbre of voice is involuntarily associated with physical strength, will, intelligence, maturity, and high sexuality. If you talk to a woman in just such a voice, then she will accordingly perceive you as a strong, smart, strong-willed, mature and sexy man. Just like a gaze, a deep voice makes a woman instinctively want to submit to you. Of course, few people are born with deep, rich bass. But with some effort, it can be developed with special exercises: Practice pronouncing various vowel sounds as often as possible. Try to pull them as low as possible, one after the other. Your task is to achieve a sensation of vibration first in the throat, and then in the chest. The feeling of vibration in your chest when pronouncing vowel sounds is an indicator that your timbre is low enough to have a subjugating effect on a woman. Keeping this feeling, talk out loud to yourself, read, sing. It is advisable to do this constantly, but for simplicity and, perhaps, for better organization, voice training can be combined with eye training. You must completely master your own voice. Looks and voices are your two most powerful tools for influencing the female psyche. Main impact. Impact by touch. So, you have at your disposal two powerful tools for influencing the female psyche. These skills should become your stereotype of behavior when communicating with women. Use them constantly, and you will be amazed at how much women’s attitude towards you has changed. It is also advisable to use the third channel of perception - tactile sensations. When talking to a woman you are interested in, casually touch her from time to time. Let your touch be light enough at first. In the future, as the contact develops, she should feel the strength in your touch. However, try not to overdo it. You shouldn't hurt her. Strength is good when combined with softness. At this stage of exposure, it is important not to scare her away. But then you can do whatever you want with it. It is of great importance which places on a woman’s body you touch. The points between the fingers are meridianly connected to the genitals. This is mild in men, but you can try stroking the finger of one hand between the fingers of the other hand where they meet. You will feel that it is pleasant for you. In women this feature is very noticeable. She will feel as if you are stroking her between her legs. At the same time, no one can classify this movement as any kind of sexual harassment. You can do this in public even with a stranger. It's not hard to find a reason. This can be done even with a handshake. Stroking her between your fingers does not need to be done harshly or roughly. Do it as if you were actually stroking between her legs. In combination with the influence of gaze and voice, touch will give a “fantastic effect.” Main impact. Bottom line. If you carried out the influence correctly, then subconsciously the woman already wants to obey you. She already perceives you as a desirable sexual partner. In some cases, only this will be enough for her to take all further development of the relationship into her own hands, and herself structure the situation so as to end up in the same bed with you. If you force a woman’s Subconscious to feel her Master in you, then she will give her Consciousness the attitude of n. performing actions to get closer to you. The woman herself will come up with a romantic image for you that will be attractive to her. She will see complete advantages in all your shortcomings. For example, if you are not very athletic, she will think that you are very sensitive and intelligent. If you are dressed sloppily, for her it will mean that you are an extraordinary person and are not inclined to follow the crowd's fashion. And she will like all this. The saying “Love is blind” very clearly reflects this state of the female psyche. The influence of gaze and voice, coupled with appropriate touches, are the main System. This is the foundation for all other techniques. If you are proficient in neuro-linguistic programming or any similar technique, then using the System as the core of influence, you will greatly increase the productivity of your influence. Immersion in trance. The concept of trance. In psychology there is such a concept as “trance”. Many people confuse it with hypnosis, and this may be somewhat justified. Let's talk a couple more minutes about theory. If everything is completely simplified and no special terms are used, then hypnosis is a state when a person’s brain seems to be asleep, but there remains one awake area in it, through which the hypnotist’s commands enter it. Since the sleeping brain cannot critically comprehend these commands, the hypnotized person carries them out, immediately forgetting about it. Moreover, it is virtually impossible to hypnotize a person without his conscious consent to this procedure. By analogy with this definition of hypnosis, trance is a state when a person’s brain is awake, but some part of it, so to speak, is hyper-awake. Commands (they can be called “suggestions”) enter the brain through this hyper-awake area. Moreover, all this happens without immersion in hypnotic sleep. And despite this, the commands go straight to the Subconscious. Our Consciousness, our critic and censor, is deceived. This is real hypnosis. Now do you understand why you need a trance? Trance is the state of your Object when you can control its Subconscious. The trance state is the door to the Subconscious. Immersion in trance. The concept of the meaning of a single rhythm. To put a woman into a trance and instill something in her, you must be able to enter into a single psychophysiological rhythm with her and learn to adapt. If you are in the same rhythm with her, she understands you better and more often agrees with you, even if you say very controversial things. This state evokes the sympathy and trust of her Subconscious, and it is this, as you already understand, that controls all mental processes. This especially applies to women, since their thinking, unlike men’s, is much more focused on feelings and emotions than on logic and intellect. In order to enter into a single rhythm with the Object, you need to adapt to it accordingly, that is, create continuous feedback with it, completely adapt your behavior to the behavior of the Object. Two people who are in the same psychophysiological rhythm with each other from the outside look like a mirror reflection. They have the same poses, gestures, facial expressions. The S'ni even breathe in the same rhythm and speak using the same phrases. Thus, at this moment, they are physically, intellectually and emotionally interdependent. Subconsciously they are attuned to each other. Immersion in trance. Adjustment. When starting to adjust, follow a certain sequence of actions. At first you may feel inconvenience, awkwardness, and some difficulties, but as you practice, your skills will become automated, and you will begin to use them easily, freely, naturally. Adjustment procedure: 1. Try to take the same poses as the Object is in. 2. Study the rhythm of his movements and gestures. Act in exactly the same rhythm, repeat the same movements and gestures. 3. Examine the Object’s speech characteristics: voice volume, tempo, intonation. Use the same in your speech: volume, tempo, intonation. Do not engage in obvious copying, otherwise it may backfire - the woman will think that you are imitating her, and you will lose contact with her. Stick to the spirit, not the letter. Seeing that she is sitting with her arms crossed on her chest, you do not have to make exactly the same gesture, you just need to connect your fingers. It is best to mirror small movements: hands, facial expressions, etc. Small movements are less conscious, and thus the Object will not notice your imitation. This principle will be very useful to you when you encounter difficulties associated with the difference in behavior between men and women. For example, there are postures and gestures that are typically masculine, and there are postures and gestures that are typically feminine. For example, if a woman plays with a strand of her hair, then it will be very difficult for you to copy her gesture due to the absence of this very strand as such. In this case, you should simply depict the direction of movement of her hand by rubbing, for example, your earlobe. It is especially convenient to select blinking from small movements for adjustment, since no one is aware of this. Blink at the same rate as your Subject, and then you can stop blinking so that the Subject stops blinking, or you can close your eyes so that the Subject does the same. Both contribute to entry! in trance As for speech, follow the same principles here too. Look for features and subtle nuances, but don't duplicate details. You can practice tuning anywhere and anytime: at lectures, meetings, in any company, even in front of the TV screen. You can try to tune in to the characters in a movie or TV show. We will define this tuning order as a first-order tuning order, since there are more subtle, and therefore more effective, connection methods. But first, master this method. Imagine it in the form of the following diagram: postures, gestures, speech. Immersion in trance. The concept of perception systems. Before mastering the following technical techniques of adjustment, you need to get acquainted with the tactfully important concept of a system of representations. If we ignore the abstruse theoretical definitions that are understandable only to specialists, then a system of representations is a person’s way of perceiving everything that happens around him, and in this There are no special differences between the sexes. In the scientific world, it is generally accepted that there are three systems of ideas, three ways of human perception of the surrounding world: visual (perception through the viewer’s ix images), auditory (perception through hearing and, accordingly, auditory ix in printing athletic), kinesthetic (perception through bodily sensations, such as touch, for example). Each individual, owning all three systems, prefers to use only one with maximum load. The system that is preferred can be called the main one. Immersion in trance. Definition of the main perceptual system. Determining the underlying representation system of an Object is very important for complete customization. At the same time, it is quite simple. For this, verbal access keys are used, that is, the words that he uses. Listen carefully to the woman! While tracking her speech, try to catch which nouns, verbs, and adjectives she uses most often. Study the summary table of word correspondences characteristic of each of the perception systems. If in the Object’s speech you hear these or similar words related to one of the groups, then you can confidently conclude that this Object has exactly this system. Table 1. Immersion in trance. Determination of the leading perceptual system. So, the main system of perception is the system whose means a certain person uses most often. In addition to the main one, there is a leading perception system. It reflects the activity of the brain at the moment, in the “here and now” situation. To determine it, a method is used that involves observing eye movements. You have probably noticed more than once that if you ask a person a question that requires thinking, then your interlocutor stops looking directly at you. He “withdraws into himself”, he either looks “through you” (defocused gaze), or looks up, as if trying to find the answer on the ceiling, or looks to the side, as if waiting for his ear to hear the desired answer, or looks down , on your own feet... Such “withdrawal” means that a person either remembers something or comes up with something. The direction of his gaze at this moment reliably shows which particular system of perception he is currently using.
To obtain certain practical skills in determining the leading perceptual system, you need to practice. Try asking a few backward-looking questions to people you know well. Do you remember the last time you were in the forest? Can you remember: your front door, your first teacher, your first kiss, your first salary or fee. At the same time, observe the eye movements of the interlocutor. If, before answering your question, he turns his gaze up or up and to the left, this means that he saw the inner picture. If you notice that his eyes are moving horizontally or to the lower left corner, then he first internally heard what was being said. If his gaze turned out to be slanted to the right and down, then he apparently tried to evoke a sensation in his memory. Remember that in this case the very first eye movement is important for you. This first movement may take literally a split second, but you should have time to notice it. If, for example, his eyes first darted slightly to the right horizontally, and then fixed in the upper right corner, then this means that first he heard and then saw. Accordingly, this means that in front of you is audio. Now, having information about perceptual systems as significant information channels, you can find out one of the reasons for such frequent ineffective communication. Often, during a conversation, people disrupt the psychophysiological rhythm by literally speaking different languages. This happens because they do not take into account each other’s individual belief systems. For example, a man belonging to a visual type suggests to a woman with a kinesthetic orientation: “Let's look at this issue. How do you see him? And thereby puts the latter in two peaks, since she prefers not to “see”

If you want to get the most out of every conversation, use her primary and leading belief system. In this case, it is better to ask: “How will you approach this issue?” In this case, you will receive such a flow of productive information that you yourself will be quite surprised. Immersion in trance. Second order adjustment. Now you have come to the second-order adjustment sequence, where you: 1. determine the main system of representations of the Object, 2. determine the leading system of the Object, 3. use words characteristic of its main representations, 4. repeat eye movements after it. Example: X - Object, Y - You (You are a visualist). X: I feel that our communication today will not be productive. (Eyes down to the right.) Y: Still, let's try to overcome some stiffness and approach the problem more freely. (Eyes down to the left - as if mirroring the movements of his eyes.) X: Do you think that one of us is squeezed? Y: In any case, nothing prevents us from seizing the extra opportunity to try. X: Well, let's try it. (Eyes down to the right.) Y: Let's go. (Eyes down to the left.) This example shows how, by using tuning - words that match the interlocutor's perceptual system and eye movements - you can adjust and correct a situation that started out as unfavorable. The same example, but without joining, may fail. Example: X - Object, Y - You (You are a visualist). X: I feel that today our communication will not be productive. (Eyes down to the right.) Y: I don't see any obstacles! (Eyes up to the right.) It seems to me that we could agree. X: I suppose it would not be very convenient to discuss this today. Y: But this is a very promising business. (Eyes up to the right.) X: I don’t know, I don’t know. (Eyes down to the right.) The difference between the first and second dialogue indicates a difference in results. To fully join, pay attention to the Object’s breathing - its rhythm, depth, frequency and try to breathe exactly the same way as he does. In this case, we should once again remember the psychophysiological difference between the sexes. In men, the abdominal type of breathing is predominantly found; we breathe from the stomach. But women, due to their physiological characteristics, breathe predominantly through the chest. Therefore, when trying to track the rhythm of a woman’s breathing, you should mostly observe the movement of her chest. And one more subtlety regarding adjusting to breathing. Let's say the woman you are influencing has very rapid breathing, or maybe she is an athlete with very rare breathing. You can't breathe like that, but you have at least two options for adjustment. Firstly, you can apply indirect adjustment, that is, speak at the same frequency with which she breathes, speak as she exhales. This is a very important point - a person always speaks while exhaling, and if you speak while the Object is exhaling, he will easily perceive this as an illusion of his inner speech, as his own thought. Secondly, if there is a very large difference in the rhythm and depth of breathing between you and the Object, you can track his breathing “every other time.” For example, when you breathe frequently, you copy the inhalation, skip the exhalation and the second inhalation. copy the second exhalation. Perhaps this is easier to understand through a metaphor: when you walk along frequently located sleepers, you do not step on each one - you step through one, but you still take into account the rhythm in their arrangement and adapt to it. Finally, thirdly, you can accompany the Object’s breathing rhythm with the help of gestures. For example, stroking your fingers on the table in rhythm with his breathing. Although usually these skills are redundant. Most people have approximately the same breathing rate. All of the above information regarding adjustment can be summarized in the following small adjustment algorithm. Full adjustment algorithm: 1. Poses. 2. Gestures. 3. Speech. 4. Basic system of representations. 5. Leading belief system. 6. Verbal access keys. ?. Eye movements. 8. Breathing. Immersion in trance. Determining the effectiveness of adjustment. Adjustment allows you to establish a single psychophysiological rhythm with the Object and thereby increase the effectiveness of contact. But not only. Thanks to the adjustment, you take a stronger and more advantageous position, which will give you the opportunity to completely control the situation. In this case, you are able to achieve from the Object the desired results and expected reactions that you could not even think about before. However, such an achievement works under one condition - full accession. Over time, along with the acquired skills, you will develop a psychological sense, and you will be able to grasp the subtle nuances in personality changes. But first, remember two signs that will help you quickly navigate a given situation. Attachment occurs if: 1. You change position, and the Object, involuntarily adapting to you, takes the same position, 2. The Object begins to imitate your same gestures and speech. If you are convinced that both of these signs are present, then know that the Subconscious of the Object is already tuned in to you. A woman changes her behavior depending on yours. You are leading her." Try to maintain this lead. And remember the rule: if a woman unconsciously imitates (“mirrors”) your postures, gestures, and speech patterns, then she unconsciously emphasizes her agreement with your behavior. And by agreeing with your behavior, she will always agree with your thoughts, words, suggestions and attitudes. Without realizing it, she is now ready to accept your attitudes without any criticism or resistance. That is, you can persuade her to do almost any action that you need. Her Subconscious is ready to accept your suggestions, ready to carry out your commands. It is at this moment that try to fulfill your intentions that may be associated with this person. Your task now is to carry out suggestion with an attitude of submission and sexual arousal. Immersion in trance. Sexy trans. You need to bring the Object to the realization of the desire: 1. to submit to you, 2. to have sex with you. To do this, you need, while continuing to use all the adjustment techniques, to describe to her the state into which you want to bring her. You must evoke bodily sensations in her. Even if she could object to you (and this is impossible, since you are already leading her), she will not be able to object to her body. If she feels something in her body, then for her it will be reality. And if she feels sexual desire... Note, there is already a double trap for her! Her subconscious is drawn to you, and now her body will also want sex with you. To make it clearer, think about how you feel when you hear the word “lemon”/ How do you feel when you hear the word “sour”/ Your mouth fills with saliva. This is a natural reaction of a healthy body to citric acid that gets into your mouth. It doesn’t matter to your body that this lemon and this acid are just words. The reaction to them is the most real, since the ion glands began their work. The same psychophysiological mechanisms force the female body to respond with sexual arousal to your words. And she will not be able to resist this, just as you will not be able to order your salivary glands to stop producing saliva. So, after you are convinced that you have connected and are leading a woman, you must, during the conversation, starting a little from afar, describe to her those physiological reactions that correspond to sexual arousal, and possibly those specific actions that would be desirable for you. The monologue could be, for example, the following: You: “By the way, did I tell you about my friend Pete? " She: Who is this?.. You: "Well, just interesting. You see, he had a girlfriend. And this friend noticed something unusual while she was listening to someone say something. Well, for example, she could be aware not of words, but of the sounds of a voice... and when she heard the sounds of a voice, she began to clearly hear other sounds and conversations in the room... she heard music... felt its rhythm and melody... and the more clearly she felt the melody of the music, sooner, she began to realize... how. her chest rises and falls while breathing... as if inhaling and exhaling, her head seems to nod slightly... nods in time with the voice she hears... she hears all the depth and shades of the voice... and begins to realize... all this... the feeling of the hand with which she is leaning on table... the feeling of touching the back of the chair... the feeling of her feet on the floor... she sees more and more clearly the outlines of the face of the person she is listening to... her attention suddenly narrows... she sees only some feature of his face... that part of the face to which her attention is caught ... she looks into his eyes and the longer she looks into them with anger, the clearer she feels that she is falling into them... immersed and dissolved in them... and in this man... and she is more and more interested in what he will say next ... she becomes completely filled with this perception of the person she listens to ... into whose eyes she looks ... and she allows herself to understand all this ... and she feels in herself some kind of deep, sensual understanding with this person ... she feels a desire in herself to obey this person... and this desire is growing every second... she wants to fulfill all his desires... wants to give him joy... joy and pleasure... she feels his touch... soft touches on her face... (extend your hand and gently touch her with the back of your hand cheek, or pass between her fingers), and when she feels this touch... her eyes close with pleasure... her breathing becomes slow and deep... her heart beats in time with his voice... her heart fills with warmth... and it begins to radiate warmth... which spreads throughout her chest... then lower and warmth fills her stomach... even lower in the very bottom of her stomach... between her legs... and she feels the lower abdomen becoming warm and wet... she feels the pulsation in the lower abdomen... a pleasant pulsation... a very pleasant pulsation... the emptiness is filled with a pleasant warmth... the sensations in the lower abdomen become stronger... and she feels it all... exciting touches on her thighs... (you can carefully run your fingertips along the woman’s thigh) his exciting touches in the lower abdomen... she understands that she must completely open up to this person... give herself to him... give yourself all... when he wants her... Now..." It doesn’t matter what exactly you talk about. You have complete freedom in choosing a topic to evoke the state you want in her. After the usual small talk, you can begin to be interested in her experiences, feelings, memories. You can begin your attack softly and elegantly by asking her an innocent question: “Have you ever had...”, and then continue the topic depending on the direction in which you feel it needs to be moved. You can start talking to her about the beach, about the first kiss, about how breathtaking it is when you swing on a swing, about the pleasant sensations while relaxing, about the excitement of meeting the unknown, etc., etc. In front of you Any opportunities for creative discoveries are open. For example, you can ask her to remember something from her experiences on the swing: “Have you ever had the feeling that you close your eyes and are transported somewhere where you would really like to be. For example, on a chilly autumn evening, it’s so nice to find yourself swinging on a swing on a bright summer day... you can hear the creaking of this swing... and the whistle of the wind in your ears... and you feel this wind on your face as you rush forward... and feel the touch of warm, sunny rays. to your face... (a convenient moment to touch her face, or stroke her between your fingers. She is already in a trance, because when you transferred her to another reality, she plunged into her sensations, which became for her the reality that she cannot resist ) and you feel in complete power of the one who rocks the swing... you feel his closeness... and your breath freezes to the beat of his desires... and every time when you rush down at his will, you feel pleasant sensations in the lower abdomen... and you want him to swing you are stronger and stronger... and you know that then it will be even more pleasant for you... you want to completely surrender into his hands... you want to obey him and enjoy it... you want it right here and right now...” From this point, continue conduct it in the same way as in the already described version. A strong finish is important for this to actually work. Note that such monologues perform two sequential functions: The first part of the monologue immerses the Object in some other reality. Makes you remember or imagine something. The Object's consciousness goes inward, into its memories or ideas. The object seems to switch off from what is happening around and enters a trance. You will notice this by the following signs: Pupil dilation, Gaze fixation, Posture stillness, Muscle relaxation, Slowing of breathing, Decrease in pulse rate and heart rate, Relaxation of facial muscles (face smoothes out, especially cheeks, forehead, lips), Decreased response to external noises , Manifestation of spontaneous motor reactions (trembling of hands, trembling of eyelids, etc. ) The manifestation of at least part of these signs means that the door to the Subconscious of the Object is open, and you can make a suggestion containing the commands you need. Your description puts her in the state you describe (because there is no difference between real actions and a masterful verbal description). Suggestion in a state of trance, combined with the influence of gaze and voice, bypasses any conscious resistance of a woman to submit to you and have sex. It doesn't matter what her possible conscious resistance is based on. Maybe you are not her type of man, or she is already in a close relationship with another person. Maybe she is afraid to pass for an easily accessible woman if she agrees to sleep with you too quickly. Maybe she recently suffered because of a relationship with some guy and is afraid of experiencing pain again. It doesn't matter why she resists, because at that moment you bypass any objections from her Consciousness and turn directly to the Subconscious But, in order to learn how to induce similar states in others, you can first try to induce some of them in myself. You will then be able to use your own feelings as a guide to induce the desired state. That is, in other words, the System requires that you, first of all, be aware of the entire spectrum of emotional and sensory states. Write down on a piece of paper all the words you know that describe various experiences, sensations, states and make up several sentences using these words. Just your ability to describe pleasant erotic experiences, the sensations of gentle touches will make many women surrender to you. To arouse this desire in a woman, she must first be brought into a state suitable for this. This will happen if you correctly describe to her her own feelings. At the same time, do not forget to include an attitude of subordination in the text of the suggestion. An equally important point is touching a woman, which must be done close to the peak of the description. This point requires a separate discussion, and will be discussed below. Be sure that the correct use of the System - influence with your gaze, voice, adjustment, introduction into a trance and suggestion - will lead to the fact that you will subjugate this woman and have sex with her. If at the moment of suggestion you are in a suitable environment, if you are at least alone with each other, then most likely she will rush at you. If not, then later, under more appropriate circumstances, in the evening or at night, repeat the same touches that you made when telling the story. And don’t be confused when you see how excited she suddenly is. You will see this in the blush on your face, the sparkle in your eyes and your breathing quickening. All. She is yours. She sees in you a strong male, whom she is ready to obey unquestioningly, whom she completely subconsciously trusts. She wants you. It flows when it simply looks into your eyes and hears your voice. She is ready to do anything for you. If you want, she will give you not only her body, but also money from her wallet. She is excited and wants to have sex with you right here and right now. If she is not yet pulling you towards herself, then this means that the last thing that is stopping her is cultural attitudes. Maybe her grandmother told her all her life that a girl should never start first. (Or that you can’t have sex at a table in a crowded cafe.) Which means the last barrier you need to overcome is her cultural attitudes. Take the first step. Now you are the boss here. You can do whatever you want. Just take her hand if you haven't already. Pull him towards you and kiss him. Let the first kiss be on the cheek. It should be very light, almost a smear. If you did everything correctly, she will not move away, on the contrary. Next kiss on the lips. You will find a description of what you should do next in numerous manuals on the art of love. My only advice: don't linger on kisses on the lips. Of course, you can’t do without this, they are pleasant and necessary. But too long kisses on the lips reek of romance and school age. It also talks about the subordination of women. Go down to her neck. Kiss her neck and start caressing her breasts... Dive into a trance. Hypnotic speech. A few very important notes regarding your speech. First: Don't forget that you must use words that match the Object's perceptual system. The importance of this point has already been discussed above. If you are not sure that you have accurately identified the Object’s perception system, then use words that do not relate to any of them. Some of these neutral words are shown in Table 1. They are very convenient precisely because of their versatility. Look for such words and such descriptions, use them - they necessarily correspond to the Object’s perception system. Agree, your peace and his peace are different concepts, but say the word “rest”. You still said something that the Object can understand and accept. When inducing a trance, do not force the Object to be more flexible in communication than you yourself, do not force him to adapt to you. Secondly: When you describe an experience when inducing or using a trance, talk about this experience (especially at the beginning) in fairly general phrases. Thus, you leave free space for the Object, which it can fill with specific details. For example, when inducing a trance, you can make the following description: “You feel the warmth of your right hand lying on the table.” This works all the time, this can ninety-nine percent coincide with the actual experience of the Object, but what will you do if he feels the coldness of his right hand? To begin with, it would still be better to say: “You feel the temperature of your right hand.” "Temperature" is a more general word, a more general characteristic than heat. There is still some temperature in the hand. Or you can do without mentioning this characteristic altogether and say: “You feel your right hand lying on the table.” Third: When you make a suggestion, you should speak as smoothly as possible. No hesitation or sudden jolts. Let your words flow freely and softly. A similar effect is achieved through the use of transition words: “if”, “when”, “if... then”, “and”, etc. Use conjunctions and allied words. They will give your speech a touch of roundness and flexibility, which will quickly allow the Object to enter the state of greatest receptivity to your influence. This fact is explained by the fact that when you do not make sharp pauses between sentences, the Object Consciousness does not have time to control your information and reduces its critical functions. Thus, your speech itself will have a hypnotic effect. For greater clarity, we can give an example from psychotherapeutic practice. During a hypnosis session, the doctor can use the following suggestion formulas: “You are sitting in a chair. You are looking at me. Listen carefully to my voice. Only my voice. It has a calming effect on you. You relax. You are relaxed. You feel drowsy." These formulas work in some cases, but another text is much more effective, which works flawlessly and causes a positive result regardless of any personal characteristics of the patient: “You are sitting in a chair, and you hear me, and you look at me, and you you can feel yourself starting to relax..." Fourthly: and from the beginning, read all the negatives from your speech. Negations have an interesting property - they exist in language, but not in the Subconscious. Therefore, tell the Object what you want from it, and not what it should not do. If you tell a child: “You’re so noisy today, don’t make noise,” he won’t calm down. On the contrary, it will begin to make even more noise. This is a fairly general rule: if you describe to a person what you are observing in him now, it will be reinforced. When a child is told: “You are a bully, you are a rude person,” then they are thereby reinforcing exactly those qualities that they would like to get rid of. In this context, we can draw analogies with what you do when you describe the states you need to an object. You attach them to the object by describing these states in an affirmative meaning.

Despite the fact that every person, and especially a man, is unique and unique, in some cases, for the successful development of relationships, it is necessary to suppress his own “I”. Of course, you initially choose the young man who suits you, along with all the advantages and disadvantages. Meanwhile, as we know, during the period of falling in love, we simply do not notice many of the disadvantages of our partner, and after a certain time, it is these character traits that do not allow us to live in peace and build a happy and strong family. If you want to eradicate the shortcomings of your spouse, you need to subjugate him and do it in such a way that he does not suspect anything. Submission and control of a representative of the opposite sex is a complex branch of psychology, and it will take a lot of time to master it. In this article, we offer you some simple tips and recommendations from professional psychologists, with the help of which you can figure out how to subjugate a man and what to do so that in the future you can control him.

Useful psychological techniques on how to subjugate a man

To manipulate and control a person of any gender, you need to know personal characteristics and individual character traits. Understanding what and how can specifically influence your young man will allow you to persuade a man to do any action that is completely uninteresting to him. Using certain tactics, you must put some truths into your partner’s head that will automatically make him obey you. There are several simple and, at the same time, effective methods of manipulation, which almost always work flawlessly if used correctly:

• first of all, you must show your spouse or boyfriend: no matter what happens, he is a leader for you. Here you can use any feminine tricks, with the help of which a representative of the stronger sex will always feel that he is braver, bolder and more decisive. You should not be shy about showing weakness, especially in small things. So, even if you ask your partner to open the lid on the jar, this will demonstrate that you need help and support. Proper use of this feminine trick will not only allow you to successfully manipulate your spouse, but will also help him gain self-confidence and determination. Often young men whose wives behave this way at home begin to interact with colleagues in a completely different way and receive a long-awaited promotion up the career ladder;
• Despite the name of our topic, always remember: it is absolutely forbidden to force your spouse to do something that is not to your liking. This way you will only discourage the young man from wanting to be in a relationship with you and, perhaps, provoke a breakup. If you want to encourage your partner to do a certain action, act on the sly, with cunning, so that he does not notice anything. If possible, in some situations it may be necessary to agree with your loved one and abandon what you have planned, so that in the future he will feel awkward and agree to absolutely everything that you offer him;
• you should become for your soul mate not only a wife or girlfriend, but also a best friend. Share his interests, go to football or watch TV, go for a walk around the city, even if you are not in the mood, but your man wants it. Keep conversations about fishing, hunting and other purely male hobbies. With the right tactics on the part of the fair sex, men completely forget about all their friends and prefer to spend all their free time with their family, since that is where they love him and always support him;
• hold back your emotions. Always. It will be a little difficult for you at first, but over time you will definitely get used to this behavior. In the presence of a man, you should not cry or scream, because in such situations, representatives of the stronger sex simply get lost, become weak and defenseless. They don’t know how to behave and how to react to manifestations of women’s emotions, so they begin to behave inappropriately. It is a rare man who makes concessions to his wife after she has cried. In most cases, young people, on the contrary, distance themselves from their beloved and withdraw into themselves, and some simply push away the girl who is crying and return to dialogue only after she calms down. Also, don’t get too carried away with expressing joy and other positive emotions, especially if you do it insincerely.

How to subjugate a man spoiled by his parents?

Spoiled men, or “mama’s boys,” are a special category of citizens who believe that in family relationships it is enough for them to lie on the couch and only occasionally perform men’s duties, but women need to please their beloved in everything. It will be very difficult for such a young man to find a girl who would share this point of view on the topic of family life. All representatives of the stronger sex, who were loved too much by their parents and raised incorrectly from childhood, are manipulators. After some time of living together, such a man will definitely try to subjugate you, and if you do not immediately give a tough rebuff, this will be much more difficult to do in the future. However, each of us can unexpectedly fall in love with any man, and when meeting the next gentleman, there is every chance of not understanding what exactly this person is like. In a few days, weeks or months, you will no longer be able to refuse the one you like so much, but you also won’t want to exist with him on such conditions. In such a situation, something will have to be changed immediately. The following advice from professional psychologists will tell you how you can subjugate a manipulative man and prevent him from controlling you:

• periodically, but not too often, remind your partner of certain moments from your common life for which he may be ashamed. Perhaps, somewhere in a drunken state, he hit on another girl when you were already dating, or wasted a large amount of money on a bet in a casino. Remorse forces such men to do what they don’t want, even if they grind their teeth;
• compare him with your mutual friends, and in different situations the comparisons can be both in favor of your chosen one and in favor of other young people;
• For some representatives of this type, women's tears have a stimulating effect. However, this tactic can only be used very rarely. Otherwise, you risk achieving the opposite effect;
• manipulate through intimate relationships. Again, this method should only be used as a last resort and no more than once a year;
• Another time-tested way is to make a man promise or even swear something. After a while, you can remind your chosen one that he promised to do a certain thing, and feel free to demand that he fulfill his promises.

In all other respects, a manipulator should be directed in the right direction in the same way as other representatives of the stronger sex. Do not forget that all of the above methods work exclusively in combination with positive aspects, that is, like “carrot and stick”. Having scolded your spouse once, be prepared to have to praise him and encourage him in every possible way for several days. Only with the help of such tactics will you be able to achieve effective control over a man and subjugate him to yourself. I liked it
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Choose a victim

Stay away from those who are constantly trying to please you. They clearly have their own goals, and it is not at all necessary that their goals and yours coincide. On the contrary, pay attention to people who behave awkwardly in your presence and are embarrassed by you. Such influences will respond much better. You need to understand that influence spreads like a virus. Subjugate those who are weaker, and then gradually reach the strong ones. You don't have to do everything yourself.

For example, if you want to influence your boss's decisions, this does not mean that the only or most effective way is to talk to him directly.

Often things work out much better if someone else does it for you. Get yourself such people.

Make the victim feel safe

The people you are trying to subjugate to your will must feel protected and completely safe with you. The most effective way to do this is to make them think you are close. Tell them some secret about yourself.

Let it seem to them that you have opened up in front of them and trust them so much that you are not afraid to appear weak.

A secret doesn't have to be true. But whatever it is, you must definitely foresee the possibility that your secret will not remain a secret and someone else will find out about it.

That is, on the one hand, it must be something very personal. And on the other hand, something that will not damage your reputation, and preferably vice versa - if everyone knows, they will think even better about you.

Send double signals

You must behave in such a way that people do not know your true position on any issue. If you call two of your colleagues and ask them what you think about a new deal, they should confidently say the exact opposite.

You need the ability to change your point of view at a convenient moment - and for this, no one should know what you really think.

Keep in mind that this game is only suitable for very advanced players - it's easy for a beginner to get confused, so be careful.

Make everyone want to be your friend

You must become the person who doesn’t go to anyone and doesn’t start a conversation first unless absolutely necessary.

But everyone around him seems very interesting and mysterious, and everyone wants to be friends with him. Moreover, many even believe that they are friends with him (but, of course, it only seems so to them).

If you succeed, the job is done. Now any word you say will be valued twice as much. Your opinion will be decisive in the group, and it is your ideas that will be recognized as the most successful.

Pay attention to the little things

In a good way, people who know how to manipulate and those who don’t are distinguished by exactly one thing - the ability to pay attention to little things.

How many spoons of sugar does your colleague like to put in his coffee? At what time of day does the boss have the impulse to work? You must understand that there are no details about colleagues and superiors that are unimportant.

Maybe there are words that irritate them or, on the contrary, turn them on? Study the people you want to manipulate, otherwise nothing will work.

Don't forget to get lost

Let's say you are conducting business negotiations and have already reached an agreement that completely suits you. Your partner is also terribly pleased and is sure that he has finally finished off you and will now get what he wants. At this moment, you must definitely - albeit for a short time - turn in the opposite direction.

It is very important that the person you are trying to manipulate has the feeling, at least for a minute, that he is about to let you go.

Nothing makes you and your offerings more desirable than the thought of being lost. Your partner will quickly fall for the trick and, perhaps out of fear, will offer you even better conditions.

And even if this does not happen, in the future he will treat a contract with you with caution if he knows that you are not in despair and can easily do without it. Let him be afraid of losing you.

Every girl has dreamed at least once subjugate a man . Subjugating a man is not as easy as it seems at first glance. Of course, everyone will be flattered by the fact of a reliable lover who does everything you want.

A woman subjugating a man must have the qualities of assertiveness, self-confidence, rational mind. These qualities will certainly help you achieve your desired goal. The one who will not keep the bar will not be able to get results, confusedly taking timid steps in the process of managing the young man.

It is necessary to understand the essence of the male gender in order to identify, analyze and use data to your advantage.

Method 1.Feeling of leadership in the family

Provide the main role in solving family problems. When a man feels that he is in charge, you will be able to control his actions, directing him in the right direction.

Due to his pride, he will not notice your requests much, because he needs to do this, since he is the head of the family, which means it cannot be otherwise. By manipulating feelings, you will get what you expected.

Method 2Share your partner's hobbies

Men pay great attention to their hobbies. Many people like football, hiking, hunting, and other entertaining games. A woman should be interested and take part with him. This will promote rapprochement and gain trust.

Method 3Keep your emotions to yourself

Many people do not like the emotions shown by the female gender. They confuse, bring fatigue, and irritation. Especially if this happens constantly on your part.

You need to control yourself, only in the most extreme cases show negative emotions. After all, they are not so emotional, it is difficult for them to understand the essence of our disorders over trifles. You can also talk it out to your girlfriend, who will understand anyway.

Only someone who is strong, emotionally balanced, knowledgeable and understands the meaning of the moments of manifestation of the outburst of their emotions is ready to subjugate.

Method 4Make yourself ideal

It is easier to manipulate when a person receives something in return. The ideal image of what a girl, a woman should be, becomes a colossal method of subjugation.

Method 5Fall in love until unconsciousness

The simplest way to manipulate is love until unconsciousness. Of course, feelings cannot be used for personal gain, but sometimes this is the only way to subjugate a man.

Make him fall in love with your behavior, smile, manner of speaking, laughing. So that he cannot live a day without you. It is quite pleasant to control a man, making him and yourself happy.

The main thing is to become an indispensable person for him, without which life seems dull and uncheerful. When subjugating, try not to become bitchy, since you cannot get along with a difficult character.

Your character should be dominated by rational grain"A wise, understanding woman. One that can take over the mind, without direct hints, in indirect ways.

Namely, these indirect paths are spelled out in the five methods given above. Use them wisely to achieve your goals, based on common sense. After all, only common sense will help not to cross the line of subordination and the usual use of men for their own selfish purposes.

On the way to yourself as a psychic, empath, simply to yourself as a happy and calm, conscious person, there are always obstacles, and one of the most significant is this human mind. Taking the path of self-development, everyone sooner or later comes face to face with their mind. And the question arises - who am I, and who is the mind, and am I the mind or the processes occurring in it, or something else? And if I am not the mind, then who am I, and how many of us are there in this body? Who am I, and who is the mind, and who or what is the Soul, if it also exists? Many questions arise on the path to self-knowledge and almost nowhere there are clear answers to these questions. What can I do, because everyone wants to know who I am and for what purpose I am here, in this body, in this world. And at such moments it is important to understand who is the enemy, who is the friend, and who is in this body and why.

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Observer.

It's probably worth starting with him. Observer - this term is often
used in various exercises and techniques. I also can’t do without it; without mentioning it, it will be difficult for the observer to understand what and how.

The observer is the point of perception, we cannot see it, we can only realize that it exists. Or rather, the observer is me. This is the entry point for information. It can be compared with eyes: we realize that they exist, we know where they are, but we cannot see the very entry point, the pupils themselves, without extraneous devices. The situation is similar with the observer. He is and everything, the observer is aware in the center of the head, when a person begins to study himself, observe everything that happens to him, sooner or later he will think about where everything flows and where this place is. There are many things in a person, the perception of the external and internal world occurs with different tools, and they are realized in different ways, but more about them next time. Now we are talking about the observer.

How to meet an observer?

First you need to play it, and for this you need to somehow designate it. I created for myself the image of a little man living in my head, so at least there is an opportunity to observe and control him, because we can also control our eyes, look to the right, to the left. To make it even more interesting, imagine that you are looking at the world not with your eyes, but through your eyes, looking as an observer from your head. Your observer is small, about 2 centimeters tall, looking from the inside, through the eye sockets in the skull, this is for him like the windows for us in the apartment. Play this game, look out of your head, look at the world from there, and not as usual. Usually we are aware of the entry point of visual information as the surface of the eye, just try to realize where the entry point of visual information is, and then look from your head, and you will notice that it is possible. Of course, the perception will be different, but the question is the point of perception, and not the similarity of the picture; it is enough to simply realize it. If anyone is interested, you can experiment with an observer. For example, you can play “listen not with your ears, but through your ears”, the principle is the same as with the eyes. You can raise this observer above your head and try to look at the world from a point above your head, interesting sensations. As an observer, you can descend to any chakra and look at the world from this chakra, believe me, the perception of the world changes. You can wander through the rooms of your apartment as an observer, try it and you will understand that it is possible.

Soul.

Mind.

Well, we’ve reached the hero of the occasion. This entire article was written for him. What kind of beast is this mind, and what is it doing in our heads? There is a lot of different information about the mind, it was studied from all sides from different points of view, it was cut into pieces, examined with different devices, and various kinds of readings were taken. Whoever has tried to look into the human mind, both scientists and psychics. But in the context of this topic, of course, the mind is easiest to compare with a computer; they are actually very similar in principle of operation. We understand the whole world with our mind, it’s like the operating system in a computer, it exists and it is the basis for the perception and awareness of ourselves as a person. In parallel, we can be aware of several more streams, for example, we can see and realize in our mind the stream of logical thinking (the verbal form of information processing). This process is visible on a subtle level as increased activity of the area fields of consciousness of the mind. Another direction that can be realized is when the observer looks with the help of a ray of attention to some sensory-emotional state. We also see - we are aware of the process of observing any presented picture, listening to music, in general, all processes of perception and their processing by the mind can be seen by the field of consciousness of the mind, sometimes this is called attention, in my opinion this is not entirely accurate, so I describe them as different structures. The field of consciousness of the mind and the mental ray of attention.

Here is another quote from the article that also applies to a restless mind.

Resentment is a negative assessment of something, an action, words, behavior, situation. You will say that negativity does not always include resentment in me, very often anger and rage are included. First, resentment always turns on, and then anger or anger turns on; this can be called a law or a rule. This sequence is inevitable, it’s just that the resentment can last for some time and a person is able to track it, but it happens that the resentment flies by in a bright flash in a split second, and immediately after it anger turns on. In such moments, the offense is usually not noticed.

• Resentment is a negative assessment.
• Resentment is a discrepancy between what is desired and reality.
• Resentment is not acceptance of what is.
• Resentment is opposing oneself to reality.

These articles, and many others, touch on the moments through which, thanks to our mind, we get stuck in negative experiences, dreams, comparisons and evaluations. We lose touch with reality, we become stuck in our unhappiness, self-pity, resentment, and anger. At such moments we seem to become blind.....and unhappy. Even if there is no sticking, but we are somewhere flying uncontrollably in the clouds, this is the same escape from reality, from life. What can you do in such moments to protect yourself? Below I will give several techniques and exercises that helped me break out of this vicious circle. Now my mind only works when it has permission to do so. Although there are still moments when it explodes and becomes, as before, uncontrollable, almost uncontrollable. But this happens 2-3 times a year, rather than having fun at your own discretion all the time. It is at these moments that it becomes clear how people live, whose mind has undivided power over a person.

By an effort of will, switch attention to the world around you.

One of the simple and effective techniques for turning off the mind, or rather tearing it away from thinking on a certain topic - sticking - is leaving the moment Here and now. In other words, when you catch yourself in the fact that your mind is thinking something, rolling around some thought or state over and over again, you just need to turn your attention to what is around you. Pay attention to some object, tree, building, anything, even just feel the warmth or coolness of the air, its flow, its smell. You need to direct your attention to the object and study in detail its color, shape, structure, possibly taste and smell. It doesn’t matter whether the subject is familiar to you or not, your task is to keep your attention on something else, and not on the thoughts with which your mind was busy, to switch your attention.